Saturday, June 16, 2007
So, I finally got around to catching up on all my reflections. Sorry for the delays (who am I apologising to? Myself, I guess.)
Thought from May 24:
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.
- Aesop, Greek author of fables
Doing nice things for other people is a great thing to do. I try to do at least one nice thing everyday. Even if it’s something as small as smiling at a stranger on the bus or holding a door for someone, I like to do something nice. The feeling that I get from helping others makes me feel so good that it’s like a natural happy drug.
Thought from May 25:
The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.
- George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Making my own circumstances sounds like a good idea now. Finding a way to make it in the world, getting a job that makes decent money that allows me to move out, live the life that I want. For me, the trouble is finding a way to make my own circumstances…
Thought from May 26:
He who cures a disease may be the skillfullest, but he that prevents it is the safest physician.
- Thomas Fuller, British clergyman and author
Going to a doctor when we’re sick is a necessity that we all need to do, but I try to avoid going to the doctor’s office… not that I don’t like doctors, it’s just that I’m paying better attention to my health on my own: watching what I eat, how I dress for the weather, etc. I’m also supplementing my diet with vitamins to help round out my diet and improve my health. So far it’s working fairly well.
Thought from May 27:
Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us everyday.
- Sally Koch
One can impact more lives than they ever really know, and I really discovered that today at my elementary school’s 50th anniversary/reunion – people that I went to school with, not in my grade, but in others – remembered me, and so did teachers that I wouldn’t think would remember me… Even though I was a wallflower and not really a standout student in the past, people recognized me. How much more of an impact can I make on people whom I actually help? Kinda makes ya think…
Thought from May 28:
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.
- James Oppenheim, short-story writer, novelist, poet
This really reminds me of what Mazur157 and I discussed about The Alchemist - what I took away from The Alchemist the most was, in fact, that moral. I was engaged at the time and my fiancé and I were having problems. I had started to stray a little bit and after reading The Alchemist it helped to realise that to follow my dream it would take a while, with ups and downs, but I really didn't have to look that far, I already had found my happiness.
Thought from May 29:
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles.... it empties today of its strength.
- Aunt Linda, as quoted by Jennifer Cribbs, SparkPeople community member
Worrying is such a sapping thing. I’ve really tried to reduce the amount that I worry needlessly, or on unimportant things… When I worry about useless things I feel so tired and listless most the time, I guess because the worrying has sapped all energy from me. Now I try to only worry about the big things, things that are really important, not the little things. I’m no longer “sweating the small stuff.”
Thought from May 30:
It is better to live one day as a lion, than a thousand days as a lamb.
- Roman proverb
I guess what this proverb is saying is that it’s better to spend one day being powerful and doing something that to spend your whole life as a meek no-action person. I don’t know if I’ve had my day as a lion yet. Maybe I have, especially in regards to my weight loss and exercise plan. I took charge of something that I had lost control of, and did it with wonderful results so far!
Thought from May 31:
You cannot hope to build a better world without improving individuals.
- Marie Curie, Nobel winning chemist
Improving yourself and how you behave helps how the world works – if I become a better person, I can do good things. People will see my good actions and follow them as inspiration. One good turn deserves another…
Thought from June 1:
All problems become smaller if you don't dodge them, but confront them. Touch a thistle timidly, and it pricks you; grasp it boldly and its spines crumble.
- William S. Halsey, WWII U.S. Admiral
Facing your fears is hard. I’ve worked on facing my body image issues – not totally the same as fears, but just as difficult to deal with. Facing problems head on is good advice – if you skirt around an issue it will get worse, much worse, before it gets better. The key to dealing with troubles is to take them face on and deal with things like a grown up…
Thought from June 2:
The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.
- Malcolm X, American spokesman for the Nation of Islam
Preparing for the future today is hard, but something that needs to be done. I’ve started to prepare for my future by taking charge of my eating and exercise habits – setting myself good habits now so that when I have a family they will have good habits to follow, too.
Thought from June 3:
Conscience is the inner voice that warns us that someone might be looking.
- HL Mencken, author, critic and newspaperman
Jiminy Cricket was right: “Always let your conscience be your guide.” When the inner voice tells us that someone might be looking, it’s really that we are looking at ourselves and our own work. In our daily battle with good eating habits and the like we should always remember our consciences; we should be more vigilant, many of us should, at least.
Thought from June 4:
It is a common experience that a problem difficult at night is resolved in the morning after the committee of sleep has worked on it.
- John Steinbeck, author
Sleeping on a decision is always a good idea, as many times the mind is befuddled in the evening, but after a night’s sleep – perhaps a night of dreaming – things are clearer and often make so much more sense after a good night’s sleep.
Thought from June 5:
A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse.
- Stephen Dolley Jr.
When you think of your goals, do you focus on the positives of making it happen, or the negatives of potential barriers? To reach your goals, you gotta really want them. More importantly, you gotta really believe that you can do it. Think more about why you CAN make it happen instead of why you can't. No more excuses. I need to really take this advice. Stop complaining about my career, or my weight, and get off my butt and do something about it.
Thought from June 6:
To be nobody but yourself--in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else-- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.
- EE Cummings, poet
Being yourself is hard, especially when nowadays there is such pressure to conform, to be a part of the big machine that is the world. I’ve always strived to be myself and dress and act my own way so that I can be proud of my individuality and know that I have done things on my own and for myself, not because of a magazine or a pop star, or anything like that.
Thought from June 7:
When things go wrong don't go with them.
- Elvis Presley, rock idol
When things go wrong, we need to find a way to get out of the vicious cycle of negativity – looking for the bright side of life or finding solutions to problems.
Thought from June 8:
Kindness is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back.
- Church billboard in Louisiana
When you do good for someone, something good will happen to you. It may not be what you expect or when you expect it, but good will come back to you.
Thought from June 9:
Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else.
- Eleanor Roosevelt, human rights activist
Being friends with yourself is hard to do. You have to look at yourself in a different light – see yourself as others see you. Discover your good and bad qualities – what really makes you a friend. Once you understand yourself and can be your own friend you can be friends with others.
Thought from June 10:
The value of marriage is not that adults produce children but that children produce adults.
- Peter de Vries, novelist and editor
Children can help define parents as people… you change your life when you have children. You change what you do, who you spend time with, how you behave, etc. when you have kids. I can’t wait till I have kids so that I can discover the type of parent and type of person that I’ll become. I hope that I’m a good person.
Thought from June 11:
If I have seen farther than other men it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.
- Isaac Newton, physicist
Due to the wonderful people who have come before me I have been able to achieve what I have done. Thanks to the support of my parents, my husband and my friends, I have been able to complete school, deal with my parents’ divorce, plan my wedding and successfully enjoy married life. To all the giants whose shoulders I’ve stood on, I thank you!
Thought from June 12:
No change of circumstances can repair a defect of character.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson, writer
We all know people who just like to complain. It seems that no matter how good they have it, they're always spreading negative energy. Even the best, most painstaking listener can have trouble with someone who finds fault with everything around them. If someone’s a bitch, no amount of my optimism and support can change a personality flaw like that. I think that individually, one can work to change character flaws, but simply changing one’s circumstances cannot correct a personality defect.
Thought from June 13:
People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing--that's why we recommend it daily.
- Zig Ziglar, motivational speaker
We must motivate ourselves daily in order to succeed in life. As MoMarissa said one day: “Every day when you wake up, you need to reaffirm yourself, say that you are good, beautiful, able to achieve, so on and so forth, otherwise you will fail” especially if instead of affirm yourself you spend time tearing yourself down – insulting yourself or putting yourself down. We must build ourselves up so that we can achieve success.
Thought from June 14:
A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book.
- Irish Proverb
This is the best advice I’ve seen in a long time. I think I’m going to follow it tomorrow. I’ve been feeling really run down for the last week or so, and I really want that to change. I think that tomorrow after church I will have a nap and then watch a funny movie – I won’t worry about any chores or things of that ilk. I’m just going to spend time relaxing and enjoying myself.
Thought from June 15:
Shut out all of your past except that which will help you weather your tomorrows.
- William Osler, Canadian physician
Forgetting the negative things from my past is definitely something that I need to do. Why do I still stress about things that happened in the past? If I can’t learn from it, what’s the point of remembering it? Yesterday’s history, tomorrow’s a mystery; today’s a gift (that’s why it’s called the present).
Thought from June 16:
Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.
- Ovid, Roman poet
(See comments for June 14’s thought) Rest is something that I’ve always underrated. I think that I need to change that perception, and perhaps my health and mental wellness will improve.
So that’s my crappy catch-up with all the thoughts that I’ve been emailed lately. I hope that anyone who reads this can either relate to or be inspired by my reflection upon these thoughts…