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What Causes You To Be Fearful???

Saturday, August 23, 2014

My DH left almost two hours ago to fly out to Oregon for a Brother's Fishing Trip. He will be gone for about 9 days. The "OLD ME," would have been looking forward to this "My Own Time" and would have been flying around diving into several plans/projects, at once. I actually CRIED when he drove out of the driveway and have shed tears several times since. I think that I know what is causing this, BUT I don't know what to do about it, and NEED your advice.

When my health is good, I am practically invinceable and very independent. For the past 4 months, my left hip has been painful and I have also had very definite twinges of VERTIGO. Both have slowed me down and prevented me from being my USUAL independent self. We live in the country, which means that I have to DRIVE in order to get ANYWHERE. With the VERTIGO hovering, I am somewhat reluctant to travel too far from home for fear of being a hazard on the highway. This is NOT me!!!!! I am NOT a fearful person.

What causes you to be FEARFUL and what do you do about it?
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  • v PATTISTAMPS
    Sending prayers for you my friend. It is hard to be alone when you don't feel "right". But God is with you always...


    672 days ago
  • v ARTJAC
    i would just relax and take it easy if i had vertigo again emoticon emoticon
    674 days ago
  • v MISSDAISY23
    Hi Patti, emoticon
    I could not have said it better than Nancy Jean. Believe in the Lord and He will give you the wisdom to overcome every situation in life!
    Take care & have another blessed day!
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    Daisy

    674 days ago
  • v COLOR-BLUE
    Patti,

    I understand your reluctance to drive, as I haven't been driving in 4 months, as I started having a delayed reaction, when I would tell my body to do something. I knew I shouldn't be driving with that happening. I never know when it's going to happen, so I have a friend the comes over and takes me places, when I need to go. She parks her car and we throw my wheelchair in the back of mine and drive off. In fact, she came and picked me up at 6 AM and we didn't get home until11:30 AM. We had a GRAND TIME shopping at Wal-Mart and Kroger.

    I used to be very fearful of EVERYTHING, but when I started digging into the WORD, I came across a scripture that told me that God didn't give me a spirit of fear! Then I heard a song based on that scripture, which goes like this...

    God has not given me a spirit of fear
    God has not given me a spirit of fear
    He has given unto me, a spirit of power, a spirit of love, and a sound mind

    So wait on the Lord and be of good cheer
    Wait on the Lord and be of good cheer
    For He has given unto me, a spirit of power a spirit of love, and a sound mind

    When I really took that to heart and started TRUSTING HIM, things changed, and I'm not fearful, any longer!

    Blessings!

    - Nancy Jean -
    GA
    674 days ago
  • v ICECUB
    I DON'T BLAME YOU FOR NOT WANTING TO BE ON THE ROAD DURING THIS TIME. IT COULD BE DANGEROUS. DO YOU HAVE A FRIEND WHO COULD GO PLACES WITH YOU OR MAYBE YOUR DAUGHTER. WHEN NY HIP AND LEG WERE REALLY HURTING BAD AFTER AWHILE THE PAIN REALY GOT ON MY NERVES.
    674 days ago
  • v GINNABOOTS
    Patti, vertigo is awful. I had it about a year ago for the 1st time and I thought something serious was wrong with me. It ended up being a sinus infection, but it wreaked havoc. So it is ok for you to be out of sorts with the way you are feeling. It seems like whenever we don't feel right, we want our significant other around us. It gives us a sense of security. So your feelings are perfectly normal. I would stay as busy as possible and maybe have someone come and hang out with you a day or two. I am like you, I don't fear much and am very independent, but when I don't feel well I want my hubby and daughter around me. I sure do hope you feel better. Don't be hard on yourself for feelings of anxiety. What about your mother coming to stay with you for a few days? I seem to remember you said you were doing some shopping with her. Take care and enjoy the plans that you do have in the next few days.

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    675 days ago
  • v SHERYLDS
    pain is definitely something to fear when you don't have someone near to help. When I lived in a house, unexplained noises spooked me...I was fearful of break-ins not paranormal phenomenon. and psycho neighbors...but that's an old story...thank goodness.

    why not tell your kids and get yourself invited for a sleep over?
    675 days ago
  • v TWEETYKC00
    If you don't feel good, it isn't something to be afraid of as you know that vertigo in itself won't really hurt you badly if you can react to it and adjust yourself to it. It would be good if you had friends nearby to help you if they can. I would say, stay busy around the house as much as possible. Hugs.
    675 days ago
  • v NEW-CAZ
    I used to be fearful of crowds/trains/buses but had CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy); just a few sessions teach you a different way of thinking to be more positive and address the root cause of your fear/anxiety.
    Yes there are still times I get anxious,but I deal with them now employing the tools given me.
    You can access therapists via your doctor over here- well worth it I promise- It set me free emoticon
    675 days ago
  • v 1CRAZYDOG
    First of all, I would be fearful on my own w/vertigo as well. Obviously you don't want to get hurt and not have help. So that would set up some anxiety for me too.

    Secondly, so you have family close by to check on you? That is one thing that would help me.

    Do you have any med(s) to help if vertigo becomes an issue? Do you have enough in the house to sustain you for at least a few days?

    These are all things I'd be thinking about if I were alone.

    Oh, and if you do have vertigo, hateful as it may be, do you have a cane or walker to steady yourself? I remember a bout of vertigo in my 50's that necessitated me doing that. Didn't like it, but better than a fall.

    HUGS my dear.
    675 days ago
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