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I am a horrible monster

Friday, August 22, 2014

I have been watching with morbid fascination this whole ALS Ice Bucket Challenge thing.

Frankly, to me, it looks stupid.

But if you are having fun with it, enjoy it. And it has admittedly raised a lot of money for that horrible disease and not money that would have gone to other diseases because most of the people who are donating likely would not have donated to another cause anyway.

But here is where I became a monster.

I chose not to participate. And I called out questionable tactics being used to coerce participation.

"What's the matter with you?" I was questioned, "You can't spare 10 minutes for ALS?"

How in the world is dumping ice water on my head going to do anything for ALS?

"It raises awareness."

I already know what it is. I have watched over the last 30 years as it has ravaged Dr Hawking. It's a horrible disease.

"Well, if you don't do it within 24 hours you," and here we go, "have to donate $100 to ALSA.org."

I will donate how much I want to whom I want when I want and you will never know about it.

"But that's the game. You can afford to give and if you can't then you can give something."

And I didn't choose to play. And yes I can and it's not your business.

And suddenly I was an uncaring heartless SOB who was putting down everyone doing the challenge. (No I am not and no I wasn't.)

I felt like these were bullying tactics. And I called it out on my Facebook status. I did not name the prime one who sent me over the edge, but it took him about a day to realize that it was he who finally prompted me to call out the tactics being used. He called to apologize. He was so swept up in the "game" that he didn't even realize what he was doing.

Get challenged, get wet or a penalty imposed if you choose not to and if you refuse the penalty you are publicly shamed.

Here, smoke this.
Some other time.
Come on. Everyone is doing it.
Then gimme your lunch money.
(Punch) Ok. Fine if that’s the way you want to be. Nobody’s forcing you to smoke.
Thanks. (Walking away)
Hey everybody. This guy’s a big p*ssy!

If that's not bullying, I don't know what is.

Well, you know I had my asbestos undies on after that. I was so totally flamed. People totally misunderstood what I was saying. They felt like I was trying to dump icewater on their fun. That I was saying the awareness campaign was a bad thing.

I was not saying any of that.

I was saying that the tactics of some were akin to shaming and bullying. For example, here is a comment to my status from one of my High School classmates. I apologize in advance for the coarse language used in the photo. But I think you need to know what I am talking about.

DanielK -- Little Tim,, I can't believe you are being an ass about this....get challenge, do it and have fun or just walk away. you do not have to donate...there is no bullying about it...this cause has raised over 10 million dollars so far....we have just lost a classmate to ALS, DannyK, and I think he would have loved to see these people taking the challenge and donate to this cause....

Insulting name to start.
Calls me an ass
Claims that there is no pressure ... wait a minute, didn't he start by calling me names?
You don't have to donate
But you know one of our classmates just died of ALS (you heartless bastard)
Then an inflammatory picture.

No, there's no bullying.

I have seen people post the names of people they challenged who declined and complained that they surely had the money to donate.

No, there's no bullying.

I was called a shallow person who was too gutless to stand for anything. (Seems I took an unpopular stand against bullying on a very popular cause. That's hardly gutless)

No, there's no bullying.

We'll just call it arm twisting. Coercion. Extortion.

But there's no bullying.
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    I agree, what and how much you donate to someone is your own business. We donate to a lot of stuff, mostly local stuff, but no one knows. That's the way I like it. Personally I think the Ice Bucket thing could be promoted better. There have been injuries with it too.
    1248 days ago
  • CIPHER1971
    I haven't been called out (another friendless person) but I agree with you the tactics are bullying, and it reminds me too much of neknomination another foolish facebook thing.

    Have a great day
    1248 days ago
    Tim you are our "horrible monster" (NOT!) and I happen to agree with you. Cause is good, maybe even fun for some, BUT I will decide to who or what I will give to.

    Glad you called them out on the bullying......

    By the way, my son said why this is so viral right now is the guy who did this for his friend who has ALS died in a car crash right after he made the video, so this is why it went viral. Don't know how true it is.

    Also glad to have you back in communication!
    1249 days ago
    I am happy to contribute to ALS, but I choose not to dump ice water on my head. Having watched someone die of the disease day by day, his wife had to divorce him just to be able to afford to survive his death, I am happy to contribute. But before this challenge many people didn't even know of the disease until someone they knew was diagnosed. In that light, it's probably been a good thing.
    1249 days ago
    luckily I'm terribly unpopular and nobody I mean not one of my family nor friends nor associates challenged me- thank god- because when put on the spot my first reaction is nearly always "NO, however thanks for asking." I didn't know what the challenge was about until I saw it being done on Big Brother Season 16 this week.
    1250 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/22/2014 11:35:46 PM
    I've been watching all the ice bucket challenges too and am left wondering why this is such a popular thing lately. Is this the 'hot' disease of the moment? I agree with you about the seemingly bullying tactics used for the donations. Making a donation is a personal thing and I don't broadcast who I choose to give to. I agree with your post.
    1250 days ago
    I think you are spot on! That is out of hand.
    1250 days ago
    By the way... you are not a horrible monster emoticon
    1250 days ago
    I agree with just about everything you said. emoticon

    I was actually nominated to do the ice bucket challenge and I found it stupid but it actually made me aware of it. I even researched it. So I decided that I will be doing the ice bucket challenge for fun and I'm donating to a fundraiser for Lymphoma cancer. It's the cancer the took my grandfather's life.

    Have a great weekend and thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. emoticon
    1250 days ago
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