So many deaths this summer - I'd think it was winter, but these are a little more sudden and abrupt. My girlfriend's son just died a month ago the 13th. This past Saturday my step-sister's youngest son and his wife and a group of others were in Great Bend, KS to scope out an honorary motorcycle run for a friend of theirs who had died LAST summer (his airplane crashed.). While there, the one friend was up ahead, with their 6 year old daughter behind him. The couple - my step nephew and his wife were in the "middle" of the pack, when suddenly a truck pulling a trailer passed them and the trailer was evidently improperly hitched, and it swung out sideways and knocked the two over, with the trailer hitch or some piece of it hitting the wife in the abdomen. Behind them, where he could see and immediately stop/lay down his cycle, was the father of my nephew, and his passenger in back was the 5 year old son of the couple. When he got up to the wreck, he could see his daughter-in-law's sliced open abdomen and so he rushed back to prevent his grandson from seeing any more.
They were airlifted into Wichita yesterday and I guess his wife coded en route, they got her back, but shortly after she got to the hospital, she coded again. My nephew likely never knew she died, as he has been unconscious all this time, despite several surgeries, removing his spleen and other surgery, he began actively dying and hospital basically declared him dead at mid day. They kept his body on life support until late this evening so they could begin processing for organ donations (possible pancreas and corneas?).
His parents are divorced, so step-sister and her husband and the ex-husband and his current wife have been sharing grandparent custody of the grandkids while my nephew and his wife had been dealing with issues stemming from their service overseas in Iraq and Afghanistan, including PTSD. It's not immediately clear how they will resolve the care of the children.
His wife's parents are also divorced, where her dad lives out of state, and her mom is in prison. Her only sister lives some four hours away and she is unable to care for the children. So it's not clear how funeral arrangements will be resolved. I'm hoping that some of those details were already established since that's the kind of procedure that the US Military requires before going overseas.
And I start at college again tomorrow! My girlfriend has transferred from the community college to the big campus here, Wichita State (you know, Shockers??). What was I thinking? and we haven't finished doing our FAFSA to figure out what financial aid might be available.
I'm not taking a full load - just yoga, tai chi, and tae kwon do. Or until I figure out which one is not going to work for me and drop it!!
So anyway, some will offer prayers to this crazy mixed up family and others like us ... others will just shake their heads and go, oh bummer, bad karma, so sad, whatever it is we say when words are not enough. I'm mostly just venting anyway, as I need to spill I guess. Maybe I'll take my notebook with me to school so I can spend some time writing out thoughts.
I'll be hearing more from my mom as she tries to referee her two step-children and their respective families (my step-brother and his wife share a duplex home with her, where she has remained ever since my step-dad died 5 or 6 years ago.)...as I know the funeral(s) will at least include full military honors for both of them, the 21 gun salutes, the whole kit and kaboodle, presentation of flags. My personal vote is to do both in one funeral and just get it done, so her dad doesn't have to fly back and forth to Florida in between??
Time for bed....
Oh, I was going to include at least one article for those who want to look at such things and see him at his handsome smiley best... (there are quite a few articles out now)
(8/18/2014 just saw a link to local newspaper with info on the Memorial Fund set up for the kids. I also know they have set up Wounded Warrior Projects and Camp Hope for PTSD for memorials. I can send the link if anyone is interested.).