Friday, August 08, 2014
We had our child presentation meeting for the 2 boys we're being considered for as adoptive parents and it went well. No word yet on whether it's gonna happen. The boys have a fair amount of needs and we want to make sure we are the right fit for them. We are feeling good about it but want to see how the boys feel about it and what their team thinks.
The meeting wasn't the smoothest thing in the world…first off the team coming on behalf of the boys had 6 PEOPLE come (not including a small child brought along) and 5 of them ended up an hour late. They did call and give us a heads up about a half an hour before they were supposed to be there so we had some idea but our adoption worker was already on her way so it didn't help much. The small child that came was in the care (for the day?) of the guardian of the boys we're interested in and he was an energetic but relatively well behaved little guy who needed occasional redirecting.
Our worker and the permanency consultant for the boys arrived on time so we visited with them for the hour while we were waiting. That actually went very smoothly, so when the rest of them showed up, it was fairly easy to transition to a meeting as a larger group. 4 of those who came were county workers and social workers who work with the boys. The guardian (5th person in the late car) is a grandmotherly figure who cares deeply for these kids so she kinda grilled us with her questions…it's EXTREMELY important to her that they go to a Christian home and one that teaches manners...and we asked our questions to the team. We really connected well with the guardian and she loved that we were trusting God to give us wisdom for this decision. Our worker had to leave about an hour after the team arrived due to another meeting she had, so we continued on without her (a bit of a disadvantage) for another hour or so then showed them around the house and talked more informally with some of the team then the group of 5 (plus child) left…after having met our kids who we called home from the neighbors at the request of the guardian who wanted to meet them.
The boys' permanency consultant stayed behind to help us process all the info. He was great but the next day we stilled called our worker to process with her. She's great at looking at worst case scenarios and helping us think of things we may have overlooked, so we don't go in with unreal expectations. I ended up talking to her for almost an hour. We decided to request more info but expressed our leanings toward this being a good fit.
Both DH and I are very interested in what the BOYS think. I mean, it's their lives too. We sent the team home with a little photo book of our family and home and the school and stuff so they could show the boys and sort of introduce them to us. Today we should find out what the boys' team is thinking and hopefully hear what the boys think too.
Continued prayers are priceless. Thank you!