Possible progress on the honeymoon front
Wednesday, August 06, 2014
Hubby texted me today. He wants us to meet with a friend of his who has been to Cuba. I've NEVER talked to anyone who say Cuba is horrible, don't go. I'm sure hoping this guy isn't the first one we run into.
That being said, I'm hoping he'll alleviate some of hubby's concerns/worries about going.
Just so you know, Hubby and I talked about it last night. Rather, I asked him about what he wants to do for the honeymoon so I could start to look into it. He stated Cuba was not completely out of the question at this point.
I mentioned to him if he doesn't want to go, don't go. Well, he figures we should NEVER go on separate vacations. So he's going to have some issues. I'm not a snob or elitist. I don't even want to stay in a 5 star hotel when I travel. I have less than zero interest in an all inclusive - between my food allergies and not wanting to "hide out" in some gated community I don't want to do that at all. The closest I come to that is Vegas when I stay on the strip. That being said, I don't stay there all the time. I explore the entire city.
So that's where I stand right now. No idea. The only thing I know is I am going to Cuba for a holiday. Hubby isn't okay with me going without him.
To be honest, I don't want to go alone. I end up missing him the entire time I'm away. But am I going to let that keep me from going? NO.
I don't believe it's inappropriate to travel alone. Or eat in a restaurant alone. I believe anyone can do whatever they put their minds to. It's something I want to do. I'm excited to do. I'm going to do it.
Hubby can either get on board and enjoy it. Heck, I'm offering to pay the whole bill. I'm offering to take him. I'm not even asking him to stay in a hotel that has bad reviews/bugs, etc. I am researching. I am making as informed decisions as I can. I'm also rounding up as much information on traveling safe as I can get my hands on.
Or he can suck it up and deal with his own issues when I go by myself.
Those are his choices.
No where in those is there a choice of forcing me to not go either, because he has issues.
No where is there an option to come along and spoil my trip. Heck, I know hubby. He'll LOVE it. The things he won't love I have no control over and he just has to suck it up.
Financially poor does not mean "bad person" or "criminal". He's going to have to learn the difference.
I've asked him about his issues regarding homeless, etc. He insists I'm imagining it. I know he's lying. Maybe even lying to himself. I've seen how he reacts. I don't know how to get through to him on this. Maybe I need him to realize that I have been homeless. It never made me a criminal, or a physically dangerous person. I was lucky to have people in my life who cared enough to make sure I had a place to sleep at nights. A roof over my head. But I couldn't have done it by myself. Heck, even now I don't know if I could do it on my own.
Anyhow, I'm hoping for the best with tonight's discussion. I'll keep y'all posted.