More kinds of win - a hilly, up-and-down path is NOT success/fail
Monday, August 04, 2014
I've been surfing around on blogs, finding some kindred spirits in the stop-and-start-style journey to a healthy weight.
There are a lot of us, and that's empowering. I don't think any of us need to feel bad about it, either.
For one thing - we're still here!! That's hugely important. We are here, and we're learning more about ourselves and our journey, which means that no matter what we are making progress.
For another, we've learned so much. Some are lessons that I knew in my head, but not in my heart or my body. It does take a long time. It does mean learning to see things differently. It does mean learning to accept some limitations but learning to grow in other directions.
For me, it's about learning maintenance first. I know that sounds bass-ackwards, but it's true for me. I can lose weight really really well. I know that. But I am a dismal failure at maintenance. HOWEVER, the truth is I never got to a weight I thought I wanted to maintain (problem #2, see below). What I've learned is that I need to learn to maintain in the sense of making good choices each day, even if I'm not losing weight steadily.
What does that look like? Concretely, here are some examples. Today I ate breakfast out with Dad (our Monday routine). So I ate a very light lunch, just some fruit, then a normal supper. Balance. Or tonight, I wanted a gin and tonic and just fixed a small one, which made me perfectly happy. In other words, I choose in awareness, in balance, EVERY DAY. As I get back into my program, this has been my prep training.
But not just prep. Now I'm cutting back on calories, in a small way, and I've been losing, still with balanced choices. If I lose 5 pounds a month, I'm thrilled. If I don't gain, THAT'S ALSO VICTORY!! There's way more kinds of win than I gave myself credit for before.
That second problem is recognizing what weight I will be happy with. I blogged about that earlier this week. But basically, I'm shooting for the high end of my healthy range and I'm prepared to be happy with that. Very happy.
So yes, it's an up-and-down path. I live in the highlands of Ohio, so why not expect a hilly ride? :D But I'm still ON that path, and that's the important thing. If you are here, and you are trying, then you are certainly doing something right. We need to be kind to ourselves, supportive of ourselves, and give ourselves permission to enjoy more win.