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Day 9: Unwrapping & Uncovering

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

I don't like asking for help. It makes me feel weak. When someone asked me what my formula for a successful 40 year marriage was I put it to them this way"

"I've spent 40 years walking around in the basement muttering "shoot," walking around a bit more and muttering "shoot" again. Joan spent 40 years standing at the foot of the stairs asking "What can I do to help?" My answer usually has something to do with re positioning space and time.

Where am I going with this? My good friend CARTOONB said this to me in a blog comment last week:

"If hungry ain't the problem, food won't fix it. Sucks...but it's true."


I trust my intuition and when something stings a bit or sorta exposes me then I'm pretty sure its valid. For two days I thought about what she said and then another friend commented to me

"You know all my problems started when I joined Spark People."

And suddenly................ it all made sense.

It's more than diet and exercise. It's about that dad gummed internal gyroscope of ours that guides and directs us. We can blame mom and dad, spouse partner or kid. We can rationalize that this what God wants for us; to suffer and be in a state of chronic agony. Some of us even blmae God, dont we?

Yes, all my problems began close to 5 years ago when I created this account and began this journey. I lost weight, gained weight, experienced the thrill of exercise victory and the agony of defeat. But what I am learning now is that being true to yourself, authentic and creative in your own life can be just as agonizing as training for a 5k.

"If hungry ain't the problem, food won't fix it. Sucks...but it's true."

Thank you Barb............. seriously, thank you.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
JUMPINJULIE 8/4/2014 10:17PM

    So true.

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AJDOVER1 7/31/2014 11:15AM

    Barb is a smart cookie! emoticon

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NASFKAB 7/31/2014 1:45AM

  great quote so very true thanks for sharing

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KENDRACARROLL 7/30/2014 8:52PM

    MORTICIAADDAMS nailed it. Putting food back in its place and not living, breathing, thinking about it constantly is the ultimate goal. Only then can we successfully lose and maintain that loss.

As for Barb: As always, she says it like it is! Great statement!

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GIRANIMAL 7/30/2014 4:59PM

    Barb is one smart gal and a keeper of a friend!

Sorry I've been so scarce -- the source of my preoccupation will reveal itself soon. :)

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IFDEEVARUNS2 7/30/2014 4:22PM

    I'll remember that one! Thanks for sharing.

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WORLDSERIES11 7/30/2014 2:32PM

    emoticon Barb & John!

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LOVINGKATE 7/30/2014 2:25PM

  emoticon Barb. I also agree! I am a fine kind a girl but I really know better then that.
I'm learning. Hang in there John. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHRISTINEBWD 7/30/2014 12:24PM

    emoticon Barb

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CARTOONB 7/30/2014 11:55AM

    You're welcome. That's what friends are for.

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SDEHNKE 7/30/2014 11:44AM

    Truth! emoticon


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KELLYFIT123 7/30/2014 11:27AM

    Wow, those are very wise words from CARTOONB.

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DOLLIE6 7/30/2014 10:58AM

    So true and so simple. We do try to make life and everything in it difficult, don't we?

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SANDRALEET 7/30/2014 10:42AM

    Life style not all or nothing We are balanced not bad or good

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MORTICIAADDAMS 7/30/2014 10:24AM

    While most of us would cringe at the thought of being an alcoholic, gambler, or drug addict we seem to accept the fact that being addicted to food is okay and even normal. It isn't. I was thin for 46 years and what I remember most about it was being busy with life and not concerned with food. I ate when my stomach screamed and, although I didn't eat things I hated, I wasn't especially particular about having a ultimate sensory experience while I ate. I was filling the tank. I wasn't planning, thinking, contemplating my next meal. Getting back to that point is the challenge.

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LISALOOPNER 7/30/2014 10:23AM

    First of all I'm stealing this quote "If hungry ain't the problem, food won't fix it. Sucks...but it's true."

Second of all I too never ask for help and I am a founding member of the "I'm fine" club.

And lastly I have only been married for 23 years and I attribute that to me working a lot of hours and I have no energy to

Great post your are an excellent writer. Good luck on your journey.


Comment edited on: 7/31/2014 4:52:38 AM

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PEGGY11 7/30/2014 10:13AM

    I just love that phrase.

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CHARITYAK 7/30/2014 10:11AM

    Fantastic insight!

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