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Lesson learned AGAIN

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

What's been happening....

Long hours at work on two frustrating projects. Cleaning out the spare bedroom each evening in preparation for my 23 year-old son to move in here because he's mad at his dad for telling him he needs to be on his own when he doesn't feel financially ready.

My ex and his fiancé had this talk with him two weeks before the ex's wedding. Nothing like putting your son (who's also your best man) in a foul mood right before your wedding.

AND the fiancé told me she would like it if I attend the service since my kids are in it. So I'm getting pressure from my daughter to go. I like the ex's fiancé and it was very nice of her to tell me she wants me there but I don't want to go. Your ex doesn't belong at your wedding no matter how much she tolerates you.

There's more but all of that has been the most draining of the last two weeks. Nobody was home tonight so I sat on the couch with a bowl of Special K Chocolaty Delight cereal, the remote and my simmering aggravation. Then I thought of the challenge I posted on the One Day Challenge team and got moving.

I took the dog for a 20-minute walk, did a 10-minute Spark Kickboxing video and two Spark upper body band videos.

It's a lesson I keep learning over and over and over and over.... best way to handle stress and aggravation is to get moving!


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    I agree with you 100%. For the rest...? You will make the right decision.
    1328 days ago
    Oh yeah: that's a lesson that doesn't seem to stick with me either!!!
    1328 days ago
    That's wonderful that you got moving rather than stewing, eating stew (or anything else).
    1328 days ago
    Your reaction to STRESS is admirable! It's the difference been being fat and fit.

    I can't IMAGINE being invited to my ex's wedding! My ex and I have been divorced for 28 years yet he recently threw a hissy-fit when his sister and I became Facebook friends! He was upset and told her to unfriend me!

    I don't blame you for not wanting to go; it's bound to make people uncomfortable.

    1328 days ago
    Sorry about the stress but you handled t the right way.

    1328 days ago
    Sorry you're having so much stress in your life right now! And I feel you on the ex and grown kid stuff... and yeah, I agree with you on the wedding stuff...there are some things we just don't need in our lives! Breathe deep and let it go...!

    1328 days ago
    I love relieving my frustration through exercise as well - isn't it the best anti-depressant?

    1328 days ago
  • KANOE10
    Getting all of that exercise was a great way to relieve your stress! It is hard to be busy at work and then to come home and work on your son's room. Plus there is the pressure of that wedding. I agree with you. You do not need to be there.
    1328 days ago
    emoticon Great way to work out some stress.

    Your kids aren't children performing in a play so I see no sense in using that as a reason to say you need to attend the wedding. What's up with that women !

    Good luck with your son.
    1329 days ago
    Good for you for turning the stress around and getting moving! If you don't want to go to the wedding, don't go. Life's too short to let someone else tell you what they would like you to do.

    Keep moving because that will definitely help. emoticon
    1329 days ago
  • BA5454
    Totally agree with ya here. The decision to go or not stays with you! Great job on avoiding the eating trap.
    1329 days ago
  • ALICIA214
    1329 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    I'm with you on not going to the wedding. I wouldn't want to go either!! Great job on working out! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1329 days ago
    Argh, that is all stressful! Especially the adult child moving back in! Good for you to get stress relief ever!
    1329 days ago
    Good for you, getting out and not simmering about the aggravation!
    1329 days ago
    You may be learning over and over but think about how much quicker you come to the right conclusion. And now you trust your gut and you do something rather than debate it, make excuses not to do it, etc.... you do it!
    Good luck with the stress and all.

    1329 days ago
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