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Mourning to Joy

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

In January last year my husband needed surgery on two areas of his spine. He completed therapy at the hospital rehab unit. While there, I wanted to surprise him for Valentines day but he could not have much in his small room. He seemed touched when I had arranged a serenade.

Last year on this date, my husband was admitted to the ER. The next morning, we learned he had cancer. He died five days later. While I would have liked more time, for him it was a blessing as he was so fearful of cancer. He was not perfect, but he was a very good man. I was blessed that he chose me to share this journey for 38 years.

The family, church and friends wrapped around me and our son. The service was so fitting and beautiful.

The last few days have been filled with a roller coaster of feelings. As I think of my dh, my eyes tear-up. There are smiles as well as I have so many good memories. Homer was always so respectful and thoughtful of others. We each helped shape the other and made a good team. Adopting our son was the icing on the cake.

Getting ready to leave for an Alaskan Cruise. So happy my two sisters and son and good friend will be sharing this adventure. So glad I am in better health and shape than I was two years ago. Being able to fly without a seat belt extension is the best. Will not be able to do much on-line until our return. Will miss my Spark friends and teams emoticon

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KEEP-GOING 2/10/2015 6:37PM

    So sorry to hear of your loss. I loved the story and his name Homer is an unusual name now days. You have achieved so much. I am sure he would be very proud of you. Thank you for sharing such a personal area. God bless you. hug sandy

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IGNITEME101 9/5/2014 7:14PM


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    Bless you! So glad God has brought you from the grief of mourning to a new place. He is so faithful and your Homer was fortunate to not suffer long...and it sounds like he has you surrounded with supportive people to help you continue your journey with joy...He is a GOOD God! Enjoy that trip AND your family!

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LIKINMENOW 7/24/2014 2:00AM

    Oh how sad I am to hear of your loss. However, I am happy that you can go on the cruise and I sincerely hope you have a wonderful time. It is good that you are getting away for a while. My prayers will be with you.

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LUCYCAN7 7/23/2014 8:41PM

  I am so sorry dear for your loss.Cherish your memories with Homer.
Blessings and continue to take good care of your health you have
done so good,I am certain your dear husband would want you to.
Enjoy your cruise as well.Hope to hear about your cruise when you
return.Hope you have a safe journey my dear. emoticon

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MOM2ACAT 7/23/2014 5:36PM

    I am so sorry for your loss emoticon

I hope your cruise brings you happiness and healing.

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KANOE10 7/23/2014 8:32AM

    emoticon I am sorry for your loss. Your husband sounded like a warm caring man.
Enjoy that Alaskan cruise with your family. You are doing a good job of taking care of yourself.


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CROUCHINGFLEA 7/23/2014 6:22AM

    Bless you. I hope you have a wonderful time on your cruise

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LINTPICKER 7/22/2014 10:05PM

    I hope you enjoy your cruise, it really is beautiful there. You have been blessed with great memories and are building new ones as well.

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DJ4HEALTH 7/22/2014 9:37PM

    Have fun on the cruise and see you when you get back from it too. It is hard when cancer takes a loved one. emoticon emoticon

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SUBMOM2 7/22/2014 7:04PM

    This must be a bittersweet time for you. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to continue your journey to wellness over what has been quite a year for you. How wonderful that you are having an exciting adventure. I hope you and your family have a terrific trip!

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ARNETTELEE 7/22/2014 5:28PM

  Sorry for your loss...

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PURPLEPEONY 7/22/2014 5:10PM

    emoticon Have fun! emoticon

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MJRVIC2000 7/22/2014 5:00PM

    Faith makes everything possible; Hope makes every thing work; and Love makes everything beautiful. God Bless YOU! Vic.

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