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Dinner with Mary

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Mary is my best friend, and she's been with me through thick and thin - literally. She a horsey friend, so we met at the barn. We both were taking riding lessons and were standing along the rail watching others ride. When I told her I was going to ride Excedrin, she told me not to hit her, because she would buck. During the lesson, I tapped the mare on the shoulder with my crop. Guess what? She not only bucked - she tried to launch me. Using the wall, I was able to push myself back into the saddle. From that moment on I realized that Mary was an excellent source for advise. We'd been taking group lessons for a couple of years when someone made the decision that I was too heavy to be riding the majority of the lesson horses. I think I was given the choice of two and neither were terrific. I cried and cried, and Mary decided we'd both join Weight Watchers. I lost enough weight to get THIS close to 200 pounds, and I got to ride lots of different horses. Being Madame YoYo, I gained the weight back and then some. For reasons I'll never fully understand, I kept at it, and Mary was there for some of my therapy sessions and Diet Workshop.

Even though I was always so depressed, Mary never gave up on me. We vacationed together and, over the course of about 35 years, spent a lot of time consuming too much beer and Margaritas. We've even compared the virtues of CC and VO. With water, both beverages look the same and our waitperson was no help. The only thing left to do was a taste test. We both decided the same drink was the smoothest, and I declared it to be the VO. That happened to be the drink I ordered. Mary thought otherwise, so we were forced to order another round. I was right, and Mary never drank another CC.

With her husband and daughter off doing other things, Mary and I had dinner last night. She's dealing with her elderly parents, so we traded war stories. Before he passed away, I was the primary care giver for my father. In many ways, my father was far more difficult than Mary's parents, but her mother is a real challenge. She shared with me that her sister is obsessed with looking youthful. Since Libby has got to be giving 60 a really hard push, she's fighting a losing battle. Mary has never had a self-esteem issue. For this, I am in awe of her. Not unlike Libby, I too obsess but about my weight and how I look to others. I told her about the workout capris that are still hiding in one of my dresser drawers. Being the pragmatist, she told me to wear them because no one will even notice. I countered with "but I'll notice". Then I stopped and realized that was my problem. Mary agreed.

Although I'm clinically obese, Mary doesn't view me as fat. Isn't that what friends are for? Bless her!!!!!!!!!!
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    With friends like her you increased happiness....

    God bless,

    1158 days ago
    Leslie, my mind immediately went to the song, "Along Comes Mary" by the Association, one of my favorite songs, recorded in 1966. While the title subtly refers to a particular weed from the 60's, I thought the following phrase sort of summed up your relationship with your friend Mary, "And then along comes Mary, and does she want to give me kicks, and be my steady [friend], and give me pick of memories, or maybe rather gather tales of all the fails and tribulations, no one ever sees."

    I will not fix, save, advise or set you straight. I am always rooting for you. Your blogging gives great insight into your thoughts, and I am so very impressed with the progress you have made since we became friends on SparkPeople.

    Therefore, whether you exercise in your workout capris or a flour sack, be blessed and do all the good things that you are doing. Your feelings about your success just may catch up with wher you really are.

    P.S. I am a fan of CC up.
    1160 days ago
    Mary sounds like a life long wonderful friend and I so happy that you have her (I told you to wear the capris!!!) and she you!!!!
    I happen to have a sister-in-law who is also afraid of aging. Plastic surgery and all, It's not working there either although she is younger than me.

    Sweet dream!!
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    (and I gave a big fat kiss to Montana right on the softest part of her muzzle and told hr it was from you!!!)
    1160 days ago
    These are the best kinds of friends - ones who allow you to be who you really are, stand by your side during the difficult times, and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. And it sounds like that's the kind of friend YOU are too!
    1160 days ago
  • LANCER1984
    Friends love you no matter what. even when you have your little squabbles you get through them and move on. I'm glad you have a person like that in your life. She sounds like a gem.
    1160 days ago
    It's great to have such a loving and caring friend, they're very rare!! Hang on to that friendship, you are so blessed!! emoticon
    1160 days ago
    Seeing thru the eyes of love does not see 'flaws' as we do .......... Love looks beyond and sees a good heart ............ and often believes that you will 'step out' and become all that your desire to be ......... But love loves unconditionally whether overweight .... It has no restrictions. You have a good friend in Mary ............... emoticon
    1160 days ago
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