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A Day Best Forgotten

Sunday, July 20, 2014

I'm glad July 19th has come to an end and July 20th has finally arrived. It was a tough day. It was one year to the day when my husband passed away and I lost my best friend in the world.

Tommy used to love to post pictures of beautiful nature scenes on his Facebook page and he would always caption them "God's Creations". I thought yesterday about how he was one of God's amazing creations and what a huge loss it was when he left this life, but what a wonderful gain for heaven.

I went Friday afternoon and put new flowers on Tommy's grave along with a mini replica of the memory flag I took with me on vacation. In some ways it was hard to believe that a year had already passed, yet at times it seems like an eternity since I've heard his laugh.

I decided to keep myself busy yesterday by working on my bathroom renovations. I figured that would take my mind off of everything. My boys were here to help me and we were moving right along until we realized we need some additional parts for plumbing. Jeremy and I took off in my car heading for Home Depot to buy the needed parts. Unfortunately, on our way there we were stopped at a red light when we were rear-ended by a pickup truck. At first I was really upset because that car was the one that Tommy actually wanted and he loved it. After a few minutes, I realized how upset the young man was that hit us. He was only 16 years old and just got his license last month. To make matters worse, his father showed up and appeared pretty upset with him. I actually felt bad for him and went back to his truck to tell him to try not to worry about it, that both of my boys did the same thing when they were 16 years old. I hope he's not in too much trouble at home because he really did seem like a nice young man.

My poor little car!

My stepson came over later to help us on our bathroom also. It was good to be with him because I know he was also trying to deal with the anniversary of his Dad's passing. We had pizza and it was nice to be together. Still, I'm glad the day is over. Today is a new day. Now I'm off to get some much needed rest.

I hope you all have a wonderful Sunday and week ahead!
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    I am just catching up on a few of your blogs Cindy. It must have been a sad day on the 19th, a year later. I hope that it gets a little less sad as time goes on . emoticon

    You handled that little bump by the young driver so well. And very thoughtfully. emoticon Young people have to start somewhere, and crashing must have been a blow to him. As well as a preview of what is to come being on the road and having to be responsible enough to handle having an accident. There is so much we have to learn on our road through life. And in the early days of being old enough to do something, but young to have to life up to the responsibility it must be hard. Todays young people have a different world ahead of them, that is not always easy. Sometimes adults can be blind to what it is like to be a young person who makes mistakes. You were so thoughtful and caring to consider his situation emoticon .
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    1150 days ago
  • ODAT1117
    My, what a week you have had. I hope your boys can set you up with some good distractions now that you are laid up with a bum foot. Maybe they can get you some puzzles or new books or movies.

    Hang in there!!

    Oh, and I LOVE the miniflag!! I'll just bet that made Tommy smile and I know he is wishing he could be with you now, especially to help with your foot/ankle injury.

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    1185 days ago
    It is so hard to believe it has been a year since Tommy's passing! You are so strong in dealing with all that you have had to deal with, Cindy. I wish I could give you a big hug!
    I hope you have a really great week!
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    1185 days ago
    I have not, yet, lost any people who are that close to me - even my parents are still both alive at almost 93 and 88! However, I think that the 1-year anniversary is something of a Rubicon, and after that the human psyche seems a little better able to move forward. Every anniversary will be difficult, but the first one is, I suspect, the worst.

    You are a strong lady and Tommy is still with you in so many ways. He will make sure you are OK, he'll be watching over you - just as he was when that poor kid ran into the back of your car. Poor lad. But you were all unhurt, which is the main thing! Yup, Tommy was guarding you, for sure!


    1186 days ago
  • _JODI404
    Angel anniversaries are very hard!!

    You did a great job keeping busy and in good company with your sons.

    You were sweet to be so kind the the teenager who hit you.

    I'm glad this date is behind you! So much better to remember the life than the loss.... but on anniversaries it seems impossible.

    Sending you a BIG hug!

    1186 days ago
    Beautifully written blog and what an absolutely beautiful resting place. Lastly, outstanding perspective. You are amazing. Human yet amazing.
    1186 days ago
    I know it was a day that was so hard for you and the boys because anniversary days of a death area, whether they are the date of the death or the person's birthday or anniversary or some other special day in their life. And it will cause you pain and to think of him more. But I believe he would be so proud of you and not mourning with you. Just get through them the best you can and it often helps to be able to talk for those days and share memories of him together Also do things like you're done. Anyway I wish I was there to give you a big hug and help you in whatever way you need it. All I can do is send thoughts and prayers your way. I can't believe it's been a year already either!
    1186 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon from one who's been there. It will get better - but it doesn't go away - and it shouldn't. Someone who is that special in our lives will always be special in our lives and I'm glad you had your family around you to share the memories that you all together. emoticon
    1186 days ago
    Your blog is so full of what we call "life". Sadness you experienced with the loss of your dear "Tommy" here on earth, but happiness knowing Tommy loved his God and was ready for his eternal home. God has given you amazing strength to make it a whole year when you probably thought you wouldn't without Tommy. So happy your boys were with you and supporting you on a day they knew you needed them. Hate that your car got bumped. They can fix that in a day. A deer got me this year but they fixed it just fine at Tuttle's in King. Continue being the strong woman you are! emoticon
    1186 days ago
    I doesn't seem like a year. I think you handled the day beautifully, and I am so glad all of the boys were there to help you. Sorry about the accident . The dent doesn't look too bad. I'm with you, I feel for the kid. Love the flowers you put at the grave site. I know it put a smile on Tommie's face! Hugs my friend!
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  • ZRIE014
    i hope that you have a good weekend
    1186 days ago
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