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Decisions and Hospice

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

I am so glad today is almost finished. We finally got home at 5:30p. Mom's appointment was for 2:40p. After much more paperwork, copying and faxing, again, ,,

we talked to the specialist who is a wonderful man. Raising all of he options, I explained to Mom how she abused her body and refused to eat and drink right,etc and as usual, she tried to tell the doc that she was not told she was diabetic!! I told her, no, no more pawning off her laziness on others:she did it to herself and this is her consequences. She did not want dialysis, so passive treatment is the go ahead, I ultimately had to make the decision, but knew that traveling out of town three days a week, spending over 16 hours away from her home and sitting still for four hours at a time, was not going to swing.

She is 88 years old and has 12% kidney function left with absolutely NO PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS!! Some pitting edema, but not that bad, her labs are marginal..

Now after all of that, I have to interview and select hospice companies that I would like for her.

I just faxed more info to the specialist as it is after hours..I am exhausted.

SHe has another appointment in three months.. also have to get a Dr. order for hospice when I DO select one.

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    1217 days ago
    Blessings to you during this challenging time with your mother. It is such a difficult time for you...but you are holding strong and I'm so proud of you! emoticon Your mother is very blessed to have a daughter that takes her by the hand and does everything she can to help her. I'll be praying for you! emoticon
    1218 days ago
  • TINA8605
    I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers
    1219 days ago
    These decisions are so hard and it is exhausting dealing with them. Take care of yourself, you will need even more strength. No matter how your parent arrived at this health state the fact is that she is where she is and you are doing a wonderful job helping her deal with it. I am thinking of you both. emoticon
    1219 days ago
    emoticon I'm so sorry; I know it was hard, but you made the best decision for both you and your mom.
    1219 days ago
    So sorry to hear all you are going through. I know what it's like to deal with elderly, sickly parents (& in-laws). It can be VERY exhausting physically and mentally. Hope things work out smoothly. Most of all, PLEASE take care of YOURSELF!
    Debb emoticon
    1219 days ago
    Dealing with parent health care is so difficult---and it sounds like she is in denial so it makes it worse for you. Good that you have time before it is needed to chose a hospice plan instead of when in crisis mode. Make sure you take some time for yourself in the midst of all this so that you have the strength to get through it all.
    1220 days ago
    You are a great daughter for staying strong and doing the right thing.
    1220 days ago
    My heart goes out to you. My Dad had hospice, and the people were wonderful. Wish I could hug you in person. Hang in there, it will all come together. emoticon
    1220 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this, it must be very difficult. It sounds like you have come to terms with it, but I'm sure that doesn't make it easy. I will keep you and your mom in my thoughts while you work your way through this process.

    1220 days ago
    emoticon hugs to you. So sorry you are having to go through this, but sometime we all have to and it is not fun when we have to become the parent. Just don't let it get you down.
    1220 days ago
    Wow, what a difficult and exhausting situation. I am sorry that you are having to experience this. Take care and God bless you.
    1220 days ago
    My prayers are with you, as you make these difficult decisions. Know that God is with you and your Mom.
    His light will guide you and the Holy Spirit will comfort you.

    Please take care of you, as well. emoticon

    1220 days ago
  • GABY1948
    Lin, I am SO sorry you are going through any of this...or that anyone has to but I know it happens...I went through it too and had to make the same decisions so I know how hard it is. I am praying still for you all and for peace in every decision you make and peace for your mother and much wisdom in choosing the hospice.

    Try to rest now and God Bless you! emoticon
    1220 days ago
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