Friday, July 11, 2014
As I was slipping off to sleep last night, I was thinking about a couple of negative nellies I encountered through the day. That stream of consciousness led me to think a couple of less than optimistic thoughts myself. I reminded myself that it is OKAY to have negative thoughts once in a while, as long as you are willing to chuck them away or realize you have the power to turn those thoughts around.
Case in point. Last week I shared a picture of my sister and I with a new friend. He said, "Wow. You two are polar opposites." My mind jumped to the dark side, and I took his comment to mean, "She is thin and beautiful and you are not." The thought came. I knocked it down. I replied we are very similar in personality. The truth is we actually are a lot alike - but that is not what he saw visually.
Did he mean: I'm tall, she's not. She wears make-up, I don't. She is not wearing glasses, I am. Who knows - because I didn't ask. I presumed what he meant and it might be the truth or not --- but it is immaterial in any case. I had a negative thought - and I cast it out. That is the important part to me. I did not hold it against him - I still don't know what the heck he meant. It is in the eye of the beholder, but except from my perspective, there was nothing that he said or did that should have made me jump to that conclusion. That came from my own crazy spin and conditioning - but I now choose to toss that away!
I think we are all capable of having negative thoughts. It is easy to compare ourselves with others and look for flaws so much more in the mirror than it is to acknowledge the beauty and loveliness that makes us up. It's all in the human condition.
It doesn't mean we get to dwell there - or take the negativity as gospel. Whether we inflict it on ourselves, or feel bombarded by bullies and others, it is important to build yourself a suit of armor, where you can possibly be subject to a negative comment, but not absorb it on your own.
I find it amusing that on a day where I am thinking about this myself - so is the Huffington Post. They have a piece in there today about banishing negative thoughts.
So, think them if you must, but then just toss them aside. You are beautiful. I am beautiful. We are all beautiful.