Thursday, July 10, 2014
One of my brother's classmates tragically passed away a few months ago in an accident. They are several years younger than me and of course it always makes one consider their mortality.
I hate to admit this, but I have to say that I am annoyed by grieving on social media websites. There was an event in my life that I grieve deeply, even though that even is ten years old now. I never mention it on social media, well rarely, because if I mentioned my grief I would be told that it was for the best and that other people gained so much from my loss.
I work everyday with people who are faced with tragedy, great tragedy. These people are usually members of marginalized groups of people in our community. They don't have the privilege of having a nice home, money, food on the table, education, a way to take care of their kids, or often any kind of family network. So few people care about that, but when a privileged person loses someone, everyone is falling all over themselves to take care of that person.
It adds to my sadness and pain that this goes on. I watch people struggle that no one cares about unless it is to be angry that they are getting public assistance. Care about them a little sooner and maybe their reliance on those programs can lessen. Care about them before the tragedy that causes their grief happens and maybe there will be less addiction. Care about them before they are homeless and maybe you won't have to be upset about them being in your park or wherever.
Now I'm off to the grocery store and then to play with the dogs. Those little beings love everyone and are an inspiration.