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Thursday, July 10, 2014

One of my brother's classmates tragically passed away a few months ago in an accident. They are several years younger than me and of course it always makes one consider their mortality.

I hate to admit this, but I have to say that I am annoyed by grieving on social media websites. There was an event in my life that I grieve deeply, even though that even is ten years old now. I never mention it on social media, well rarely, because if I mentioned my grief I would be told that it was for the best and that other people gained so much from my loss.

I work everyday with people who are faced with tragedy, great tragedy. These people are usually members of marginalized groups of people in our community. They don't have the privilege of having a nice home, money, food on the table, education, a way to take care of their kids, or often any kind of family network. So few people care about that, but when a privileged person loses someone, everyone is falling all over themselves to take care of that person.

It adds to my sadness and pain that this goes on. I watch people struggle that no one cares about unless it is to be angry that they are getting public assistance. Care about them a little sooner and maybe their reliance on those programs can lessen. Care about them before the tragedy that causes their grief happens and maybe there will be less addiction. Care about them before they are homeless and maybe you won't have to be upset about them being in your park or wherever.

Now I'm off to the grocery store and then to play with the dogs. Those little beings love everyone and are an inspiration.
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    I have to do you care or show support for someone BEFORE their tragedy happens? The fact that people take the time to support me or share and care is NOT because I am privileged. It is because I have friends and family who care about me.

    The tone of your thread here makes me suspect you have a very stressful job and you see a lot of horrible living conditions for many who are in a low time in their lives. Tragedy and the loss of a loved one affects every one the same no matter what their living conditions.
    1306 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear about your brother's classmate. I think grief is a hard thing to express and a hard thing to respond to. We each deal with it in our own way, I guess.

    God bless you for the work you do to better the lives of others. That is truly a higher calling. Sometimes the problems of the world seem so overwhelming, a person doesn't know where to begin to help. You haven't used that excuse, and are making the world better. Thank you!
    1321 days ago
  • SIOL55
    I am sorry you are feeling frustrated by all this. While there are some people that are indifferent to human suffering there are many who are concerned and reach out to help. I hope you will find support from people around you. emoticon
    1321 days ago
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