Wednesday, July 02, 2014
I'm biting my tongue! When someone you love has gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time, I just can't say anything. When they get all excited about junk food, when they ask for seconds, I try not to even give a look. It's none of my business.
If there were a circle and everything inside the circle was my business: my job, weight, appearance, level of cleanliness, politics, religion, finances, sex, etc. then everything outside that circle was none of my business. Well, my dearest loved one's weight is none of my business.
Keeping up with everything within my circle is about all I can handle. I don't have the time, energy to waste on everything that's none of my business.
I've also heard my business called the circle of control, and none of my business called the circle of concern. I think it may have been first written by Stephen Covey. https://www.stephencovey
I can set a good example. This person knows I'm at the gym all the time, that I switch out squash for starchy carbs, and even what my weight is, and how much I lost this week. And if they come to me for advice, I'll gladly give it. But I know, because I've been there, that judgement isn't helpful. Never. Ever.