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Realizing you are just a friend of convenience...

Sunday, June 29, 2014

Over the past 6 months or so I realized that a friend, that I thought was a true friend...was just using me. I am one of those people who will always make time for people, and do things for their kids. If their kid needs a ride home, I'll be there. Ride to a game? Gotcha covered ! emoticon

This "friend" and I would do things together sometimes too, not very often. sometimes.

I've been driving her child home from school for the past two years. They don't live close to me, and it adds 15 minutes on to the drive to pick up my own child. But, for a friend? Sure. Plus, she offered to pay $20 a month for gas (since she no longer had to pay after school child care, it was a savings of over $100/month for her). So, it was only technically taking my time.

BUT... She never paid me. (how do you ask a friend for money, maybe they are having a financially difficult time?)

But then she bought her daughter over $1000.00 worth of Christmas presents...

Then, I realized she only called me or texted me when she needed something...

Then, I saw her daughter was having slumber parties, and she was taking kids to movies and inviting other kids but not mine...

I got angry. REALLY angry. Irrational-I-can't- talk- to- you- angry. I let her know I was angry, and told her I was just a friend of convenience. Which she denied, she said she appreciated all I have done for her. How I have been there for her and her family. Which actually made me angry too, because yes...I have always been there for you and your family. But, you never made sure to invite my kid or include her. (this was all via text message)

So, now it's been a week and I haven't heard from her and I haven't called her. Because I realized we weren't friends after all. I feel as though I'm mourning a friendship, because I thought I had a friend but I didn't.

Does that make sense?

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    1300 days ago
    You were kind to others, and you have done many good deeds. You have done no wrong. Don't let this damage your faith in others. I'm hoping the pain this caused will subisde. Keep on loving, and take care of yourself!
    1301 days ago
    Yup. Totally. People who are that shallow, though, rarely realize that "using people" is what they're doing. She's probably not evil, just stupid and self-centered.

    You should mourn her loss like the loss of a mole on your face that you've had excised. Yes, you look different and something's missing but WAIT, HEY, I LOOK BETTER THAN BEFORE!!

    In other words, no great loss.
    1303 days ago
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