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Wow...just when I start complaining...

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Husband just got home. I'd asked him to stop by Wal-Mart on his way home and get two boxes of pet odor carpet powder with baking soda in it. I also had him buy another three-scented candle that I like, and some Febreeze. I had the windows open all morning, and the house aired out nicely. I vacuumed all the upholstered furniture and sprayed Febreeze on all the fabrics (furniture, curtains, etc). I've sprinkled the carpet powder, but have to wait a while longer before I can vacuum it up. It's already 10,000x better in here, so that has improved my mood immensely. So anyway. Husband came home, gave me my supplies, and then said he was going to get some gas.

He's going to mow and weedeat.

At first, I couldn't even believe it. This is something he NEVER does, and he wasn't even asked to do it. Then it occurred to me: at the risk of sounding like I have a BAD attitude, I think the only reason he's doing the yardwork is because we're having people over tonight. If he didn't "have" to do it, he wouldn't. Maybe I'm not being fair. Maybe he's turning over a new leaf. I'm not holding my breath just yet, though. I'm just going on history here. In all honesty, I don't even care why it's getting done. I'm just glad it's getting done. He did it a week or so ago as well, so to have it done twice in one month is a HUGE deal. HUGE.

Then I had the brilliant idea to have people over more often. I can socialize (something I never do) and the yardwork can get done (something he never does). I I clever or what?!
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    Hope you said how much you appreciate it. !! Men need to hear it too. !! That's great thou. !;)
    1343 days ago
    I've tried the praise tactic. It actually makes the time in between jobs longer. He thinks I'm so happy that it finally got done, that it buys him more time until the next job.
    1344 days ago
    Yes, this is a trick I've used before. It works on me too! Stuff I never want to do miraculously gets done cuz people are coming over!
    p.s. This kind of psychological craftiness works WONDERS with people so I bet if you put your mind to it, you can find ways to get DH to do many other things you want done. For one thing, elaborate praise really works. So when he gets done with the mowing and weed-whacking, try being really, really impressed, like "Wow, that looks so great. You did such a nice job. Thank you, Honey." And don't add anything about how he "never" does it or you are happy you didn't have to nag him for once. Just pure praise. If you keep that up, he'll start to have happy associations with the jobs and will actually go for them more often. Sorry for giving the unsolicited advice but as mom to 3 boys and wife, I've gotten very clever over the years at motivation!
    1345 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/21/2014 2:55:16 PM
    very clever, indeed!
    1345 days ago
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