I'm so annoyed with Husband. I've written before that when he is at home, he is about the laziest human being on Earth. Well, today is no exception.
Before bed last night, I asked him to take the dogs out to use the bathroom before he left for work this morning. He said he would. (He has this really obnoxious habit of not doing it, and blames it on not having "time" or just lets me do it and acts like he is doing the dogs some kind of favor, because by letting me do it, they will be going out sooner to the time they will be left alone). It's just stupid. 20 minutes doesn't make a bit of difference. It's just YET ANOTHER thing he doesn't do...or doesn't do as often as he should...yet another thing he just lets me take care of, as if I don't have enough crap to do around here.
So last night I asked him to be sure to take the dogs out before he went to work. I woke up around 3am and couldn't get back to sleep, so I moved out onto the couch to watch some TV and I ended up falling back to sleep around 5. Husband came out into the living room around 7, and I got up and went back into my bedroom to try to go back to sleep. After just a couple of minutes, I heard the front door open. I listened for a minute, then I heard him walk down the steps. Then his truck started up. Then I heard him leave. DID HE TAKE THE DOGS OUT? NOPE. So annoying! At that point, I was so pissed off that there was no way I could go back to sleep. I texted him right away, asking why didn't he take them out. A half an hour later he finally replied, "I was in a hurry and in a daze and forgot."
Really? How does anyone "forget" something like that? I think that's total BS. He forgot. Yeah right. Who knows, maybe he did. I don't know what's worse: neglecting to do it, or actually forgetting to take them out. Either one is bad. AND ANNOYING AS F--K.
So...Our dogs have this little problem where they "leak" a little urine sometimes while they are lying down. They will get up after a nap, and there will be a little wet spot on the carpet. Sometimes the wet spot isn't so little. I also have an elderly dog who poops on the carpet. Sometimes she goes two weeks and doesn't do it at all, then other times she does it every day for several days in a row. We take the dogs out often, but this is just something we have to deal with. And that is mostly why I am so annoyed when Husband doesn't bother to take the dogs out!! GRRRR!!
The builders of our house put in the cheapest carpet out there. We bought this house brand-new six years ago, and no one had ever lived here before us. About a year after we moved in, I had to shampoo the carpets. We never wear shoes inside our house, I vacuum regularly, etc. The dogs even used to spend 100% of their time in their yard, and that helped quite a bit with the carpet. At this point however, the carpet is just gross. It's stained, it smells...I even live in this house and I smell it. Husband also has this other obnoxious habit of wearing his shoes in the house ALL THE TIME, even though I have literally begged him not to. In spite of my efforts, I've had to shampoo the carpets once or twice per year since we've lived here. It's RIDICULOUS. I've managed to borrow a carpet shampooer from friends, but I really would like to buy my own. We've also been talking about putting down new floors, essentially since we moved in. We need new flooring in the entire house, but the living room/dining room areas are particularly bad. Because of the "leaking" issue, our whole house smells like dog pee. I absolutely can't STAND IT at this point. And I just cleaned the dang carpets in the Spring! I actually even shampooed them twice while I borrowed that shampooer.
It's frustrating and embarrassing and it makes me not want to have anyone over. I've also written before about how particular I am about how I keep the inside of my house. I clean it, I make sure everything is organized and put away, etc. It's so frustrating to have dirty, stinking carpets...and even more frustrating for Husband to tromp around in his shoes all the time, constantly neglecting to take the dogs out...
And guess where he is this morning? Work. Of course. He never "forgets" anything regarding work. He never "forgets" commitments there. He never does a lousy, half-assed job at work. So he's working half a day, and he will come home and the house will be cleaned and ready for company tonight...because he's made his contribution. He's worked.
I'm done. All I'm doing is b!tching right now. I don't have anything else to say. I just want to strangle him sometimes. Why does he do this to me? I mean...I am very adamant and vocal about how I feel about this kind of thing. I'm not a little meek woman hiding out in the corner, afraid to speak up. It just always, always, ALWAYS falls on deaf ears. I know it's easy to say, "well, maybe you let him get away with it." But I don't. I b!tch and moan and beg and plead and ask and demand and NOTHING. EVER. CHANGES. It's been this way the entire time I've known him. Well, the only thing that's really changed is that he is not lazy with work anymore. He used to have the same attitude about his job. When we first got married, he would skip out on work all the time. He'd call in "sick" regularly, he just up and quit one job without even telling me, etc. He's completely changed in that regard, and I'm proud of him for that. But he needs to honor his obligations at home, @#$#$^@!! I'm so sick of it. I mean, honestly. I could just about sit here and cry. At this point, I just give up. Why do I even bother? Why am I even surprised? Why does it still annoy me so much? When am I going to stop half-expecting him to actually do crap around here, willingly and voluntarily? Geez. It's never happened, and it never will. It's time for a serious reality check.
I've kept writing and writing, thinking it would eventually help, but it hasn't. If anything it's made me feel worse, so I really am done now.
I don't even know what my point of this entry is. Just to piss and moan I suppose.