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Mind Games

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

There is a principle in psychology which I forget the exact name of, but the gist of it is- the determination of your level of happiness or satisfaction is not what you have but the difference between you have and what you THINK you SHOULD have. When I got back from vacation I was hoping that I had gained no more than one or two pounds, but I had stayed the same and I was ecstatic. Then two days later, as Slenderella had guessed, I found that I had actually lost two pounds. To top it off, that last two pounds put me at 180. Things were looking fabulous. Then my mind started running. Wow if I can go on vacation and eat out every day and still lose weight, now that I'm home and back to my routine - I'll lose even more ......I immediately started thinking that the 170's were just days away. I started thinking that I had started losing weight a bit more quickly now that summer had arrived and I was outside more. Well, now that I've been home three weeks - same weight. I have also been very active and staying on track with eating. Now I'm not happy. Forget about the previous loss - by my calculations I SHOULD be in the 170's! So what is it about these round numbers? I stayed at 200 for what seemed like forever. So, I'm back to realizing that I am going to keep losing agonizingly slowly. Based on what Kanoe said in a blog I have to start learning to love the journey.
Another mind thing is that yesterday I was going out for my morning walk and my neighbor started raving about how great I looked and how great I was doing. She sees me go out for my jogs and walks and she wondered how I could do that all of the time. I had on my running capris which have a stripe down the side and make me feel very slim and I also feel very fit when I start on my run. (Less fit at the end). So all of this made me feel good. But I still have to remember that I am clinically obese (even though my dentist told me, you're not fat!) I can't rest on my laurels or I'll be resting on fat laurels. Praise has always been a double edged sword for me- is this weird?
So here's what I'm telling myself for today. Forget about any time frame and just keep on doing what you know works and love what you are doing for itself and not for where it is taking you. Have fun. Enjoy the journey.
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    I can totally relate!!!!!!!!!!!! Praise does the same thing to me!!! And it appears I do not lose weight like everyone else..I tend to trend....I trended in the 190s forever. Sometimes I was 198 sometimes I was 196 and then I started trending in the below 195s, now I am trending in the under 185s and have been here for a long time, despite the running and walking and biking I am doing and all the food uneaten!!! I hear ya big time!

    lol I also did a whole blog on mirrors and image perception!!!
    1304 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/25/2014 5:13:55 PM
    Over all, you're steadily losing, and that's great! Your progress is excellent. emoticon
    1306 days ago
    OMG! I am in the exact same position. I was thinking that my weight loss was going to accelerate then it didn't and now I've had a bad week over it. But I am digging in for the long haul. Going to do better. And that weight will come off no matter how slow. I will be patient. But I totally understand how you feel and I am going through it too.
    1310 days ago
    you are at a really good pace - keep going!!
    1310 days ago
    Don't think of it as losing weight slowly; think of it as preparing for a smooth transition to maintenance when you get to where you're going. I lost my weight rather quickly, and the adjustment to maintenance was a shock. I'm thinking the adjustment to maintenance should be easier for someone whose weight comes off more gradually.
    1310 days ago
  • THIN133
    You're doing well . Keep up the determination ..you will.get to your goals !
    1310 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
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    1311 days ago
    Wouldn't it be wonderful if all our thoughts could be positive ones. Keep plugging away. We're behind you! emoticon
    1311 days ago
  • KANOE10
    You have got to learn to love the process or the life that it takes to either reach goal weight or to stay there..but that said, it does not always mean that it will be easy. I understand those mind games. I have also experienced those plateaus where you do everything right and nothing moves on the scale for awhile. Hang in there my friend..it might be slow but you are keeping your weight off and that scale will start moving. I am happy your friend liked seeing the thin you walking your dog!
    You are right..enjoy and celebrate each small step..each one is one step closer to your success.

    1311 days ago
    Hit the post button twice - sorry!
    1311 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/18/2014 10:27:52 AM
    Capri pants with a stripe down the side you feel slim and fit ... I might try that style, too. Sorry! You're baring your mind to us, and I'm looking at your clothes and speculating if those pants would make my butt look as small as yours!

    Here's another mind-chuck: all those people telling you you look great and if you lost any more you'd look gaunt. When you know you have a good chunk to lose and/or convert to muscle.

    Keep the faith!
    1311 days ago
    Ah yes, the games we play, I completely understand. You HAVE to enjoy all the progress you've made and all of the victories that have come with it. This is hard to do, and if you didn't stop to smell the roses, or pizza, it would be that much harder. Keep pushing and have a good time doing it.
    1311 days ago
    I love your final statement and it's so true. Maintenance is a continuation of what you are doing now. I think we all play mind games; most related to the scale. My latest was changing my goal from 135, to 133. I allow +/- 5# as my range the change makes my top weight 138. You see, I agree on those round numbers; 140 is a danger point for me and I'm more likely to go up from there than down. No logic, is what it is. Hold on to those NSV's and enjoy the journey; it's for life! emoticon
    1311 days ago
  • BILL60
    War is hell and you're in the trenches. Keep enjoying the process.
    1311 days ago
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