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Please Help Me Help My Boy

Saturday, June 14, 2014

My son is 11. He is my precious boy. We are very close. He is sensitive like his mother. He has a temper like his father. When he is easily affected by certain situations(because he is sensitive like his mother),he gets angry (like his father) and cries,because he cant hit things,or people,so he has no other outlet,therefore he appears to be 'like a baby'. He is in our gifted class at school,and is so,so loving.

He does not want to see a counselor at school,because he does not want to be looked upon as a troubled or bad child. He has begged me to keep this a secret because I am the only person he can trust......I cant do that,but I dont know what to do....

My baby thinks of suicide.....often.....

What a secret for a mother to hold. Dad would not accept this news very well...might even get angry....would that help? HELL NO

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    I would make an appointment with your son's counselor at school. If you go in to see her and talk she might be able to shine some light on the situation. If your son is talking about suicide, he is already in trouble. If the counselor doesn't help, please seek out a professional to help, ASAP . Your son appears to be carrying a heavy burden and he needs help dealing with it. Dad's temper may be part of the problem. If you have a tight budget, your son's counselor may be able to recommend some county sponsored programs that are either free or on a sliding pay scale.

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    1312 days ago
    Oh Honey! I do not have children, so I have no idea what you are going through. My heart aches for your family and son! The most important thing I know and can do is pray for you all! Many, many hugs to you! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1346 days ago
    Strongly encourage therapy. How about a counselor outside of school. No one in school would have to know. They might help him deal with things better and value himself more.

    Sending prayers your way.
    1348 days ago
    Hey girl emoticon , I'm so sorry, I know how proud you are of your son. Is he being bullied at school? Try talking to the counselor with him there, maybe that will help. I know you are going through things already. If you tell your husband he might get angry, but also if you tell him later he will get angry, and wanted to know why you kept it from him. Take care of your boy is most important. Make it a mommy and son day .take him to a bating cages something like that. But ask him if anybody has been bothering him at school. will be thinking of you emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1350 days ago
  • DALID414
    I'm no help, sorry emoticon
    1350 days ago
    Definitely counseling. It doesn't have to be through the school.

    I am praying!
    1350 days ago
    emoticon Have you thought about your family Dr to see if there they can help? Many times it is due to chemical imbalances. I do know that there are crisis (counseling ) lines that you can call and books. You should see someone even if you can't get him to . There are also some you tubes video's on prevention..... I am praying..
    1350 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/14/2014 10:17:19 PM
  • JACKIE542
    I agree with the others, if he does not want to go to a school counselor please take him to someone else not connected to the school. Much to serious to deal with by your self. emoticon emoticon
    1350 days ago
    I just want to add my voice to those who say that you need to take your child to see a professional. It might very well be a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Your husband is going to have to learn to deal with it. Perhaps he should see one too. I'm not trying to be harsh, but your son needs help. I have to agree that I don't know if school would be the right place to get help, then again, I don't know what type of help you have at the school. Just keep giving your son all of the love that you have been giving him! I will keep all of you in my prayers.
    1350 days ago
  • KONRAD695
    I'm sorry, this is tuff stuff to deal with. My daughter has twice been in a "clinic" and is still doing therapy. She is a love everything black, depressed, cutting herself, suicide thinker. I had her read your blob since she has been through most of this. Her and I came to the same answer.
    Therapy- very quickly. Sorry- I know it's not the best or most comfortable answer. In this case, the quicker acting, the better.

    The good news is that it gets better. Have been dealing with this same thing before, and it's getting healthy.

    Good luck, emoticon

    PS- the whole family needs to do some of the sessions.
    1350 days ago
    Please, please take your son to a counselor. He may not want to go, but you definitely cannot handle this without professional help.

    I have few suggestions: 1). Try to find someone who you feel would be a good person for your son (speak with the counselor first) 2). Find an agency that will take your health insurance for payment, if not, that will put you on a sliding scale, or the school may be able to suggest someone. 3). Find a way to help your son communicate his feelings--example, drawing, running, journaling, etc. 4). Keep a close eye on your son's behavior--that will let you know a lot & journal what you are learning. This can help your son and you to know warning signs. Read all you can about the subject. It's not something people talk a lot about. Knowledge can help and it can give you tools to help your son and his counselor.

    To be honest, I would care care right now what Dad thinks, you son is what is important. A good counselor can help with the dad.
    Keep praying. I am praying for you both. Let us know how things are going.
    1350 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/14/2014 7:34:36 PM
    Oh, you are right to take this seriously! He does need a counselor who is experienced working with young people. The longer he goes through life trying to hide this, the harder it will be for him to deal with it. I speak as one who did not deal with some serious stuff until I was in my 30's! I wish I had had a parent I could talk to who would have gotten me some help. A professional may also be able to help with approaching his dad about this. You were already in my prayers. I will continue to pray for you every day! emoticon
    1350 days ago

    Sorry you have to deal with this alone.Is there someone at your church or a social worker that you can trust? He trusts you . If you can get some help dealing with this you will know how to help him. Sending prayers your way, and pray you will find an answer soon. emoticon
    1350 days ago
  • LINDA7668
    As one of those people that is very emotional and tends to bottle things up, my suggestion is to get him professional help immediately. I was the same way when I was his age but parents either didn't see or was unaware of how bad my depression was. I didn't get help until my mid 20's. I needed it much earlier than that and I don't know how I made it through my teen years.

    For his good, please find him some help. Talk to your doctor about a referral to a good therapist. I'm very afraid of what might happen if you don't. If he does like I did, you only know a small part of what's going on.

    I am probably overstepping my bounds here. But if his father can't accept that your son needs help, then he is part of the problem. You have to do what ever you can to help your son. He should be your top priority.

    Prayers and good thoughts going your way.
    1350 days ago
    My dear, this is a serious situation (well, you already know that, obviously). In this case, I believe you need to pursue counseling. Perhaps the school might not be the appropriate place, but go outside the school . . . find a counselor who works w/pre-adolescents and adolescents.

    I really cannot go into the story here, but my DS went through very emotionally draining times as a pre-teen and teen. Would not have made it through w/o counseling.

    Wishing you luck.
    1350 days ago
  • NEWBIRTH2014
    Hi I'm going to keep you and your family in prayer emoticon , I'd like for you to visit Dr. Hulda Clark website for information regarding parasites. Parasites can cause many damaging effects in our lives including but not limited to issues with the way we thing and act out.

    Check out the various information regarding parasites and consider get a cleansing kit for yourself and your son. Tell me what you think about it, if you actually get a cleanse let me know how you feel afterwards.

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    1350 days ago
    I wish I had an answer for you. How about a trampoline or a punching bag or something where he can expend some energy. I hope some of the other sparkers know of similar situations so they can help you. I can only send prayers your way!!!!
    Best wishes! emoticon
    1350 days ago
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