Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Everyone needs cheerleaders in their life! I have a few, but I've come to realize that you can sometimes sabotage a person's efforts if we don't see each baby step as progress.
One of my cheerleaders truly wants me to succeed. He is genuinely concerned for me and my wellbeing; however, instead of just giving me and "ATTAGIRL" when I start to make changes, he immediately asks what ELSE I could be doing. If someone is doing NOTHING toward reaching a goal then begin to do SOMETHING, I think the least one can do is give that SOMETHING time to take root and allow for visible changes (whether those be emotional, physical, or spiritually) before we CHEER them on to try something more.
For example: Today I shared with him the fact that I've started back into my SparkPeople routine of tracking and participation, AND have started on a program of dance workouts I can do at home. He was happy to hear I was doing those things and promptly gave me an "ATTAGIRL", immediately followed by, "What more can you be doing?" "You should do the routine TWICE a day." " You could go for a long walk in the evening." My initial reaction was to get anxious, but I took a deep breath and responded with, "Before now I was doing NOTHING in the way of accomplishing my goal of getting back in shape....NOTHING." "My eating was out of control and I was completely inactive for many months." I pointed out that, "now I'm taking two steps toward toward my goal." "Last I checked, TWO is more than ZERO." Someday I might very well do some of the other things he suggested; but, for now, I am doing SOMETHING and I'm accomplishing SOMETHING.
It's wonderful to be someone's cheerleader! We all need them! But if YOU are cheering someone on, don't downplay the babysteps....each one is PROGRESS. By doing so, you risk making the person feel discouraged because you've made them feel like they aren't doing enough.
If you have a cheerleader in your life who tends to do this, take a deep breath and remind them that every LITTLE thing you change or do is working TOWARD the BIG reward. Reassure yourself that YOU are your own best cheerleader and you are doing what's best for you.