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Plugging in to plug out


Tuesday, June 10, 2014

So you go to a café, your laptop in tow. The food is good, the tea is hot, the wine is chilled and the Wi-Fi is essential. Your favorite spot, back in far corner, is taken, however. The restaurant is quite crowded this day and the ‘private feeling’, wall-hugging tables are occupied. People here are plugged out, so to speak, and therefore plugged-in, which is exactly what you wish to be doing, as well. You scan the playing field (this is after all your rare moment to play) and you find that the only table near an electrical outlet leaves your back exposed to the eyes of others sitting behind you. Yeh, they may have no interest, whatsoever, in peering over your shoulder to see what you’re up to … and I’m sure they don’t ….. but …



And what are you up to?

OK, you log onto SP. Spin the wheel for a whopping 2 points. Scowl … and move onto the giving out of spark points to your spark teams. Like duh. Why? I used to belong to three teams. Then I quit those teams, yet they come up on my spark page and, yes, I divvy out those spark points to them each time I log on. It is a pointless and mindless exercise, which I seem always ever so mindful of. Spark dude has programmed us, subliminal messages in those HIT status things he shares waaaay too often, and even though I rebel against becoming a Stepford Spark Wife, I seem to have become one.

And I digress …

So, you are plugged in but exposed. You find no mail in your mailbox – bummer – You find no comments left on your spark page. Your blogs are old and uninteresting and no one new has stopped by to say that you are a wondrous human being inspiring millions around the globe. Of course, you have never really inspired anyone and you aren’t trying to. Still, you consider writing a new blog , (who knows, this could be your next masterpiece), but, dang, you just know that lady behind you is looking at your screen. Any minute now you expect her to interrupt your pursuit of blog fame and comment with something like, “Oh my goodness (!!!!), I see you are on Spark People!!! That is sooooo cool! So, what is your user name?”



Oh please, nosy lady, just go away!!! But she does not interrupt you with inquiry. She does not look at you.

And now she is gone. Just like that. She finished off her coffee and the paper she was reading and got up from her chair and without one single admiring glance your way she leaves the building.

What the heck, you think. Where is my celebrity? Hey People! I am here! Look, midway down the room, totally exposed and easily spotted. And you are not bothering to even gaze in a subtle way in my direction. Dang, you people! You don’t even bother to try to peer over my shoulder to see my screen!

Not true when I sat in my private corner, unexposed to prying eyes, yet knowing you wondered about me.

Ego Crushers!

Midway down the room of life, I guess … and you wonder at the glorious feeling you always got when you were in your private place, yet feeling so much a part of the world. Socially unsocial, that is your lifestyle – your comfort zone. It is a lifestyle of our times and it fits you like a favorite garment, worn and tattered, and oh so comfortable.

In the outer circle of the Socially Unsocial Zone, however, it is quite different - and some days that is exactly where you are forced to spend some time. Smack in the middle of life where you don’t matter a hill of beans to those around you. I bet there are days when you might even feel that way here at SP – Smack in the middle of the room … and no one notices you. And all you really want and need is that wall-hugging table and a handy outlet to plug into while you plug out.

Don’t we all need that at times? Needing to know we are still connected here, and especially during the times when we need our socially-unsocial moments.

Anyway, I guess, from time to time, we are all plugged in and plugged out fer a spell – and that can be good for the soul.



Peace!
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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GENRE009 10/7/2014 8:01PM

    Just me again, your faithful friend. I really feel that people take what they need in your blogs, and leave. They never give you what you might have given them. And that corner seat is because we really want to be part of the social circle, yet we never are because we aren't assertive enough. We sometimes want to be discovered by someone wonderful, not the people looking over our shoulders. Life is really dull many time, and we don't fit in, and are lost to being social. Like I said before this blog is amazing in so many ways. I don't even play the start for points any more. Am in some groups but don't bother because they have taught me that I don't matter here. If I simply entertain them , they come, but being controversial they don't bother. unless they want help, then they leave without even a thank you. Lately all I do is blog, because I am so turned off with the haters, and negativity. I guess you could say that I just want to bounce my words off the space wall, and see if it hits anyone. eva

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SUSANSLIFE 10/6/2014 2:48PM

    Hi Julia --- I am looking for your blog post All THINGS BECOME POSSIBLE ... and this is the latest one to sho up! I'll try again late to get your new one. Thinking this WAS your new one and not noticing the June posting date, I happily read this post and it is hysterical! I know exactly what you're talking about and it actually has nothing to do with laptops, wi-fi, coffee and so on. Boy, can I relate......

You have a natural gift for writing and for comedy I hope you pt them to good use in all parts of your life...
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GRANDEFILLE 6/16/2014 5:49PM

    I love this one! really nice! can't really describe how it makes me feel but it's like you've hit the bullseye!

have a great day!

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GIVEUP30 6/12/2014 7:12AM

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859320 6/12/2014 1:35AM

    I can relate to this blog. I love getting mail, comments and goodies. Now I don't feel like the Lone Ranger emoticon

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PICKIE98 6/11/2014 5:26PM

    HAHA!! That lady behind you was ME!! I had no idea YOU lived there, but I sat there for four hours hoping a celebrity would show so I could schmooz with them,, when you sat down, I darned near fainted! I wanted to tell you that you are the spittin' image of a friend of mine.
I almost shouted out, "Meryl, do you know who you are?" OMG,giggle,giggle,, OMG it IS you Meryl!!

I was so intimidated that I nonchalantly got up and left with my cover(newspaper).

We never know what pea is pickin' in anothers' brain,, I bet everybody there wanted to get your autograph, but they were just waiting for the first guy to step up to the plate,,


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IMEMINE1 6/11/2014 12:06PM

    Good blog. Glad Eva shared it.

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ALIIDA 6/11/2014 10:31AM

    This is sooooo funny!

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THINFITFEMINIST 6/11/2014 9:21AM

    We don't need Spark, or the 'net, or computers, or tech toys, or cell phones, or TV, or any other way of disconnecting while wanting to be connected. But we use them and many times abuse them.

We so want what we fear the most: to be One with everyone in Peace. We have to give up what we cling to the most though: our individual separated self. Unfortunately we won't do this...at least for more than an instant.

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123ELAINE456 6/11/2014 9:15AM

  Wonderful Blog!!! And oh so true. Thank You for sharing. God Blessings Always. Have a Marvelous Week. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take Care.

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GENRE009 6/11/2014 6:47AM

    This is from SHERYLP461:This was an amazing blog, she is so right. I/We spend way too much of our day on the computer, cell phone and other gadgets. We all live through others, our own lives need attention.
sheryl

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1CRAZYDOG 6/10/2014 8:35PM

    This my fellow sparker is brilliant!!!!! I am glad that GENRE009 recommended reading!



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NEWTEXDEBBIE 6/10/2014 8:29PM

    I am so in that zone so many times!
Good Call!

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GENRE009 6/10/2014 7:57PM

    DO YOU REALIZE HOW AMAZING THIS BLOG WAS. IT WAS BRILLANT. THIS IS THE DELEMMA OF HUMANS, LEARNING TO BECOME COMFORTABLE IN ISOLATED, TO FEEL WANTED. YET WHEN YOU WANT TO HAVE REAL FEELINGS, PEOPLE CAN'T EVEN REACH OUT. THIS WAS A BRILLANT OBSERVATION. BUT I JUST WANT TO TELL YOU THAT THE CORNERS ARE THE BEST SPOTS I THINK. I JUST HATE WHEN I GO OUT FOR BREAKFAST, AND I AM SEATED ACROSS FROM A DOG AND HIS FAMILY. there ISN'T ANY WHERE FOR ME TO LOOK, SO I PRETEBND TO NOT BE LOOKING. THEN HE JUST GIVES ME THAT LOOK LIKE HE WANTS TO DO BODILY INJURY TO ME IF I CAN'T LOOK SOMEWHERE ELSE. GET OVER YOURSELF, YOU IDIOT. WHENS THE LAST TIME YOU DIDN'T BREAK THE MIRROR? EVA

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SLIMLILA 6/10/2014 7:55PM

    Ok, was going to rush right in and send you email and comment on your old blog, but I'm just too tired.... next time, ok.

Missed seeing your around and hope you are not in pain... we don't need that....Hugs

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REALLY_ROBIN 6/10/2014 5:55PM

  I can't wait for you be done...I need more of your blogs! Hope you are doing well friend...SP has been quite boring without you! And I wish I could run into at that social/not social spot in town...we would have a wonderful conversation amid the glaring eyes of the bloggers!

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GETSTRONGRRR 6/10/2014 5:40PM

    Damn, if only I had known that was you in the middle of the room....I thought it was Meryl Streep and I didn't want to bug her!

Nice blog...plug in more often!

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TWEETYKC00 6/10/2014 5:32PM

    I always love hearing from you! It's fun to have friends here that can understand what you go through on your journey. Hugs.

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