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Swim suit body

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

I do not have one... Just the thought of squeezing into my suit from last year gives me anxiety. I am pretty sure it still fits, but I doubt it would look flattering.

Problem is, my kids are BEGGING me to take them to the pool. and they are too little for me to just drop them off, while I sit pool side, well covered, and say have fun! They require me to go in with them... which means I would have to squeeze into my suit, and do the walk of shame.

I want to distract them with some less reveling activity, but kids are relentless, they wont let this slide. I feel like a horrible mom...

My husband tells me "don't worry about it, your getting exercise" (not bobbing around in the kiddie pool I'm not) "Don't feel anxious about it, just have fun" (right like thats a switch easily turned)

I hate this position I'm in... I wish I didn't feel this way about myself, because it's not only hurting me, it's hurting my kids. My anxiety over the bathing suit, will most likely result in us not going. And my kids crying disappointment. How do I explain to them I'm to ashamed of myself to let them have fun?

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    I feel the same way. Luckily my kids are older and I can sit pool side fully covered but I always feel ridiculous and they still want me with them in the pool so I feel really bad. That is part of why I started SP - one of my long term goals is to feel good enough to get into the pool with my kids - hopefully by next summer
    1318 days ago
    I just found this article on SP. I might not answer all your problems but it has some good info in it. Thinking of you!
    1342 days ago
    You've had some really good advice already, Alicia. Hold your head up and walk proudly into the pool with your kids, there will be lots of other out-of-shape mothers, and you will be having fun with your children. They love you and are proud of you.

    I know you used to swim competitively, and you already know what a great exercise swimming is... so get back in there. You are a beautiful, intelligent woman. Don't let your waist (or lack of) define you.

    And please don't tell your kids that you are ashamed of your body... that could set your beautiful little girl up for a live of judging herself.

    Just do it! Hugs, Gail emoticon
    1352 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/11/2014 8:50:08 AM
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    they have swim suit that are pretty nice that really cover you try and find one that fix for your kids are loving you are you are and they are showing you they love you so come on mom come in with us just walking in the three to four foot is still getting you exercise and water exercise is really good for you......it is so good my grandduaghter got a job at the YMCA teaching water exercise and she is back to her size before the baby...yep my great grand son......
    1353 days ago
    Alecia I can imagine the anxiety I can't tell you how to turn it off but really think about it. You are going to be at the kiddy pool. Take you cover-up off at the side of the pool and slide in. Most people at the pool are too busy to look at everyone else. And if they look , so what look back, you will be surprised at how many moms will right there with you. They are concerned about how they look too. Just smile at them say hi and turn back to your kids and start playing with them. Have fun. Laugh, make memories with your babies.
    1353 days ago
    I'm sorry you feel that way. Can you wear a cover-up or shorts to give you a little more coverage and not feel as self conscious? Just remember, the kiddos don't see that about you. And you don't want to give them the message that you are ashamed of your body. They love you for who you are. Maybe focus on that and enjoying playing with them? I know, easier said than done! Just trying to give you some options.

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    1353 days ago
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