Friday, June 06, 2014
just being negative?!
I was watching The Breakfast Club last night (teen angst movie from the 80's) and trying to stay awake waiting on DD#2 to get home from basketball camp since I had to pick her up @ the school. They were driving back from Nashville and got a late start and hit some traffic/bad weather, so it was about 11 pm. I was thinking about the "sport-o" in the movie and how the kid complained about his Dad and how he "pushed him".
It kind of hit home a little with me because I think I "push" DD#2 too much and come across sometimes as negative instead on encouraging. I've been told this from all 3 girls and DH.
For example, she didn't get home last night until after 11:30 and she and another girl decided that they weren't going to go to volleyball this morning because they were so tired and got home late. In 3 days they played 10 games. They had 2 teams and only 13 girls, so they all played a lot! Her knees were actually a little swollen and she had bruises, etc. (girl's basketball is a contact sport!).
My first thought was to "encourage" her to go because she needs to show the coach her dedication, blah, blah, blah (summer workouts/practice are not mandatory, but highly encouraged).
Fortunately I didn't say that to her last night and didn't say anything to her this morning when I had to let the puppy out (she sleeps in a crate in her room), I just let her sleep. However, I did "fret" about it and felt like she should still go (hence my blog!).
All 3 of my girls are really good kids. They're respectful, smart and hard workers. Yes, it's a very competitive world, but sometimes I just need to "lay off". I really stressed myself out about DD#1 and her grades and she did great! Could she had done better and put in more effort? Of course, but to what expense? She's pretty well adjusted and happy and is going to a great college.
DD#2 is a good athlete that works extremely hard. She too is well adjusted (guess I'm doing something right) and her main reason for participating in sports is the benefit of the exercise and she just loves to play! High School sports are very competitive and most of the kids play year round and also play in the club or travel leagues. A lot of them go to "elite" camps so they can be recognized by colleges for scholarships (parents spend a lot of money for this!). DD#2 is really not interested in this (and we couldn't afford it).
I guess my reason for this blog (besides getting this off my chest) is relating this to my weight loss/fitness journey.
I need to take some examples from DD#2 - work hard, stay positive and remember the reasons you're doing this!