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Preparedness vs Negativity

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

I am listening to lectures about critical decision making from a business professor. He speaks of hashing out plans, of trying to anticipate every possible failure or problem in advance. He cites business plans for new products, plans by generals going into battle, plans for ascending Everest. In all cases people get together to brainstorm, to try to figure out in advance anything that could possibly go wrong, possible problems they may encounter no matter how absurd it may sound, and prepare in advance for those possibilities. Most of their possible problems will not come to pass, and some unanticipated problems may arise, but they think it through up front so they can eliminate as many unwelcome surprises as possible.

Yet when people talk about weight loss plans, any mention of possible pitfalls is considered "negative thinking", that even considering those problems will cause them to come to pass. They think that all they need is a Positive Attitude and the rest will fall in line. That isn't true in any type of endeavor, why would it be with weight loss?

I never walk into a grocery store without a plan. I go to parties with a plan, and mental options to handle all the possible hurdles that may occur. Some people plan their routes to avoid the Dunkin Donuts (few Dunkin Donuts stores appear overnight). I plan my meals in advance so that I am never standing in the kitchen wondering what to eat or feed my husband. I don't do well in that situation.

For me, food surprises are not welcome. I may not handle them well. I doubt people who have always handled food surprises well will find themselves needing Spark.

Thinking about possible failure isn't being negative, it doesn't mean that you will fail. It means that you are always aware of the lurking dangers out there and planning ways to deal with those dangers if they appear.

There is an old saying that says "Failing to plan is planning to fail." Those plans need to include the possibilities that things don't always go as planned, but you will only know how to handle those situations if you give it advance thought. That is not being Negative, it's being Prepared.
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ZEEDRA 6/2/2014 6:55PM

    Thanks, Nell.

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ECCOVISION1 6/1/2014 2:36AM

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TRAVELGRRL 5/29/2014 3:33AM

    Absolutely true~! Thanks for the insight today.

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KALEWINE 5/28/2014 9:38PM

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FELINEBETTER 5/28/2014 7:30PM

    This explains part of your success for sure! Thank you for sharing this! Being prepared still leaves room for choice, but not being prepared leaves you standing in the lurch!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 5/28/2014 5:48PM

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KENDRACARROLL 5/28/2014 1:47PM

    Sometimes you've just got to jump in with both feet.
Don't believe there's a right or wrong.
Personalities, confidence levels, coping procedures are different for everyone. I find that planning out every possible scenario gets me stuck.
Spontaneity (not recklessness) is a good thing :)

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JANET552 5/28/2014 11:38AM

    This is excellent advice!! I plan my meals in advance because, like you, I don't like to have to think of something on the fly. That never goes well for me. Perhaps I don't plan enough but I find that is changing lately. And, you know what, I'm also losing weight again. Coincidence? Maybe but I think probably not.

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KAYYVAUGHN 5/28/2014 9:18AM

    Very good Nell. I am trying.

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MILLEDGE2 5/28/2014 6:42AM

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WATERMELLEN 5/27/2014 11:29PM

    Excellent blog -- for me, preparation is a huge part of maintenance. I can resist anything but temptation, so I have to plan to avoid temptation. Will power won't work reliably when exhausted -- gotta plan so that the will power isn't over-taxed!!

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ICECUB 5/27/2014 6:57PM

    THANK YOU WHEN I WRIGHT EVERYTHING DOWN I AM MORE SUCCESSFUL emoticon

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GABY1948 5/27/2014 6:16PM

    I don't think I ever really stopped to think of this in just so many words. But, I shall never forget it. I have always planned for "what ifs" so that I didn't go off track by "accident" but this certainly puts it into words for me.

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AJDOVER1 5/27/2014 4:27PM

    I'm impressed with your ability to come up with a successful plan. I followed your kitchen renovation with fascination and real pleasure.

I like to think that this is a learned skill. If either of us had lived a perfectly planned life, our paths probably would not have crossed here on SparkPeople.

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TENNESSEEWALKER 5/27/2014 2:54PM

    Huh! Did the lecture ever get to planning for and celebrating success? Seems to me that the people who get to the head of the class ALSO think about getting to the goals and what they will do upon achieving the goal, maybe even exceeding the goal. Not that I speak from experience, but rather the sidelines.

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JAMIRBLAZE 5/27/2014 11:42AM

    emoticon I think planning and recognizing potential pitfalls is key to success and maintenance.

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NASFKAB 5/27/2014 10:37AM

  great

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GOOSIEMOON 5/27/2014 9:55AM

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