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Weight maintenance can be a highly-skilled life coach!

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Saturday, May 24, 2014

Every experience in our lives has something to teach us. Every ordeal, every struggle that we go through leaves their mark on our personality, our behavior, our way of thinking. Weight loss couldn't be an exception to this. We learn many things about ourselves while in the battle with our weight and we adapt our frame of mind according to the difficulties that we face and the problems we manage to overcome. But who would have thought that this wonderful process continues and gets even stronger after we reach our weight goals and start deciphering the maintenance riddle?

All of you maintainers out there know what happens when we enter the maintenance phase. We go through a period of "deflation". There is no obvious progress anymore and our enthusiasm starts to decrease. People's comments get rarer and the amazement in our great accomplishment starts deflating like a helium balloon. Soon, people register us in their minds as normal-weight persons. And the journey is over for everyone. But not for us. Because this is the milestone of our journey. This is where we are tested as to whether we have learned the most important lesson: how not to quit.

This "deflation" period actually introduces us to the battle that we'll be fighting for the rest of our lives. If we let our vigilance sleep, the weight will come back. If we start forgetting about the healthy habits we have established, the weight will come back. If we loosen our diligence, the weight will come back. And occasionally we will do all these. And the weight will, indeed, start coming back. And we'll start practicing the most important lesson we've learned: how not to quit. And how to keep going without the excitement of having lots of pounds to lose and expecting to see huge changes on our bodies. There's no cheering and applause in maintenance, no standing ovations. Just pure will to continue fighting against the odds.

But what's really amazing is that this fighter's mentality, this will to go on and not quit follows us to all other aspects of our lives.
I used to be a quitter before. I would easily forget about my goals upon stumbling on the very first difficulties.

Not anymore.

I recently had to deal with many obstacles while fighting unemployment and trying to set up a small business of my own. I hit a wall many times and I will definitely find myself in the same situation in the near future. But I realized that the thought of quitting never crossed my mind. I would always try to find a way to climb the wall. And keep on trying. Until I hit the next one.

The mind of a non-quitter. The gift of maintenance, one of the best life coaches we've ever had. Lessons learned while fighting with the weakest parts of ourselves. Lessons practiced daily.

For the rest of our lives.


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OHMEMEME 7/29/2014 7:52PM

    Searching for inspiration on the maintenance team and found your blog. Thanks for sharing. So so so true. Needed this today. Keep Sparking!
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BHENDRICK2 7/8/2014 12:37PM

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MUDGE4 7/8/2014 8:12AM

    Awesome! I love your thinking about obstacles- it's a gift that life gives us! emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 6/30/2014 7:16AM

    Wow! What a great blog... don't know how I missed it before. I followed you home when you added me as a Spark friend, and found... a kindred spirit! Like it, like it, like it! emoticon emoticon m

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BAKER1009 6/30/2014 6:11AM

    Sorry I'm so late on reading this, but what a great read! You should be a writer Elle, I'm tellin' ya! (Side note: I keep forgetting to tell you that I'm in class with a girl named Eleni! Always makes me think of you!!)

You're such a strong, passionate, woman and I love you for that. Thanks for this lesson. Now let's push ourselves, because we know we can handle it!

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KIMBERLY_Y 6/18/2014 9:29PM

    Well said! Thank you.

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JEANKNEE 6/17/2014 12:36AM

    Your blog is so timely! I claimed yesterday as my *official* entry into maintenance. I am both excited and scared. Love the thought of maintenance gifting us with a life coach.

Excellent insight. Thanks for sharing it.

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SUNSHINE20113 6/15/2014 6:04PM

    Great blog!

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ROXYCARIN 6/15/2014 1:04AM

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AEROBISAURUS 6/14/2014 6:29PM

    Wow Elle! Look at all the comments girl!! And an award too emoticon you my friend deserve it. This is a beautifully written blog and I absolutely love it! You took inspiration in your little slump and made it a motivation not only for you but for our whole SP community too! There is a lesson in everything :) I hope you are feeling stable again in your person life. You are a beautiful warrior and fighter, and you have a beautiful spirit. Best way to keep your shine ... gettin' sweaty! Everyday is day to get stronger. LOVE YOU!!

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MEXGAL1 6/14/2014 5:58PM

    great blog...love when we "get it"
Have a great week end.
Sallie

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DSJB9999 6/14/2014 9:50AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon for sharing your emoticon thoughts, hope I can be as strong as you when I get to my target at last!
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MJREIMERS 6/13/2014 10:38PM

    Isn't it great when we finally "get it?" Well stated, articulate and an emoticon blog! Congrats on all your accomplishments. Keep going!

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WENDYANNE61 6/13/2014 3:43AM

    Thank you for this insightful, empowering blog! Keeping involved in the Spark Community has really helped me along this never-ending maintenance journey! Great to read all the comments too!

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TORTISE110 6/12/2014 3:55PM

    Bravo!

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AMARILYNH 6/12/2014 2:48PM

    So VERY VERY true!! Great blog!! emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEMT 6/12/2014 12:55PM

    What a great blog! How true! Thank you for putting it so eloquently!

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KATIE3908 6/12/2014 12:14PM

    Oh so true. You hit the nail on the head.

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PACKERMANN 6/12/2014 10:08AM

    thanks for sharing your maintenance insights!


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FELINA 6/12/2014 10:00AM

    So very true! Thank you for a great, inspiring blog.
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CELIAMINER 6/12/2014 8:21AM

    Very inspiring!

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TORTISE110 6/12/2014 7:57AM

    I so agree with you. We will do what it takes. We will!

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KELLIEBEAN 6/12/2014 5:58AM

    Hey hey! I'm so behind in blogs! This is definitely a must-read for all maintainers! I have found working hard at maintaining has helped me improve in other areas if my life. This has been so much more than weigh loss!

Excellent blog!

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ELLEKTRA 6/12/2014 2:51AM

    Amazing blog and really honest and those struggles are so real! But you seem keep TKOing them!
Thank you for this!

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_LINDA 6/12/2014 1:58AM

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BOPPY_ 6/12/2014 12:34AM

    Congratulations! You're plotting your course, and continuing to succeed.

Steady state requires attention. It is a direction and plan, not a place.

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DAWNDMOORE40 6/11/2014 11:50PM

    emoticon emoticon I know with your positive attitude you will go far in your maintenance journey! You are right when you say that is when our journey really begins is once we have reached our goals and we have to maintain the weight. I find it's the hardest chapter of our journey. Best wishes to you and maintaining your goals! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BESSHAILE 6/11/2014 10:10PM

    All the great achievements of my life came when I just did not quit.

And then

Started over again.

You sound like a soul sister.



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JANCARD 6/11/2014 10:01PM

  Thank you for this blog. VERY timely for me and spot on!

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GEMLADYONE 6/11/2014 9:56PM

    Hi Elle! You have hit the nail on the head, as usual....great blog!

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ECCOVISION1 6/11/2014 9:39PM

    I appreciate this blog very much!!

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MOONCHILD8 6/11/2014 9:17PM

    So true. Do not quit. I am a maintainer too. I have been so busy working and have not focused on the eating and exercising. I have it in a habit form now. I am working on avoiding the extra summer foods. No high calorie drinks for me. No Dunkin colattas, no soda, no sweetened ice teas, no big burgers, no fries and no sweets. Linda from bean town

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GLORIAMAJDI 6/11/2014 8:58PM

    Your blog is amazing, thank you! I relate to this very much. I have quit before but am so determined not to this time. I try to find ways to keep myself motivated because you are right...there are no more pounds to come off, no more compliments from others. So I think of it as a compliment to myself that people DO see me as a normal weight person now! I see so many people lose and gain it back due to boredom, stress, and crazy in their lives. I hope that I have learned to manage those obstacles. Sounds like you definitely have!

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HMMILLER007 6/11/2014 8:34PM

    Awesome blog! You couldn't have said it better! It can be a slippery slope once you let yourself go, and it will always be a bit of a struggle to continue with diligence to stay in a healthy weight range. I never thought about how that struggle and subsequent strength could spill over into all aspects of daily life!

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HOLLYM48 6/11/2014 8:14PM

    You are absolutely right. What a fantastic blog. We have fought a hard battle but it is not over, we must continue to fight every day so that we can maintain this weight loss. It is not always easy because we have to stay disciplined forever. It is truly a lifestyle that we must adopt forever or we will be right back in the same boat and we will have to try to lose the weight all over again. I choose to fight daily to maintain because weight loss is hard and I don't want to do it again. Thanks for a great reminder of what we have gone through and what we must do to stay in this fight! All the best to you.
Congrats on your 2 years of maintenance! That is just pure awesome!

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SLENDERELLA61 6/11/2014 7:02PM

    Wonderful blog. Thanks. Never giving up is the key for sure!! Celebrating myself when no one else is celebrating is another key. Glad you are on my team. Together we are strong!!! -Marsha

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RR1_RR1 5/30/2014 9:27AM

    Really cool! I just read a book on willpower. He defines it in 3. I "will" power. I "won't" power and I "want" power. Reminds me of this blog, seems like all 3. emoticon

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_JODI404 5/25/2014 9:38PM

    I super *L*O*V*E* this blog!!

I especially love the conclusion, and the picture:
"The mind of a non-quitter. The gift of maintenance, one of the best life coaches we've ever had. Lessons learned while fighting with the weakest parts of ourselves. Lessons practiced daily.

For the rest of our lives."

Such a great perspective! I'm glad we are equipped with the knowledge and skills to take on the challenges. Prior success means we CAN do it. We KNOW what to do.... just must continue to do it!

Best wishes for much success in your new business too!

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MICKEYH 5/25/2014 9:10PM

    Great blog! This is so true and I've learned " how not to quit"is so difficult.
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PATTISTAMPS 5/24/2014 1:26PM

    that is so inspiring! Yes, we often look at that goal weight as an "end", when in fact, it is a beginning of a new phase. And who has not lost weight and put it right back on - because we were on a "diet" and not changing our lifestyles. Hurray for your achievements, and hurray for your sticking to it... in Spark and in life!!!

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GINA180847 5/24/2014 12:59PM

    This is so true and a great lesson for life. You have done a great job laying it all out there and I thank you.

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