Remembering To Be Supportive
Friday, May 16, 2014
Good Morning my SP friends. This morning is the perfect morning for laying in bed. It started raining some time last night. Weather man says it won't lighten up until this afternoon. Everyone needs this kind of morning. Just relaxing. Gives one time to reflect. What am I reflecting today? I am reflecting how I react when I get stressed. I don't handle stress very well. But its how you deal with stress. I get myself all worked up before I even think out the situation. But many of us do this.
Today I am spending it with my friend Rhonda.She just dealt with her second round of breast cancer. She has gone through a mastectomy and chemo. She is not done with the need of her friends and support. We all notice when someone has had to deal with a serious illness, there is a lot of help. But soon people fade away. The emotional end of such an illness is very present. It hasn't hit her until now.
This is an issue all of us with weight issues have. How we feel about our physical appearance. When we are fully dressed, others don't understand how we look under the clothes. We have thoughts such as...OMG...who is ever gonna like me now, look how disgusting I look, don't look at me, turn the lights off, no I'm not going to the beach...what am I suppose to wear.
So we hide. We hide under over sized clothes. We stop being as social as we used to be. We dive into the nearest cabinet of food, the closest restaurant, grazing like a herd of farm animals.
Me and Rhonda go way back. We both suffer from weight problems. Now her issue is far more involved than mine. I can't imagine how she really feels deep down inside. My job right now is to be there. I don't have the words to completely calm her or answers to her questions and fears. This is when silence is golden. Its the unspoken words that speak loud.
We will be going out to eat for lunch. Food is a great comfort. I am choosing today to order healthy good choices. I try to teach by example. I find great comfort in grilled shrimp, grilled zucchini, and spaghetti squash. Yum Yum...I'm getting hungry for lunch now and haven't even had breakfast yet!
Enjoy your day. Reach out to someone you haven't spoke with lately. Reconnect. Spread the love.