Yesterday I got together with a friend who I haven't seen in a while. When I told her that I was having trouble losing weight because I was stressed, she didn't understand why. She explained to me that she didn't see me being stressed. So, I started to second guess myself. Am I really stressed?
Well, yes I am. There are many reasons as to why I am stressed and normally I can handle the stress in ways that are not hurting me, and other times it hits me so strongly that I can't seem to stop eating, laying around worrying and sleeping (or at least trying to sleep, but failing and being overly tired.)
Stress is defined as "a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances." Losing weight is a stress factor for me all on its own. The added pressure of work, money, cleaning, family and so many other things... my stress level is through the roof. I took a quiz just to see, and I got a 25 out of 48, which suggests that I experience low levels of anxiety but too much stress in my life. Go figure right?
So why didn't my friend understand? Because I guess I do not show how stressed out I am when other people are around. I do not like people knowing that I am struggling or having a hard time because 1. they either don't care or 2. they think they are worse off. When you are having a bad, the last thing you need to hear is someone telling you that they are having a worse day than you. My husband does this to me ALL the time, with anything. It does make me laugh because it is predictable.
Why am I writing this? Because I am taking a big step in my life and adding on to the stress in a good way. Also I wanted to let other know that they are no alone. I am trying to lose more than 50 pounds and I am struggling to lose the first 10. I doubt myself every day because of this. Am I able to do this? Do I have the will power and strength to do what needs to be done? Yes, I do however I let the stress that is in my life pull away from doing what I know needs to be done. That is where I am falling short and since I am adding this new big stress factor in to my life, I was hoping that someone out there would be able to share what they do to help keep their stress levels down and manageable.
One of the people I talked to a problem did not give me a reasonable answer and actually would have caused me more stress... so I am not asking people who obviously have no clue what I am going through.
I would like to end this by saying that it is raining
right now to the point where I can hardly see out of my window, crazy insane weather!
in advance to anyone and everyone who shares their success on stress!