Sunday, May 11, 2014
Three years ago my Mom suffered from a stroke and developed dementia. My older sister and brother stepped in and found our loving Mom an excellent care facility. 18 months ago Mom's left lung quit working and she also developed shingles. Luckily, my sister, Joyce, made sure Mom was placed in hospice care at this time, so our dear Mom would receive needed stronger pain medications.
My sister is our Mom's Power of Attorney for care. My sister has a problem with self confidence. My purpose the whole time has been to 100% support every decision Joyce makes concerning our Mom's care. One choice Joyce decided on is that on July 4th 2012 this was the last time I visited with our MOM at her care facility. The two reasons for this are for Mom and myself. I have had bi-polar disorder for the past 30 years. Mom's condition is that 98% of the time she sleeps and wakes to receive puree food. Mom has very little awareness of her surroundings and the people around her. My sister's concern for our Mom is that if Mom became aware that I was visiting Mom, Mom would be concerned about me and how I saw Mom. This would lead to our Mom being very agitated and upset. Joyce's concern also has been for me. how it would affect me with my condition to see our Mom's state of health.
On my last visit to my Mom, on July 4, 2012, Mom was awake as I left from my last visit with her. I gave Mom a huge, well deserved bear hug and said, "I LOVE YOU!". Mom said, "ME TOO!" These were the words Mom always said when I said "I LOVE YOU!" When Mom goes to HEAVEN I will always remember "ME TOO!" It meant to me that Mom knows that it was ME whose last words to her were "I LOVE YOU!". This is so precious to me and Joyce feels that this will always be one of my favorite memories of our MOM, for the rest of time I spend on Earth!!
I LOVE YOU MOM!