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Saturday, May 10, 2014

It's odd to me when I don't blog daily. I see I've missed two days. Fear not, I'm not on a bender!

This week, my thoughts have been refusing to mature into the next blog. I have had a blog dancing in the back of my head about healthy boundaries and how they differ from the barriers so many of us put up for self-protection... how sometimes the lack of boundaries leads to the building of barriers, and how strengthening the boundary between self and others can help one drop the barriers and feel more connected to others.

It has just not organized itself in my mind. So that blog has not been written. Maybe someday it will flesh out, and you'll see it... maybe it will never bear fruit, but I just gave you a hint, and maybe some of you will find in the hint a glimmer of something useful. This germ was born on my Tuesday bike commute home and during my Wednesday strength training session, and continued to tease me during my run after work Thursday.

I got a phone call Thursday evening from ALICIA363 and we talked about writing and I mentioned something that for me is a truth. The long hours spent in training let the mind roam. Thinking is a fine exercise of the mind. I could get lost in there!

As a child, I would hide from the neighbor girl who wanted to play simply because I wanted to be alone with my imagination and thoughts. Sometimes I still get that way. When the body is fit, I can use solo exercise as an excuse to get some of that alone time with my thinking. I have to be careful, of course, to also pay attention to my surroundings, so I don't fall off the bike, or lose count of my laps, or run across a busy street without looking, etc., but I do love getting lost in the motion and letting the thoughts roam.

Here's hoping you have both the time to think and the opportunity to be active... they are not mutually exclusive!

LIFE is good. It's better when I'm fit. And of course it's at its best when I have connections to others on the journey! Creatively, consciously, and consistently making decisions to support long term health... I am GRATEFUL for each and every day!

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DOGLADY13 5/13/2014 7:09AM

    There is something so wonderful when you can let your mind just go and your body is doing its own thing and "it" happens. I can't describe "it", but it's a great place to be.

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LEWILL1982 5/12/2014 9:29AM

    I've discovered I do my best and most creative thinking while cooking or in the shower. I don't "think" well during work outs, mostly because I get pretty focused on just trying to complete the task at hand and making sure I'm giving it 110%. I've found that when my mind wanders during a track work out, then that lap is typically slower. I don't tend to multitask well!

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KALIGIRL 5/12/2014 8:57AM

    "time to think and the opportunity to be active... they are not mutually exclusive!"
Finding the balance in all things...
Hope you are not overdoing my friend and sorry I am not there to participate with you. As we both have learned, the journey is the joy, the emoticon simply another step.

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SLENDERELLA61 5/11/2014 10:15PM

    So glad you are back to blogging! As always, interesting perspective and helpful ideas. Spark On for sure!! Blog, too, whenever it fits your life! I understand letting a blog simmer on the backburner for a while. And letting it come out during or after the release of a workout, well, that's a great way to do it!!

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LOVINGKATE 5/11/2014 3:23PM

  Solo walks sound so inviting. I will go for one and let my mind wonder.

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HILLSLUG98239 5/11/2014 12:32PM

    I started to write a reply, and it looks like I need to write a blog now. Interesting topic!

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DDOORN 5/11/2014 11:48AM

    I remember how conducive cycling can be to getting the mental gears turning...


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LEANJEAN6 5/11/2014 9:16AM

    Happy Mom's Day to my idol------I wish you PEACE-----Love, Lynda-

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KPETSCHE 5/11/2014 4:11AM

    You said some very interesting stuff, Barb. I love to take the time to think things over on my long walks (or runs). It's good to get away and just think sometimes.
Have a great Mother's Day!
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WATERMELLEN 5/10/2014 9:53PM

    Love to "zen out" with exercise -- and often find that I "have thought" after the exercise session is over, perhaps resolved a problem that was simmering on the back burner, without having been conscious of thinking about it during the exercise itself.

Running was great for that -- and I miss it: bt cross country skiing and the elliptical or the rowing machine work very well also.

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GABY1948 5/10/2014 7:06PM

    MY time is first thing in the morning...I get up a good 3 hours before dh...he is a night person, I am a morning person.

I know EXACTLY what you mean...when he "accidentally" arises early for a few minutes I have to really hold my tongue thinking he is intruding on MY time... emoticon

I do hope your other blog comes to fruition because it sounds just TOO interesting!

Have a great evening!

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DLDMIL 5/10/2014 7:02PM

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LINDAKAY228 5/10/2014 4:34PM

    I love doing some things by myself too and having the opportunity to think and just be with myself and no one around. I am also very conscious though of my surrounding and take precautions. I see people who can't be along for a minute with themselves and can't understand. But I guess they see me and feel the same way ha ha. Enjoy your time to think and also to write.

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PHOENIX1949 5/10/2014 3:43PM

    Keep on roaming and writing.

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DALID414 5/10/2014 11:46AM

    Maybe this is what I need, to actively let my mind roam.

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LEANJEAN6 5/10/2014 9:54AM

    Liu IS good---Rock on girl!-Lynda

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NEW-CAZ 5/10/2014 9:38AM

    I love solo walks, my me time! emoticon

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SPINNINGJW 5/10/2014 8:47AM

    I too, find my walking time thinking time. My thoughts don't seem to come out as eloquently as yours though. Doesn't matter, it is the process that counts!

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MJREIMERS 5/10/2014 8:34AM

    I've always been one that has no problem being alone. Reading, riding my horse or just sitting outside.

I also like to exercise in solitude. I like to hear my breathing and let the thoughts come in and out of my head. Now that I started yoga, I see how important paying attention to my breathing is.

Life is great and there is no wrong way to get moving! Keep at it sparkfriend!

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    The answer to those points lies in going beyond thought into Knowing.

The thoughts that we are aware of are simply reactions to our reactions of what we experience.

What we experience is simply an expression in form of our unconscious decision between fear and Love.

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EBEAMS 5/10/2014 8:21AM

    I need to get better at "hiding out" in my exercise disguise! emoticon

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KANOE10 5/10/2014 8:12AM

    I do like the alone time for thinking when I exercise. I do not blog as often, but often compose the blogs that I write while I am walking.

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1CRAZYDOG 5/10/2014 8:09AM

    My walk in solitude (well, with Mr. Spot the Wonder Dog) is MY time to think and ponder. I too don't need to be "plugged in". My DD (18) it seems always needs the stimulation of music being pumped into her ears, the computer on, talking on the phone. I'd be on sensory overload!

For me it's a necessity to have that "download time". It re-charges me. I am not an introvert necessarily, and certainly not anti-social. But I have that protective boundary for me -- I need to have my space.

I consider for me if a boundary helps me grow in the direction I want to grow, that's good! If it DOESN'T then it needs to be examined and I need to make the necessary changes.

For what it's worth, that's my short Readers Digest response!

Have a wonderful Saturday and Happy Mothers Day!

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This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
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BROOKLYN_BORN 5/10/2014 7:48AM

    We're kindred spirits on this one. I don't need music piped into my ears while I run. My own thoughts are good enough.

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ALICIA363 5/10/2014 7:48AM

    Comment got too long ... I put it into a blog:


Love you!

Comment edited on: 5/10/2014 7:51:27 AM

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MSLZZY 5/10/2014 7:35AM

    I find my best blogs are written in my head when I am far away from paper or computer to write them down. Later, they never come out the same. But going solo and thinking brings a peace of it's own.
Happy Mother's Day!

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SHRINKBUG 5/10/2014 7:29AM

    Over the years, I've noticed that the most inventive solutions to my problems come to me while I am running. Things become clear. I think a small part of it is being alone with my thoughts, and a large part of it is how fresh air, blood pumping, and endorphins improve my thinking.

As always, your blog is a motivating force for me. Going to go warm up and run!

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