Good morning, Sparkers! I can't even begin to tell you how much less overwhelmed I feel today even though I still have a ridiculously long to-do list and there are a gazillion and one activities going on. So what has gotten me to this place? I was listening to a podcast last night and this morning during my commute and it was revolutionary!!!
I am a regular listener to the Another Mother Runner (AMR) podcast. I also read their blog, follow them on Facebook, read their books...you know...I'm pretty much an AMR stalker. But I just absolutely adore their amazing advice and the community - or tribe as they call it - of women runners that they have built. And they just are amazing women that battle the same things so many of us do - finding the time to fit it all in while wearing the many hats we wear in a day: wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, employee, co-worker...you get the idea. The list could go on...and I'm sure we are all overwhelmed by it. And the gals at AMR get that. They really do...and just a side point, yes, they are Another MOTHER Runner, but you don't have to be a mother to be a member of the tribe. You might just be a mother to fur babies, and you might not even be a mother, but a father instead! It all applies, but there is a lot of female-related TMI so just a word of warning to the fellas! LOL
Okay, so back to the story. The podcast I've been listening to is Episode #107: Time Management Tips with Jill Farmer. I don't know who Jill Farmer is, but I've learned she's a pretty bright lady! Here's the description of the podcast from the AMR site: Another Mother Runner Radio #107: Time Management Tips from Jill Farmer
Dimity and Sarah suspect you’re in the same proverbial boat they often are: drowning in seeming “must-do’s” and “gotta-get-done’s.” So they brought on Jill Farmer, a time- and life-management coach in St. Louis, to help unravel the busy cluster of mother runners’ lives. Jill shares some insightful, yet delicious simple, solutions on how to shed some stress and get more done in a day. (Including making sure you have enough time for your all-important runs!) We love that she even uses running terms, like “bigger strides, longer goals” as analogies for accomplishing more in life. But before the mother runners dive into the de-stressing discussion, find out where Dimity and her family went for spring break—and why it didn’t feel very spring-y.
- See more at: anothermotherrunner.com/
So a couple of the takeaways are changing the way we look at our to-do lists. Mine is a mile long right now and just looking at it scares me because I don't even know where to start! But here's the thing...when we say that we HAVE TO do something, it kind of invokes panic and anxiety and triggers our natural flight or fight response, which actually makes it harder to get anything done because then we are just in a state of panic and LESS focus. But if we look at our list of tasks as what we GET TO do or CHOOSE to do it makes it less stressful which in turn allows us to focus on the actual tasks instead of the panic it induces. So as an example I have a lot of friends that have kids in t-ball that just started up and that means practices and all kinds of those "have to do" moments. But those parents are all CHOOSING to put their kids in t-ball. They all GET TO have the opportunity to participate in sports with their children. They don't HAVE TO. See the difference there? We don't have to spend time fixing a healthy lunch, but we may CHOOSE to and we may GET TO.
Fixing my food for the day is somewhat of a chore and it is usually the thing I make the least amount of time for in my morning. But you know how lucky I am that I have good healthy food in my fridge and that we live in a country where food is in abundance? So the fact that I GET TO even bring my lunch to work is something I'm grateful for. Big difference...
The other big takeaway for me was when we say we "don't have time to do x, y, and z". Fill in the blank with whatever. If we say "there isn't enough time in the day to do what I need to do!!" again, it inspires fear, anxiety, frustration, helplessness and lots of other negative feelings. So if we just rephrase/reframe it in our minds we can find peace. She basically laid it out as how many hours are in the day? 24, right? Does that change ever? In other words, is there a variable...is there more hours or less hours on some days? No - there isn't. It is the same, forever and always. So there IS time in the day, right? So just stop yourself from saying "there isn't enough time" and start saying "there is time to accomplish x, y, and z". Do you see the difference in your own response to those two phrases? I know for me I definitely do! There may not be enough time to do every single task on my list, but there IS time to accomplish a lot of my tasks. Some of them I may choose to push to the next day, but there is time to do something. And that's the case every. single. day. There is time and we are lucky enough to get to choose how we spend it a majority of the time.
Anyways, she said it all way better than I ever could...if you have a chance to listen to it, I highly recommend it! Yes, they bring it back to running and fitness a lot, but there are a lot of great nuggets in there that can be applied to anyone's life. You don't have to be a runner to feel overwhelmed by life's responsibilities. Am I right on that or what?!?
On the other front, diet is going fairly well, but I have to say that I haven't been as diligent this week as I was at the start. I am going to choose to work harder at this...I get to have treat meals on the weekend, there's no reason I need to be eating treats during the week.
My training plan this week so far has consisted of a "fun workout" on Monday - I was so thrilled to see that instead of 3 or 4 miles! My brain was ready for a little break, so I did a treadmill walking workout instead for 30 minutes. Then yesterday was 5 miles. Yes, 5 miles...on a weekday. I'm still having a hard time wrapping my brain around doing those kinds of miles on a random weekday! LOL I'm used to those being weekend miles and here I am banging out 5 miles on a Tuesday morning. It's kinda awesome and crazy all at the same time! And we won't even start to talk about the 7 and 8 mile runs that are coming up down the road...I'm not ready to think about those ones yet. :-)
Alright - have a great day Sparkers! Make good choices and be at peace!