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Stress, thy name is daughter II

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

For my Dad
I still have to call the VA off ice to find out what is happening with his benefits.
I have to send a copy of my father's death certificate to his anesthesiologist. emoticon
I still have to find out my nephew's account info.
I still have to send out checks to his beneficiaries.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
JAZZEJR 4/29/2014 9:24PM

    Great job! Having been there myself, I can only will all get done. Don't stress.

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FLORIDASUN 4/25/2014 10:56AM

    You have already whittled your list down...impressive. Your dear daddy is giving you a thumbs up for support! emoticon

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NELLJONES 4/24/2014 7:52AM

    I settled my MIL's estate and the process was neverending. I does, however, end.

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CATIATM 4/23/2014 1:34PM

    Wow - busy! emoticon

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IFDEEVARUNS2 4/23/2014 11:59AM

    emoticon Been there. emoticon

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WILSONWR 4/23/2014 9:30AM

    I just finished having to do these things myself. They are definitely difficult when you are grieving. Do take care of yourself.

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SVELTEWARRIOR 4/22/2014 11:34PM

    Please remember to take care of yourself during this stressful time.

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GRACEOMALLEY 4/22/2014 7:00PM

    It is not easy, my friend, but hopefully we will all have somebody who will do that for us.

I ended up doing that for an elderly friend of a former boy-friend that 'd become fond of who had no family. It was not fun and it was often heart wrenching and a lot of other things that are not pleasant, but it was my last chance to show my respect and affection for the man. It had to be done and somebody had to do it, so I decided it may as well be me and then I'll know it was done right. Sometimes I think about the fact somebody will have to do at least some of that for me, no matter how well I plan ahead and I view my helping with that for others and for my mother to some degree, as paying it forward in a sense.

Hang in there. I ferl sure your father is watching and appreciating your efforts on his behalf.
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JUSTME29 4/22/2014 6:57PM

    Having to cope with all of this is truly overwhelming - and that you are handling it with such grace is a testament to your ability and to the father that raised you.

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ADIOSALL 4/22/2014 6:19PM

    Don't VA benefits stop when we die? Not like social security to to the dependents.

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PICKIE98 4/22/2014 4:24PM

    I did all of the work when my dad dies in 2000. It was a very stressful year and reams of paperwork. I never want to repeat it, BUT I learned a lot. Since then, every person I contact for business related things, is very impressed that I know about this or that procedure .

Nobody will haul you off to prison if you are not speedy. It is not against the law to take your time and do it right, It is REALLY okay to ask people on the other end of that phone line for H*E*L*P*!!!

Admitting ignorance is a sign of a person who will gladly do the task if only shown how!!
P.S. I saw that pic of your Dad.. He is so cute and looks like such a fun, happy guy. You are blessed..Know that he is right her ewith you, in that room, watching you struggle and trying to do things right. What would he say to you? It's okay... emoticon

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SIOL55 4/22/2014 3:59PM

  I'm sure doing these things are very stressful for you. Be sure to take time, if only minutes, for yourself. You sound like a wonderful nurturing person. emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 4/22/2014 3:47PM

    emoticon It's terrible to have to do those kinds of things while still in deep grief.

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