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Stress, thy name is daughter

Monday, April 21, 2014

My dad died over a month ago and my tasks as executer of his will are driving me crazy! I've decided to keep track of all of the things I have to do here so I won't miss anything

Here is the list:

I have to call the VA off ice to find out what is happening with his benefits.
I have to send a copy of my father's death certificate to his pension folks. emoticon
I have to call the the Trident Society and ask for an itemized bill emoticon
I have to call the anesthesia folks to explain the bill pay process. emoticon
I have to call his life insurance company and find out their notification process. emoticon
I have to find out my nephew's account info.
I have to send out checks to his beneficiaries.

All this and I have to work too. No wonder I can't sleep!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
FLORIDASUN 4/25/2014 10:53AM

    Blessings to you dear one! You are such a GOOD daughter to wrangle all of these details. Just know your father is looking down with pride and sending you love and well wishes for this difficult time. step at a time finishes the race.


Bobbi Anne emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 4/23/2014 3:29AM

    I'm sorry for your loss. emoticon I hope that making the list helps and that you'll get through all of this soon so you will not be under so much stress. emoticon

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SAMMI-SAM 4/22/2014 3:41PM

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KOFFEENUT 4/22/2014 1:27AM

    What you're doing is hugely stressful (I know - been there, done that). Take a deep breath. Know you'll handle it, one thing at a time. And also know that dealing with the grief of your Dad's loss on top of this makes it even more stressful, so be sure to allow yourself some slack!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 4/22/2014 12:17AM

    Sorry about your dad. Hope the list gets taken care of quickly; I'm sure that's the last thing you want to have to do.

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KELLIEBEAN 4/21/2014 11:57PM

    That is great that you made a to-do list. It will help.

A list can make sense of chaos sometimes. When things are swirling in your head, right it down, even if it's only a few words.

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POPSY190 4/21/2014 11:23PM

    I had to do these things for both parents. It is stressful because so much of it is unfamiliar but I do think it helped me cope with the grief because my mind had something practical to focus on for a while.

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PHEBESS 4/21/2014 10:59PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss - my dad passed away at the end of December, so I know how you feel. Except, lucky for me, my brother the attorney is executor, and he gets all that fun stuff.

Re the insurance and beneficiaries - our dad's insurance company had each of us fill out some form, sign, send it back (all at once, via my brother) - and the insurance company sent checks to each of us. So that might save you one task.

Hugs, you can do this!

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SVELTEWARRIOR 4/21/2014 10:51PM

    emoticon I am sorry for your loss. I hope the list gets shorter soon. I am here if you want to talk

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ALLNEWMAC2015 4/21/2014 7:56PM

    Very sorry for your loss! You sound very organized though; hopefully that will help with the stress level.

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IMIN2GENES 4/21/2014 6:58PM

    Hope the list helps! There's nothing that can make it easier or better... speaking as someone who's been through it a few times. It takes time! Sending extra hugs your way!

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GRACEOMALLEY 4/21/2014 6:28PM

    I know it is tough, but hang in there. This too shall pass.

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EJOY-EVELYN 4/21/2014 2:35PM

    I appreciate the heads up. I will someday be handling this for my WWII father. Sure hope no one is in a hurry.

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LADYCALICO 4/21/2014 2:11PM

    I remember my old boss saying, when he was running into multiple problems settling his father's estate, that he was going to change his will to make the person he hates the most his executer, because he wouldn't wish that on anybody he loves.

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THETURTLEBEAR 4/21/2014 2:03PM

    I can relate to this! My dad will be gone three years in July, and we still can't get my younger sister to take care of the one thing left in the estate business. So many of my friends are going through this right now - it's so difficult!

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CHALLENGER15 4/21/2014 2:03PM


I do hope having the list and being able to check off items will help the stress some.

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