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She Left Again

Thursday, April 17, 2014

I spoke too soon. DD stayed home for two days, then left us Monday morning back to her boyfriend. She called me and told me I was a rotten mother for not letting her have her cell phone. I am so upset over this, I don't know what to do...

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ANGORA4 4/24/2014 11:06PM

    So sorry, sweet. It's so hard when your children grow up but don't behave like adults. My prayers are with you.

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    don't know the story, but our children can break our heart .. sounds like she has some maturing to do .. is there mental health issues?? / drugs/drinking problem?? how old is she?? what is the situation with the boyfriend?? all questions in which the answers lie in finding some solutions .. good luck ..

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LIKINMENOW 4/20/2014 5:21AM

    My heart truly aches for you. Keep praying.

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STEVENK87 4/19/2014 12:28PM

    I am praying

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STEVENK87 4/19/2014 12:27PM

    I am praying

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DANCINCAJUN1 4/18/2014 2:45PM

    oh my dear ... some have maturity at a young age and some do not ... we can only help them so much ... sounds like she is out to make her own mistakes .. she definitely does not sound very mature -- at least in that statement about the cell phone .... I send you hugs ... rocie

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LJCANNON 4/18/2014 11:19AM

    emoticon Sending Hugs and Prayers as you go through this. You are Not Alone, keep reaching out for all the support that is available.

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FITMARY 4/18/2014 7:35AM

    My heart goes out to you. I agree with Brenda: keep loving her the best way you can. Sometimes that is all we can do. And please know: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. All families have difficult moments. Patience, love, and prayer. Keep trying to reach out. I don't know of any other way.


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NELLJONES 4/18/2014 7:29AM

    There are support groups for parents of difficult children. One is called Families Anonymous. You don't have to go through this alone.

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PATSYB7 4/18/2014 6:59AM

    Tough love does help--hang in there. I'm praying she wises up.

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RASPBERRY56 4/18/2014 5:32AM

    Please, *Please* realize that you are NOT a "rotten mother" - these are simply the words of an immature, misguided young person talking (have seen this myself - not pretty, for sure)!


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LOFLLAMA 4/18/2014 5:14AM

  Oh, Cherlye! Call if you want, okay?! You know my feelings on this. I LOVE YOU!

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BRENDAGAIL9 4/18/2014 12:00AM

    Here is my take on your daughter. She is over 18 and thinks she knows everything. I know I did and can do anything she wants. But if she is living with you, she has to follow the house rules. If the cell phone is hers and she pays for it. then I think you need to give it back to her. On the other hand if you are paying for it, then it belongs to you.

I believe in tough love and I used it with my children, even called the police on my oldest son and had him locked up because he had Pot in the house when he was 14. He is 53 now and has been in just about every program but it doesn't last very long and he is back drinking again. He is on disability SS and has some mental issues from getting the crap beat out of him in a bar fight. There is nothing I can do with him He lives on his own and calls me periodically and never makes any sense.

I don't know what else to tell you about your daughter and I feel very concerned about what may happen to her. All you can do is love her and be there to pick her up when she falls.


Brenda in Chehalis, WA

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