Monday, April 14, 2014
On that day, 63 years ago, my parents were married. They got to celebrate 60 years of marriage before my dad passed away in 2011.
I called Mom on this day in 2012, because I knew it would be a rough day. It was actually the beginning of a long plummet into depression from that day forward. Eventually Mom has found some contentment, but as she gets ready to turn 91 next month, her life has changed a lot with diminishing mobility and increasing mental decline with mild dementia. Last year her anniversary passed with no notice -a mixed blessing.
The anniversary still appears on my e-calendar so it was the first thing I saw this morning. My brother called a little while later and asked my advice: he was going to see Mom and didn't know whether to acknowledge. Two years ago her feelings were hurt that I was the only one who remembered to call and talk to her on that difficult day, so I understood his concern.
Mom isn't really very cognizant of the date anymore, so we decided to leave the topic unspoken. She didn't bring it up with DB or with me when I called this evening. Again, a mixed blessing but I'm glad she had a peaceful day.