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The down side of not drinking

Saturday, April 12, 2014

The last couple years, and the last 6 months in particular, have been progressively more and more stressful. I'm starting to have some more health problems because of the stress. Alcohol, of course, doesn't help, so I've been making a concerted effort the last couple of weeks to cut back.

The down side for me is that when I don't drink, I sleep more deeply—which means I go back to my pattern of extremely vivid dreaming. Now I'm dreaming about the stressful situations in my life as if they were actually happening, so I wake up even more stressed and upset than I was the day before.

That mood ticker on the front page of SP is rough. Every morning, I look at it and have to honestly click a 1 or 2. Maybe if I start clicking a higher number it will become true?

I need better stress management techniques. The problem is that even when I go work out or go for a walk or what have you, I can't get away from it. The second I come home, or check my email, or my phone rings, I'm back to 11. Add to that the really loud ringing in my left ear, and I just want to lie down on the floor and not get up.

Sorry for the downer blog today. I guess the good thing is that I don't feel like drinking alcohol? It doesn't seem like an answer right now.

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 4/12/2014 3:37PM

    Stress is super hard to deal with. I've had my share of it these past couple of months. It isn't pretty. In my case it's mostly caused trouble sleeping - I've been averaging about 4 hours a night.

Is there any way you can get some professional help to deal with it while you're conscious so that you can actually rest at night instead of re living it?

From someone else in the trenches, hang in there!


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SUNSHINE-GIRL 4/12/2014 12:12PM

    Have you tried allowing your worries to come to the fore, write them down or think about them. Allow 10 minutes then put them away and tell them they are out of your mind until you allow them back in.

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WONDAWOMAN2 4/12/2014 11:19AM

    Yes, blogging, journaling are great. I am not a big meditator, but it did help me during super-stressful times in my life (divorce). Just sitting comfortably, eyes closed, thinking the words "in" and "out" when you breathe, but mostly being very present-moment, feeling the weight of yourself on the chair, air going in and out of your lungs, your heart beating....knowing that you are not your stressors....and that it will all be okay in the end.

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CAROL_31649731 4/12/2014 11:01AM

    Good advice here. Blogging is an excellent, therapeutic venue. Use it often to work things out! Sending lots of hugs you way today. emoticon
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BOLDLYVENTURE 4/12/2014 10:49AM

    sounds like you are processing quite a bit of past stuff and I hope you can move forward and have restful sleep perhaps in the man time you could find out about meditation- I really don't know too much about it or perhaps yoga which could be an active for of meditation. And loud ringing?- that does not sound good- I hope you can get that checked out.

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GOOSIEMOON 4/12/2014 10:29AM

    Being honest about your life is a good step on the way to figuring our how to do and feel better. Never apologize for that!
You are worth the effort this takes! emoticon

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JUST_BRENDA 4/12/2014 10:17AM

    don't be concerned about a "downer blog" because downs are part of our lives. To post only ups is deceiving and makes the rest of us feel like crap because we are so familiar with our own challenges!!!

Sorry to hear about these vivid negative dreams. They sound very disconcerting. Not sure what you can do about it. Maybe it's good to remind yourself that it will get better. I personally feel dreams are the minds way of dealing with things. It is a healthy action to "work through the pain". Good for you Melissa! You are braver than me right now.

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