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"Follow-through was not his forte"

Wednesday, April 09, 2014

I picked up a paperback at our supermarket that caught my eye, since DH and I have just discovered and enjoyed all four seasons of Downton Abbey this past winter. The title of the book is "While We Were Watching Downton Abbey", by Wendy Wax. It is basically about female friendship and is enjoyable, light reading.

I wasn't too far into the book, when the author characterized the brother of one of the females with the statement "Follow-through was not his forte."

Oh. My. Word. I usually read to relax, and could not necessarily tell you what I have read, and certainly sentences do not usually stay with me. That one stopped me "in my tracks", so to speak.

The author put into words what I actually consider my pet peeve - lack of follow-through. Husband #1 didn't follow-through on his promise to "love, honor, and cherish". When he decided he didn't love, the honor and cherish went out the window as well. Some strained family relationships that I have are because others routinely say they are going to do something, such as visit, such as attend a particular function that DH and I are involved in, etc. and then do not follow through. With the husband #1 situation, of course one would expect 100% follow-through. With the present family relationships, I am now to the point that I would be pleased with a 10% follow-through rate. It is THAT bad.

But enough about pet peeves...

With further thought about follow-through, I realized how important follow-through is to our nutrition/fitness journeys. When I follow-through on healthy habits, my expectations are better met. It is actually better when Ia m quite specific about my goals, but allow myself some latitude when developing them. Some things are non-negotiable, such as water intake, but others will set me up for failure every time if I am not careful. It is best for me to NOT set a goal of walking an hour every day, because I must content with a foot injury that does have a pain flare periodically. It is better to have a goal such as "I will do XX minutes of fitness per week" and that will allow for daily changes in my life, etc, that I can plan for.

What about you? What is your follow-through like?


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GRLTAZ 4/11/2014 9:43AM

    Tammy good blog. I also have people in my life that do not follow thru. I find it frustrating and I have to practice patience and remember God has made us alike but different. Sometimes I even learn something new when there is no follow thru, like do I really want and need this person in my life ?, was this really important after all ?, would I want patience and acceptance given to me ? Just my perspective. Keep sparking.

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SHARONSPARKLE 4/10/2014 12:16PM

    When it involves someone else, my follow through is good. But what I tell myself I need to do - not so much! Definitely, gave me something to think about!

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THETURTLEBEAR 4/10/2014 9:19AM

    Very insightful! I think my follow through is pretty good.

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RICKI157 4/10/2014 1:47AM

    Awesome Blog!!!!!!!
I am usually pretty good with follow through here at Sparks though I did take a couple of days off from workouts this week, I usually do some kind of workout 7 days a week.
I am working on my follow through with the rest of my life now.
I am constantly late no matter how hard I try not to be, it seems something always comes up at the last minute and I am late so I am starting out thinking I have to be somewhere else 30 minutes earlier than I have to be there.
I also am making a list of things I want to accomplish each day and trying to do what is on the list each day.
It is small steps but I find that works better for me than making big plans and then overwhelming myself so I just give up.
Follow through will one day become my forte!!!!!!!!!

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MERRYMARY42 4/9/2014 7:45PM

    love your blog, and I am afraid, I am not 100% on follow-through, although, I am 100% on arriving on time or early, never not showing up, my follow through is or lack of it, pertains to me, and what I want to get done,

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AMARILYNH 4/9/2014 6:29PM

    Usually my follow through is good, but this past week.... not so much (when it comes to my eating plan.) Thanks for the reminder of how very important it is!!

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MARYBETH4884 4/9/2014 5:13PM

    Wonderful thought, and yes this journey goes much better when you follow through on the goals you set!

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