Growing Our Family!
Tuesday, April 08, 2014
What a crazy, crazy week this has been! Some of what's gone on, I've shared with my BLC Sunset Stingrays team. The biggest thing of all, though, is what I wasn't free to share until now.
Most of you know that #2 son David moved in with us at the end of last summer, with Erik (now nearly 7) and Sean (4-1/2). He's been a single Dad since their mother left about 2-1/2 years ago. He has another son Marshall (11), the product of a failed engagement all those years ago. He has been living with his mother since his birth.
It hasn't been a good situation for Marshall. He was abused when they lived with her Dad. We complained to Orange County, CA, but he was not removed even though there was a substantiated case following an injury and police report. His mother has babied him terribly, stuffed him to morbid obesity, kept David and us from him when the whim struck, etc. etc.etc.
When David was planning his move here, he tried to get custody. No go, because Marshall repeatedly told/tells us that he wants to be with David - but he wouldn't tell the court advocate appointed for him. And why not? Because he knew she would cry, and he didn't want to see that! His mother subsequently moved to Utah to live with her mother. She has not complied with the court order to pay half of his transportation costs for visits here, so David has borne it all. He has been here one week of Christmas vacation, spring break, 8 weeks each summer.
He has a late spring break compared to Fulton's, next week. David has had a ticket for him for this coming Saturday.
He has been bullied at school, for quite some time. David found out about a week ago that Marshall had been suspended for losing his temper at school. A few days later, he found out that this was an indefinite suspension - because it was a second suspension for this. His mother "forgot" to tell David, and she had told Marshall not to tell him.
So, out of the blue, she told him a week ago that she might let him come here to live. It depended on what she found out at yesterday about how long his suspension would be. And today, she called to say that he's suspended for the rest of the year. She said she had talked with her mother, stepfather, and father about what they thought of Marshall moving here - and they all think she should let him.
Hallelujah! We'd figured all along that when he acted out to the point that she couldn't handle him, that this is how it would turn out.
So now we all have lots of planning to do! And soon we will all have a lot of adjusting to do! But we are ever so thankful that Marshall will be with us at long last. He will arrive Saturday with a letter from his mother stating that she and David have agreed to simply reverse the custody arrangements, with the plan that he will be with her only 5-6 weeks for this summer only, since he's already been with her more than half the school year.