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Tuesday, April 08, 2014

I realized some things today...

1. Going over my calorie range does not make me a bad person.

It won't help me meet my goals. But it does NOT mean that I am weak, immoral and deserve to be miserable. (Which is basically how I've been feeling for the last month. Welcome to Crazy Town.)

2. Oh, crud... I forgot the second thing already.

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SUEPERWOMAN 4/10/2014 1:44PM



I love you, you are such a sweetie. Be good to yourself.

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LEANNM5 4/9/2014 7:04PM

  Some days I think I'm doing good with staying in my goals of calories etc. and then at the end of the day I to have went over. At that time I just remind myself that tomorrow is another day and to try and do better.

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GYPSYGOTH 4/9/2014 4:36PM

    I'm constantly struggling against perfectionism... saw a quote the other day about how it's "no way to treat yourself." Ha! Love it.

Nothing about your diet or exercise plan will make you a "good" or "bad" person- Give yourself a break! But do keep seeking mechanisms for coping with the dastardly binge monster. If you leave the gate open now and again and he sneaks in, don't hate yourself, for goodness' sake. Just try to keep strategies in your head for how to keep trying to keep him away.


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    It's one thing to know it, but it's hard to practice: shaming yourself is not useful or helpful.

When I went to the doctor back in January he really got on to me about focusing too much on the numbers on the scale. If you're eating relatively healthy and exercising that's more important than some numbers on the scale.

It's a hard thing to come to the understanding that those numbers are not our self worth!

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KANOE10 4/9/2014 8:01AM

    I always told myself that I was seeking progress not perfection. Somedays you simply cannot stay on your plan perfectly. Keep going in the right direction.


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CHRISTA2016 4/9/2014 6:36AM

    Nobody deserves to feel miserable about what they ate!
And YOU in particular don't deserve it! emoticon

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SUBMOM2 4/9/2014 1:36AM

    Hang in there.


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FINCHFEEDER80 4/8/2014 8:20PM

    I agree. That's something we all need to be reminded of! Thank you!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 4/8/2014 7:46PM

    I'm reading a book by Brene Brown right now about Gift of Imperfections (or something like that...the title is escaping me at the moment) and she has spent a majority of her adult life doing shame research...that sounds worse than it is! But basically, how we constantly shame ourselves and others, and then how to get to leading a more fulfilled life. I've just barely begun but I like what I'm reading so far!

Anyways, that's not the point...hahaha...she says that we do that exact same thing all the time when we make mistakes. We tell ourselves "I'm BAD", when really we should be saying "I've done something bad". Big difference in the connotation, right? Just because we make mistakes we aren't BAD. Looks like you've come to the same realization! Way to go - you're brilliant!!! (I apparently need a book to learn that lesson...LOL)

You're figuring it out, Steph! Keep pushing!!!

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LAILATN 4/8/2014 6:25PM

    I empathize, sister.


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50YEARSAWIFE 4/8/2014 6:09PM

    emoticon You are right. If we get to close to the shoulder when we are driving you don't quit.

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