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Why do I care?

Saturday, April 05, 2014

So the day has arrived. The day of my cousins baby shower. She is not the problem it is her older sister that is. Me and her older sister we thick as thieves when we were younger and even into our early 20's then something happened. She began acting like she was better than me. Everything she did was better than what I did. You know the type. Well she has lost weight not the right way by drinking and whatever else she does, and she never lets me forget that she has lost the weight. A year ago her husband had an affair and she put it all on FB, well they got back together and are working things out.Good for them, but again she is putting it on FB. So as a concerned cousin I told her it might not be such a good thing to put all of your private things on FB. She got all mad and told me that I was jealous. So now she is telling the family that I am jealous of her and her husbands relationship. Why do I care so much that she is talking this way about me? It could not me more false. My husband and I have had our troubles over that last year, but they are our problems not the entire world problems. I don't know why I care but I do. Does that make me crazy?

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    FB is crazy. I am not on there for this very reason.
    1079 days ago
    Maybe you are concerned for her privacy because you know how important it is for you. She is flaunting her accomplishments in front of you to try to make you jealous.
    1084 days ago
    LOL you posted your update one minute after my response. We both must be sparking at the same time.

    I am glad things went well!

    1087 days ago
    The shower was great. We didn't talk much and when we did it was small talk. Her sister got all kinds of cute little girl things. Aww baby showers are so cute.
    1087 days ago
    Oh man. I hate it when family drama is aired out over Facebook, of all places! It pisses me off. My family has certain "I am better than you moments too" and then one day I realized...it is not so much "I am better than you" but my cousin and my sister were CRAVING some kind of recognition for doing SOMETHING right. I know this stems from low self esteem and the feeling of constantly not living up to our mother's expectations. So, I let most of that crap go. Sure, I complain about it to my husband who reminds me that we are in the exact place we need to be FOR US, not for anyone else.

    As for baby showers, those are always quite painful for hubby and I since the secondary infertility happened. I say congratz. I grieve a little and then I move on. Months from now you cousin will just be another person with a baby and bags under their eyes. It happens.

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    1087 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/7/2014 10:54:41 AM
    You're not crazy. We're not responsible for the things other people think or say about us, despite how we feel when those things are unkind or unjust...or both. If you can't avoid this person, maybe you can wonder what there is missing in her life that she feels a need to belittle you. People who put others down do it to make themselves feel better, or bigger, or smarter, or more important than they're afraid they truly are. Sometimes remembering that helps me.

    You're doing great, my friend. Hang in there. :)
    1088 days ago
    It's too bad you were close at one time, but with all things they change. Don't let others disrupt your life, they aren't worth it. You have to be happy, move on.
    Your intentions were good, know that and close that chapter.
    When you see her again, rise above it, smile and say hello. Don't get into any conversations unless they are general. If it get's personal, excuse yourself and walk away.
    Hope the shower was enjoyable regardless.
    1088 days ago
    No. You did what you felt was right at the time with good intent. It's a crazy world we live in ;o)
    1089 days ago
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    Nope. Issues between me and my spouse are ours alone except for the counselor and God. We most certainly didn't Facebook it for I believe that is truly wrong. Blessings to you and your hubby too!
    1089 days ago
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