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Friday, April 04, 2014

Think you are weak because you reach for food when stressed out? ... Guess again.

I had a fantastic thought this morning that I just had to share before I head out. In survival training, they taught us the "Rule Of Three" in prioritizing needs.

You WILL die if you go more than...
3 minutes without air
3 hours without shelter
3 days without water
3 weeks without food

- And that depends GREATLY on the circumstances... times could be drastically shortened depending on the environment.

That said, what is the FIRST thing people think of when they are lost?...Uh Oh, what am I going to EAT? (second place is OMG! how will I charge my phone?) -but I digress...

According to the list, food is at the bottom. So long as you can still breathe, your first priority is to set up shelter immediately lest you perish from exposure but yet we think about eating. That is why chocolate bars and sweets are included in survival kits. They are easy calories and they reduce psychological stress levels and that helps manage emotions in a survival situation...Wow, and to think that some meatheads say that comfort eating is purely psychological, a crutch for the weak or doesn't truly exist. Comfort eating is embedded DEEP in the biology of EVERY human being, it only takes the right stimulus to bring it to the surface. It is a "knee jerk" reaction

The first thing they tell you in survival training is to stop, assess your situation, and manage your emotions. Why? because even with the best training, panic kills. Loss of emotional control leads to irrational thinking in a situation where every decision can be life or death.

Your most important tool you have in your kit is between the ears.

Translation?

The key to success is not simply calories in and calories out. While this matters, the FIRST rule of weight loss survival has to do with emotional stability and keeping a clear head.

For years I have been digging to get to the bottom as to why I have enjoyed a measure of success this time while the other times were "false starts" I now concretely know why. Because I changed from the inside out. Studies generally show that only a minority truly have a metabolism that prevents weight loss... sorry, that's just science. I have been told by other members of our family that "we have a slow metabolism... that's why we are overweight.." Sorry, calling BS on that. My problem is glandular... I have an overactive mouth gland.....and emotional issues that stimulate it.

The two biggest reasons I have enjoyed a measure of success... I say measure because I am not a goal weight yet...

1) I did something that brought out the best in me.. I trained and raced. It boosted my self confidence, something that was desperately lacking. I needed to remind myself that I am not a failure and that I am strong. The emotional strength that came from taking on big challenges and seeing them through no matter what has done more to enhance my journey than any singular thing I can think of. Like a submarine, you have to have sufficient strength on the inside first before you will achieve any significant DEPTH.

2) I cured myself of scale-itus. This disease is fatal. The panic brought on by normal fluctuations on the scale has killed more journey's than any other thing I can think of. Fail to fix this and you will die of exposure. Scale freak-outs destroy motivation and momentum. Take the time to learn WHY it is fluctuating and understand what makes your body tick. Ignorance is not bliss, it is deadly. Every "gain" is not necessarily fat and fat is all that really matters in the end. Be offended if you wish but this is truth. Having observed many over a LONG period of time, I have concluded that no one succeeds long term while still being driven by scale panic, they emotionally go in circles like someone lost in the woods. Master it and live.

3) Getting to the bottom of what is really causing pain. All I can say is that this is a never ending process for me. Therapy, talking to a friend, blogging, it all helps to get it out there. Once it's out there, it really seems to help. Problems have a way of becoming solutions when exposed.

Add in the stresses of daily living, deadlines, family matters, etc... and you can be bathed in fight or flight hormones on a daily basis. That is a potent mix.

I truly believe that the key to long term success goes far beyond the do's&don'ts. It lies in the heart.

Find something that makes you strong and helps reinforce your personal strengths. Find ways to cope with scale obsession, don't just toss it in closet and think that the problem is solved. Face it head on, learn about your body and figure out why you are defining yourself by a number. Look for other ways to measure progress and success. Remember, statistics show that successful "losers" define their weight by a range rather than a number because they understand that that is going to fluctuate.

Keep asking yourself why until you get an answer, then get to work on it.

See you in the winners circle.


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INCH_BY_INCH 8/13/2014 5:49PM

  emoticon Nice to have others help us tweak our mindset so accomplishments can flourish. emoticon

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GRAMPIAN 8/4/2014 6:17AM

  Well said. emoticon

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WHITEANGEL4 7/16/2014 2:12AM

    Great blog, can relate very well

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TERRIJ7 7/14/2014 9:03AM

    Excellent observations! I think I have the same glandular problem as you :)

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LORIVIOLA 7/4/2014 8:08AM

    emoticon very interesting
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NASFKAB 5/1/2014 2:09AM

  beautifully put thanks for sharing

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    Thank you for sharing this! :) emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 4/12/2014 6:20AM

    Good words. Thanks

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SLIMLEAF 4/10/2014 9:19AM

    You make a good point there Robert. Thanks for sharing it.

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LEWILL1982 4/9/2014 11:09AM

    As usual, you rock! I'm ready to throw out my scale :-) My clothes and my work outs are a much better indicator. I need to remember the rule of 3's when I'm sitting at work, thinking I'm hungry....

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ROMANTILLY 4/8/2014 9:03AM

    Love the blog. Thanks for the uplifting messages.

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    Thanks!

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SNOWBECH 4/7/2014 6:34PM

    Great food for thought. I love how you put into words what I was thinking.

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LINDAM.1 4/7/2014 6:14PM

  Nice positive attitude,

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MAGGIEVAN 4/7/2014 3:53PM

    Thanks for sharing. There are some good ideas here.

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MYLIBERTY 4/7/2014 2:55PM

    emoticon Talk about food for thought. I really appreciate your thoughts on survival. I never quite thought of survival skills along with losing weight, but weight loss for me and dare I say most of us is a survival issue. I am keeping a copy of your blog entry to refer to from time to time. Being an emotional eater myself, I can use it to help me.

If you read my blog entry "What happened" you will see that I have stopped losing weight and why. I can see by what you have written that if I just sit back and enjoy the weight that I have lost, but have to continue you on or I will be at risk of losing my chance of survival.

Again, thanks for your blog entry.

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JAYDEE16 4/7/2014 9:55AM

    You've made so many excellent points in this blog and I appreciate your no-BS approach! This is truly deserving of being a featured blog! Congrats!

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LADYJAZMANA 4/7/2014 6:04AM

    This resonated with me - it's only when I discovered my love of dancing which boosted my self confidence that I felt empowered enough to change my eating habits permanently. Well written!

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WRITERWANNAB 4/7/2014 1:29AM

    You really put things in perspective. I like that! emoticon

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MJEFFERSON23 4/7/2014 1:24AM

  Interesting! Sometimes we just have to reprogram ourselves.

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KOMTRIA 4/6/2014 9:46PM

  emoticon Even though the need for food is down on the survival list when emotional eating is triggered I "feel" like it is life threatening not to eat. My feelings lie and I only loose weight when I can counter with the truth.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 4/6/2014 8:46PM

    There are times I think I would like to be in a comfortable "cave" (a motel 6 will do!) and be without the food for three days to a week etc to fast & draw nearer to facing the issues within... Draw closer to my Creator, find my vision...

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SUPERPSYCHED30 4/6/2014 4:31PM

    Great Blog. I am working on addressing my emotional "drinking" issues and hope to overcome them

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PJB149 4/6/2014 4:18PM

    I truly enjoyed this. It has a lot of truths and I enjoyed learning the rule of 3's. Great blog. Glad it was featured in my email.

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TICKLESGR8 4/6/2014 3:18PM

    Great blog post!!! Thank you so much for sharing. A lot of what you said struck me and I've printed it this post out and pasted it on the bathroom mirror. Thanks so much for your openness!

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BARBARAJ73 4/6/2014 3:08PM

    Glad your blog was featured - otherwise I would have missed it. The messages were very well said. emoticon

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BHENDRICK2 4/6/2014 3:00PM

    scale panic is one of my worst enemies it causes me to panic and react in a negative manner

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WEGENERCS 4/6/2014 2:14PM

    Yep, you said it. I read it. Now, I will do it!

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BESWRS 4/6/2014 1:31PM

    This was an AWESOME bog and truly what I needed to help me get motivated. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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DAWNDMOORE40 4/6/2014 1:03PM

    emoticon blog! emoticon I was guilty of scale panic when I first started my weight loss journey, but now I look for other ways to measure success. Like how my clothes fit! That is a big indicator of progress! Also, how my body feels. If I have eaten badly during the week, then my body will let me know!
You have a strong will and a deep desire to stay healthy and that will go a long ways! I wish you the best and I hope things continue to go well for you! Have a blessed day! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NYCALIGIRL 4/6/2014 11:58AM

    wow truly a great perspective on life and everything all around. Such a great blog post thank you!

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    emoticon This is a really emoticon blog!!

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FEBECG 4/6/2014 11:03AM

    "....statistics show that successful "losers" define their weight by a range rather than a number because they understand that that is going to fluctuate. ..."

THANKS so very much for sharing this! I'm changing my lifestyle for the first time in 55 years. I"m eating less, moving more and it's showing. Spark people and my own strong desires to change and be the best I can be are making it happen.

I get crazy with the scale. On and off it all day long. Freaking when it goes up, celebrating the downward slide, slow, steady, as it should be.

Aiming for a number that I want to be, well, no more. Your statement that I began with makes so much more sense to me. I'm going to now aim for a range, between this and that and I'll be happy.

I never really dieted, or read blogs much, but I'm so over joyed a friend shared Spark with me in Jan.-- It, and the people within are helping me on this journey I am so enjoying. Thank you for being apart of it!

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NIKKIJ55 4/6/2014 10:24AM

    Great blog! Thank you. emoticon

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DAUNTLESSDONNA 4/6/2014 9:54AM

    A great perspective on this Sunday morning. Thank you! emoticon

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TEMIWUMI 4/6/2014 9:50AM

    Insightful!

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RACEWELLWON 4/6/2014 9:48AM

    I agree with most of your points here on this blog - except metabolism - slow metabolism is an issue with thyroid conditions - fast or slow - and that's a fact - have Medical Degree, will not dispute however , it is possible to reconstruct your enzymes/metabolism by consuming the correct foods - - its no longer an excuse to lose with slow metabolism as it can be corrected through research and action- as I myself have hypothyroid which slows down metabolism but have in time with research and action lost 120 pounds - so yes it can be done but it is a real medical condition and not BS for everyone .

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NESHAMA123 4/6/2014 8:23AM

    Thanks for your well written and totally insightful blog. A great way to start my day today.

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