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Thursday, April 03, 2014



Well, I am trying to move forward anyway. I am very slowly starting to lose all I have gained. I have continued on with my exercise and am back on track with it, so that will help.

It is hard without Daddy but I am slowly learning to get through the day without him. It helps that I have the best husband in the world…I just don’t know what I would do without my James.

I am also slowly starting to take care of my teams again….I have one less team now so I am not spread so thin…..and I asked for and got help on two other teams. It makes a big difference.

Something I have learned through all of this…I have far more friends than I ever realized I had. Internet and real life both. It was really strengthening to have so much support around me when I needed it so much. I hope I have moved beyond being quite so “needy” and am able to get back into the grove of helping others again. No, needy is not quite the right word…but I’m not sure what is…needy has a negative connotation to it and I don’t think of myself or others that need help in that way. I just like to be on the helping end instead of the needing help end.

I do hope by letting you see my struggles that I have helped someone here. I am not perfect by any means…I went WAY off plan when Daddy died. Thankfully I was lucky enough to realize it wasn’t really helping me to cope and have been able to get a handle on it quickly. I did some damage – but am working on it to get the weight back off. You have to just keep moving forward. I know there are many, many bad things that can happen to a person that makes the idea of weight loss seem unimportant for a time, but you have to understand that YOU count, and EVERYTHING is easier the healthier you are. Sometimes you have to put yourself first to be able to care for others or cope with grief.

Please – each of you - take care of yourself - and thank you all again for your wonderful support.
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AMANDANCES 5/15/2014 12:08PM

    It isn't being "needy" to want support and companionship -- and you've certainly been supportive of others! You are an inspiration, truly. Never forget that!

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PATRICIA-CR 5/7/2014 11:00AM

    Not easy, I know. Cherish the memories of a life well spent and the love and care we gave (Daddy). But we have to go forward indeed!
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IDLETYME 5/6/2014 1:14PM

    Thoughts and prayers for the loss of your Father. You will honor him by getting back on track and building a healthy happy you!!!! emoticon

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MYAKAYAH 5/6/2014 2:54AM

    I hope day by day you are feeling better and remembering your great times with your daddy. Be well~

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1BEACHWALKER 5/4/2014 12:46AM

    Sorry for your loss and glad to see you back. One day at a time and you will get there! emoticon

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STARLITNIGHT 4/24/2014 5:46PM

    emoticon Hope you are finding your strength and focus to take good care of you. emoticon

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SLLYONS51 4/15/2014 6:31PM

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WHYTEBROWN 4/9/2014 3:25AM

    emoticon about all that you've been through. I'm happy though that you felt supported during your grief. Nobody can be the "helper" 100 per cent of the time because there comes a point when we ALL need help. emoticon I'm happy also that you've been able to get back on track emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LIVINTODAY 4/6/2014 10:47PM

    Go Kat! You are right; we must keep going forward in whichever way we can. Your dad is proud that you are doing just that. You DO count and you are important to many people. Take care of yourself. emoticon

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BETTERHEALTH123 4/4/2014 9:04AM

    Hang in there. I don't post very much...but you are an "inspiration" to me. Perks me up when I see your "happy picture" on sparkspeople....Sorry to hear about your father passing away.

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JAMER123 4/3/2014 11:22PM

    emoticon Good to see you back.
I understand the loss you have felt and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for healing of the soul. Blessings to you and your family.
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CAROL_31649731 4/3/2014 11:12PM

    emoticon YOU still need to take care of yourself. Glad to see you sparking more! emoticon

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DEWAND1 4/3/2014 9:43PM

    Best wishes to you along your journey. I lost three family members in the last few years and it hurts, darn it! I guess there is only one way through it and it is through it. Remember to inspire others you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be a human who is being herself plus willing to be transparent and honest along the way. Each day does bring its surprises and I have found that joy is just around the corner. In a beautiful sunrise, a child's laughter, a chance meeting of an old friend. emoticon Blessings to you today!

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AMBERBREEZE 4/3/2014 7:50PM

    emoticon Keep taking care of yourself. emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 4/3/2014 7:49PM

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4RASCALS 4/3/2014 7:26PM

    You are such an inspiration. It's great news that your pushing yourself forward.
I continue to keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

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WALNUTT1961 4/3/2014 4:34PM

    Glad you are going forward. Thank you for your message.

My MIL is not well I am her caregiver. It has been hard not to turn to food to help with the stress.



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SHARON10002 4/3/2014 4:21PM

    You are not alone in feeling this way. Losing a parent leaves such a hole, not only in our hearts, but our very being. The void will be filled again with loving, happy, memories. Just give it time. We all need time to grieve in our own way, and no apologies are necessary.

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MOM2ACAT 4/3/2014 3:12PM

    emoticon It took me a long time to get over that "lost" feeling after I lost my dad. You are in my prayers.

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LKG9999 4/3/2014 3:02PM

    Kathy, you are a great inspiration. I know losing your father has been very hard for you (as it will be for me when the time comes) so it's entirely understandable that you lost some focus. The inspiring thing to me is seeing you get back to it and not use it as a reason to give up altogether. We are all here for you!

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WILLOW49 4/3/2014 12:29PM

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KITT52 4/3/2014 12:25PM

    Kathy you have my prayers...It is hard to loose a parent....so must of us know how you feel...take time to take care of yourself....

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MCFITZ2 4/3/2014 11:30AM

    Your needs are not needy. Your father was a big part of your daily life. So much of everything is changed. Change is stressful. Small changes take time to adjust to. A change (a sudden one at that) this large is an even bigger challenge. You are re-weaving the pattern of your life.
Prayers and hugs. Those of us who have walked a similar path know it takes time
and slowly the good memories will come when you think of him instead of the pain you now feel. Be gentle with yourself. emoticon emoticon

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RAESUN54 4/3/2014 11:27AM

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This was a great blog. Keep moving forward is great advice. I tell myself that everyday. I have had lots of ups and lots of Downs, but I am getting back up and moving on. It is difficult when you lose someone, your Dad, your sister, etc.
You are so strong Kathy. God bless you and your husband James.

You do have friends, here and in real life. Keep on moving.

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LETHA_ 4/3/2014 10:18AM

    Hi Kathy,
Good to see you posting in your blog. I'm glad you felt supported by your friends in recent weeks. Take care.
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I_R_WORTH_IT 4/3/2014 7:57AM

    Well said...

One day at a time, one step at a time, sometimes one moment at a time, is all we can do!

Keep up working to make YOU the best YOU ever!

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CFMOSS 4/3/2014 7:12AM

    Forgiving ourselves for our weaknesses and imperfections and very humanness is sometimes harder than anything else. "Nooneelse seems to struggle like I do" "Everyoneelse seems to get it together" thoughts always go through my brain. Your father, your "daddy" was a powerful part of your life to which I say hallelujah; his absence takes time - restoring your "norm" takes time. You have made wise choices in the midst of pain, in the midst of being "off track"...glad you've relocated the tracks, so that you can get on track. You are worth it and your daddy would have wanted you to be the best you possible.

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123ELAINE456 4/3/2014 6:33AM

  Glad that you are back on your program and moving forward. May God continue to give you the comfort and peace you need. You Can Do It. God Blessings Always. Have a Wonderful Week. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take Care.

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THINFITFEMINIST 4/3/2014 6:21AM

    Glad you are back on your program. A past lifetime of coping with food, as I have done also, is our go-to when we don't know how to handle life. You've brushed yourself off and are on the path again.

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NASFKAB 4/3/2014 6:01AM

  understand how you feel without your Daddy but you are going forward all the best

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IMLOCOLINDA 4/3/2014 5:21AM

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MICKEYH 4/3/2014 4:57AM

    emoticon emoticon you can do it!

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COLOR-BLUE 4/3/2014 4:51AM

    My dear, dear friend, emoticon your my shelter, that God has given me, as you do help me through whatever I'm going through! Yes, I have my ups and downs, also, but I know I can reach out to you, if I need someone to talk with.

You're really blessed to have James with you, to gird you up. I do wish that I had someone like that in my life, living with me. However I know that God gives me what I need when I need it, and that's okay, as I get surprised all the time. You're one of my surprises!

God bless you, just for being you! Continue to walk after Him, for He wil make your paths straight!

Be blessed, emoticon

- Nancy Jean -
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EVER-HOPEFUL 4/3/2014 3:27AM

    emoticon your daddy is proud of you that you are getting back on track.remember he will always be there in your heart when you need him.take care and keep smiling emoticon

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POUTINGPEGGY 4/3/2014 3:09AM

    Your Dad would be very proud of you. I always find you inspirational. Thank God for good emoticon friends and a great husband.

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KING_SLAYER 4/3/2014 2:55AM

    We all face hardships that knock us down for a while, but with a little determination and some people cheering us on, we get back up and continue on our path. You've gone through a very painful time and I bet your daddy would want you to dust yourself off and get back to work! I think you honor him by taking care of yourself and finishing what you've started. I know you can do it!

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