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Journey To The Root Of The Problem...

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Wednesday, April 02, 2014


This journey is far more than simply losing some unwanted pounds. I was emotionally battered and I didnít even realize it, since I had developed so many unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would eat to suppress and then simply laugh it off. My usual reaction after walking away from the buffet with yet another heaping plate was to shrug it off and, with a laugh, say, "Oh well, diet starts tomorrow!" or " I'm defeating anorexia one egg roll at a time". Behind the smile and jovial sense of humor was someone who has lost touch with himself in a really big way.

So many times when I was working out, I would have emotions that would erupt from out of nowhere. I would feel like I was on the verge of tears, some repressed emotion from some past hurt was surfacing. I found myself taking laps in anger and it boiled over to where I would be acting out a confrontation with someone while walking, angrily grumbling to myself. That was a form of hostility and hidden resentment that was trying to get out. I had to give my heart what it was looking for - some much needed release and resolution. I needed to recognize what was happening and submit to the process.

It took a long time, but I am convinced that self-introspection and dealing with the issues is one reason I lasted as long as I did. You may put out the flame, but if the coals are still burning, the fire will re-ignite when the right fuel is applied. What I thought was going to be yet another attempt to lose weight became a transforming, inward journey. This, I believe, is where so many fast track ways to weight loss totally fail. This is strictly my opinion but it seems that people that strip off weight fast rarely get to the root of the cause. It takes time to work through the issues. For me, the weight was an outward sign of an inward problem.

Sometimes it hurts and, when food has been used to soothe inner pain, the process can be threatening. After living a life of avoidance, it was difficult for me to face issues. Like a boil, it would come to the surface until, one day, it was lanced by confrontation. The resulting tears were cleansing to the soul.

I have found that when the feelings come, let them come with all that they bring with them. Releasing myself emotionally has been a big part of putting out the fire that has been driving my binges. Unresolved anger, and anxiety can take on many forms and their origins are deceiving. I had to go through the uncomfortable process of confronting past hurts but it promoted the healing necessary to bring about a sense of resolution and stability.

I am convinced that attempts at losing weight when emotional eating issues are at work will be doomed to failure if this is not part of the process.


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WHITEANGEL4 7/14/2014 10:33PM

    An honest and fulfilling blog

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TERRIJ7 7/11/2014 7:58PM

    This is profound! You expressed the problem--and solution--very well!

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LADYSHERRY 5/9/2014 4:39PM

    great Blog. It was like I was reading what I do and feel. I go to the store and will walk around screaming for people to move or shut up. Glad you got it under control. I'm trying

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BECCA315 4/22/2014 3:07PM

    I'm rooting for you!!

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SLLYONS51 4/16/2014 6:43PM

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NLYR20 4/10/2014 6:09PM

  Great one, As you mentioned!! At times, emotions do drive us. We need take the control and confront them instead of suppressing them emoticon

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SUPERSYLPH 4/7/2014 8:08PM

    emoticon I could never say it that eloquently!

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EEKAMIGHTY 4/7/2014 6:41AM

  Wow. You said this greatly. You have deep insight and I can relate wholeheartedly.

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CAROLJ35 4/6/2014 10:04PM

    Sounds as though you have thought this through!
Great blog!!!

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 4/5/2014 9:25PM

    Great blog!
Thanks!

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MARYJEANSL 4/5/2014 9:17PM

  I think you're probably right about that.

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BABAOF4 4/5/2014 3:15PM

  Well said. Need to really identify my hurts and how to deal with them and how to heal from them. Also my cluttered mind causes me to be a hoarder with much insecurity. I need help in many areas if my life.

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WRITERWANNAB 4/5/2014 1:18AM

   
It is especially meaningful to have a man speak so honestly & openly about his feelings. I know my emotions are the biggest problem with my eating. If we don't deal with the emotions, we will continue to lose & gain the weight over & over. emoticon

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CICELY360 4/4/2014 11:15PM

  Good blog

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CLAYARTIST 4/4/2014 10:57PM

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LIVINGLOVINLIFE 4/4/2014 1:07PM

    I appreciate your blog. It is honest and hits home in so many ways. I agree that the emotion hurts that we endure and bury cause us lifelong injury. If we don't stop and face those hurts we can never really move forward and find true happiness, satisfaction and contentment. I am on this journey, it is slow, steep and has many pit falls but is very worth the end result. Every day is new. Some good days some rough but I am going forward and like you find at the end of the day it has been a good day. emoticon emoticon

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 4/4/2014 8:27AM

    This really hit home. Lately I have been self-sabotaging. I need to get out and away and do some soul-searching. Thank you for sharing your personal journey.

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NANCYTUNBERG64 4/4/2014 8:04AM

    Wow!!! This is sooooo true. Thank you for sharing!!

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WENDYANNE61 4/4/2014 5:18AM

    Thanks for the insight - yes, I have had fits of rage as I was slogging around the 5k track on a number of occasions! Now after a year of maintenance, I feel less anxiety and less distress when I am in stressful situations! The lhead-first dives into the cookie tin are easing up too! This journey is so much more than weight loss - for me it is about reclaiming my personality and learning to make some dreams come true!

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KMRJPR 4/4/2014 1:55AM

    Thank you for a wonderful, honest and heart felt blog.

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LIVELYGIRL2 4/4/2014 1:06AM

  That's really good you are addressing this and I hope things are coming together for you. This is so wise and you will become stronger for it.

I happen to think we can develop a better self image and how to deal with emotions and problems with God. That's just my opinion. emoticon

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KHALIA2 4/3/2014 11:54PM

  I enjoyed reading your blog. Keep up the good work!

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MRSQUARLES2 4/3/2014 10:58PM

    Hello Thank you so much for sharing. I feel your pain I am an emotional eater . Emotional eating is something we can overcome and go on to live a healthy life. I know emotional eating is something I will have to battle with all my life. The bottom line is your not alone in this world. Lots of people like myself battle emotional eating. Thanks again for sharing and my thoughts are with you. emoticon

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MISTYSMOM06 4/3/2014 9:03PM

    Too many of us have been emotionally abused, whether you were told that you wouldn't amount to anything or that you're fat and lazy. People don't realize it but words can and do hurt.

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SWEETLILBLUEYES 4/3/2014 8:58PM

    I am in total agreement! Thanks!

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GAILEBEE 4/3/2014 8:15PM

    Thank you for your heartfelt, honest blog. It really hit home for me too. :(

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JSEATTLE 4/3/2014 7:37PM

  You have made a really thoughtful and candid post. Thank you for sharing with us!

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MSROZZIE 4/3/2014 7:11PM

    What an honest blog, thanks for sharing! Stay focused on your fitness and weight management goals and you will continue to see favorable results! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TINAJANE76 4/3/2014 6:38PM

    Oh yeah, total stress and anxiety eater here! No diet in the world would have ever helped me keep the weight off if I hadn't been willing to roll up my sleeves and put in the hard work of addressing the reasons behind my overeating. I still turn to food occasionally when I get stressed or anxious, but not nearly as much as I used to. Developing healthier coping mechanisms that I can draw from has been a huge help, but I first had to identify my problem areas then take responsibility for and ownership of my physical and emotional health. Not easy, but it's made all the difference!

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    Great Blog. Thanks for sharing!
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    Thank you for sharing your story

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PAULINLIM 4/3/2014 5:17PM

    I loved this post!!!

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DIANNEMT 4/3/2014 5:10PM

    Very true words--and a very hard thing to do....

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NEWTINK 4/3/2014 4:27PM

    I have learned this very lesson like you. And i believe as you do that is why so many fail because it has very little to do loosing weight but confronting why you were there to start with. Once you know that answer then you can make the life changes needed to take off the weight. emoticon

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PHOENIX1949 4/3/2014 4:04PM

    "It's not what you are eating, it's what is eating you." was on a refrigerator magnet I bought ages ago. Finally got around to seriously purging the stuffed emotions and still spewing at times. This is definitely hard work, yet necessary work! Thank you for wording this so well.

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NONNAOF2 4/3/2014 3:08PM

  I can relate to what you are saying, thank goodness that we are able to be aware of our eating patterns. You have excellent insight to your challenges and are doing great! You have worked so hard to accomplish all that you have done! Keep up the good work Robert! :-)

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THE_RED_BIRD 4/3/2014 3:02PM

    Thank you for being so open and sharing such important insight!

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