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Very good trip to Arizona

Saturday, March 29, 2014

After this winter on the Delmarva peninsula, any reason to go to Arizona would make it a good trip, but as it turned out, this one was even better than expected. A little background...

My dad has been living alone for over 2 years now. My mom passed away on 12/31/11, and I really thought when we came out for the memorial service in March 2012 he was giving some serious thought to moving into a senior living community (we toured it with him at that time). Time progressed, questions asked, but dad just seemed increasingly resistant to the idea. And between my brother and I, we could tell some of dad's mental capabilities were starting to slip. And no wonder -- home alone, not much of a social life, etc. After 59 years of marriage, I really think he just did not know what to do!

My brother was here in January, and expressed a lot of concern about how he was doing. Shortly thereafter, my dad and I chatted, and in that conversation, for maybe the first time I can recall, he mentioned that he lonely, and hoped I could come out some time to see him. Found a good fare and here I am! And DW and I decided to make sure we'd take advantage and take him back to the senior living community for another tour and a chance to experience their cuisine.

So last Thursday, we went over, had lunch, toured, and received a passionate yet warm pitch from the marketing director. And I think that is what is what tipped the scale. My dad and I had a very constructive conversation on our way to dinner Thursday evening (btw to one of my all time favorite Mexican restaurants in the Tucson area) and the rest is pretty much history! Deposit check on Friday, first month's rent today (Saturday), and come Monday he is officially a resident at Silver Springs Senior Living Community here in Green Valley, AZ, just a short 10 minute drive from his soon to be former home!

The only major outstanding issue is when he can move in. Arizona law requires that he gets a health statement from his physician, and unfortunately dad has chosen not to see his Dr in the past 3 years, so he has an appointment on 4/8. What we are hoping is that his Dr will go ahead and fill out the statement with the info he has and then provide an update after the 4/8 appointment, which would allow him to move in this coming week. We'll know on Monday.

But I can tell just with the interactions he has had with the staff and residents at Silver Springs that this change will be a good one! As I told my dad, he has worked hard his entire life, including an extended period of taking care of my mom when her health deteriorated. Now is HIS time -- it is time for him to enjoy life and be taken care of!

To say I am pleased and relieved is an understatement! I am SOOOO happy that he has made a decision that is good for him!

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    Great news, and I know it's a load off your mind too.
    1420 days ago
    That will be a load of concern off your shoulders knowing DD will be at Silver Springs. 4/8 is not that far away, but if you want him in sooner, call each morning for any cancellation. Know that once he is there, he will be so much happier being around others.

    Glad to hear it was a good trip.
    1420 days ago
    It's always tough trying to take care of parents, when they used to take care of you. It's better when things go smoothly. I'm happy for you getting good progress on the trip!
    1420 days ago
    Well, that explains the 5k race in Arizona!

    Kudos for being a great son. And you are lucky that your brother is in the same camp. Its easy for families to have opposing views when life presents change and different paths.
    1421 days ago
    This must be such a relief for you - especially since your dad lives so far away.
    1421 days ago
    I'm glad you found a place where your dad will be well taken care of.
    1421 days ago
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