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What do you do when your mate is a 'FEEDER'?

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

A lady I hadn't spoken to before came up to me at social function and we started chatting. She had a gastric sleeve surgery done a year before and had lost 50 lbs - losing 50 is great and I am happy she feels so much better. But only losing 50 POUNDS - REALLY? emoticon After such a radical surgery such limited success is kind of depressing. Be that as it may, now that I've been diagnosed with 'entry level' type 2 diabetes, I'm being forced to consider every option for losing the weight. It's true I've never been as thin as my siblings, and always had to starve myself to fit in with my sisters at all. But HOW on EARTH did I EVER let myself get to be 100 lbs over weight? THAT, friends and neighbors, is a long story...

As a yo yo dieter since my teens, I've lost and regained hundreds of pounds over the years, but I KNOW I lost 49 lbs myself back in 1998 just by using Slim Fast and making better choices. AND I kept it off for 3 years - until I moved in with my fiancee, a fantastic chef who expresses love and caring by FEEDING the ones he loves. Now I'm not blaming him. Nobody held a gun to my head and forced me to eat all those delicious meals - but I'd never in my life had somebody pile my full sized dinner plate with food and look at me like I was nuts when I said, "Baby, this is FAR TOO MUCH FOOD. I usually eat like HALF that!" His wounded and bewildered expression was all it took for me to polish off my heaping plate. Once I got used to eating like a half-starved dock worker, it wasn't long before we escalated to, "What, don't you like it? I worked on it all afternoon!" when I refused a SECOND helping of delicious food. Now it's 15 years later and I have gained a staggering 100 pounds since we started our lives together. My darling husband still loves me and finds me attractive, but the sheer physical aspects of the extra weight are making our previously active lives a lot more limited and boring. When we first got together he couldn't even keep up with me when we'd go for a walk or a hike, now I couldn't keep up with him if my life depended on it. BUT I am determined THINGS are going to CHANGE... but how will this all work out? I don't know for sure, but I will do my best to keep my spark friends informed.
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    I should add my husband is a diabetic himself, and is trying to control his condition with diet and exercise - but that only works if you don't sneak sugar sodas and blend up huge honey laden fruit and yogurt smoothies every night before bed! Last night he ignored the low carb dessert I'd made and blended up another batch of high carb smoothies... emoticon
    1389 days ago
    I could see myself so clearly in your story, but my hubby didn't cook for me. He just expects me to eat as large a meal as he does, so I'm too over 100 lbs heavier than when we married. And I did lose 43 lbs of it back in 2003-2005 but then menopause hit and I regained every pound and then more. So now I'm struggling to get the numbers back down to something I can comfortably live with. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1395 days ago
    Your in the right place to be at SP. Part of the reason I started was because from fear of Type II. Let's keep going!!
    1396 days ago
    I guess he will just have to start cooking healthier meals, and make your plate smaller, is supposed to work, I know, I too do enjoy tasty food. the richer the better. Good Luck, but facing dIabetes, you can do this
    1396 days ago
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