Tuesday, March 25, 2014
My daughter will be turning 40 soon. All year long she has been looking forward to having a big celebration, which my family usually does for what we call milestone birthdays She is a loving and giving person and has lots of friends, who have been looking forward to celebrating with her. Over the past couple of weeks, she has been very depressed about work-related troubles, unexpected household expenses, and pressure in her post graduate program. She has not even mentioned her birthday. Her father, sister, and I were beginning to make plans and get all excited.
Of course, before we went too far into planning, I called her husband and asked him what his plans were, and how we could help. I was so shocked as he sadly told me that she didn't want anything at all, just for them to go to dinner by themselves! He was at a loss because a couple of years ago, she gave him a fabulous forthieth birthday party, and everyone had a great time. He had wanted to celebrate with all of us, but decided to just give in to her. I reluctantly said okay and hung up.
Normally, that would be the end of it for me, because I pride myself on not being a "Buttinski". I felt so bad that I couldn't let it go. A few minutes later, I called my son-in-law back, and basically told him to take her to dinner early, and bring her over to us. I told him, not to worry, he didn't need to do anything or know any details, I would take full responsibility if she objected. For as long as she had been looking forward to this, I don't think she will. Well, I'm sticking my neck out here!