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Why Animals Are Smarter Than Humans & NSV

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Monday, March 24, 2014

emoticon Disclaimer: If you are reading this, it is highly likely that you are a human. emoticon I don't mean that YOU aren't smart, you are fabulous You are a Spark Person, which I find are typically more intelligent than regular humans. emoticon So if you can understand I am trying to make lemonade out of these lemons in a silly and light hearted way, than you may proceed to the blog! Bonus points if you are an animal lover. emoticon



The back story here is going to be rather vague... this is intentional. Partly because I don't want to put so much out here on a public forum that involves other people. I don't mind sharing anything about myself with you fabulous people, but when it comes to others, I am careful about not going into too much detail. The other part of the reason is that I don't want to rehash things from years ago, and put myself in a deeper state of hurt than I am already in.

The short and fuzzy version is, I lost a friend yesterday. No no, they did not pass away, they simply chose to walk away. This person was a guy, who was my friend for 5 years, and there was a part of that time that were more than friends. To be super blunt, I really did think I heartsied him at one time. To be perfectly honest with you, I don't think I really know what emoticon is, but perception is reality, and that is what I thought I felt. He simply didn't feel the same way about me. I do believe he cared about me as a friend, at least back then. We are not friends that spend time together, only talk (type) at work, but he was still a friend. After 5 years he has decided that because of our "history" we can no longer really be friends or talk at work. He reduced our friendship to "occasional emails" which just hurt even more. I can understand why he chose to make this decision, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. I know if he was able to cast me aside after 5 years, he isn't truly a friend. It is upsetting, as he was the one person I thought would never hurt me, but hey, I'm often wrong. emoticon I also realized the person I talked to on the phone that morning... well, HE talked, and I sobbed LOL, was not the same person that I thought I emoticon'd all these years ago.

Anyways, that part was way longer than I hoped, and it didn't say much. Let's get to the animal parts. This morning when I came home, my dog Sparky instantly knew something wasn't right with me. We went through our coming home from work routine, he got to go potty, showed me his toys, I fed the guinea pigs then he got his cookie. We got into bed and I started sobbing. This poor dog was so concerned. He was sitting on me and looking at me like "what is the matter?". I am one of those people who talk to their animals, and I have no shame. emoticon I told him that mommy was sad but that I'd be okay. Then I started in on the ugly cries, you know the kind. emoticon It's uncontrollable, your nose gets filled with snot, and you are gasping for air because it is just that intense. Well this poor dog was determined to help me. I don't know if he thought he was giving me CPR to help me breathe or just showing me love, but when I would breath in and make that gasping noise, he would lick my mouth. Super gross, right? LOL. Which would make me laugh and tell him no. Whatever he was doing, he knew he was helping me and trying to get me to feel better. That is why I say that animals are smarter than humans. He comforted me in my time of need... in the mean time a fellow human was able to cast me aside as if I didn't matter anymore. It is amazing how someone can hurt somebody so deeply and seem as though they don't even care.

This is not the first time Sparky has comforted me. I am not a cry baby, I swear, but January of 2013 when I got him, the first week was touch and go. He lifted his lip at me twice, for no reason, after crawling into MY lap lol. He also snapped at Sheldon a few times but never tried to hurt him. It was a new home, his previous family had dumped him at the shelter, and he had shown bad cage behavior. Well I'd show bad cage behavior if my owner dumped me there too. Anyways, I was on the fence about keeping him, because of the behavior I had seen. When he would lift his lip, I worried he might bite me but he never did. What I realized later is he wanted to be comfortable and trusting with me, but he wasn't sure yet. That is why he would lay in my lap, and eventually lift his lip. It was his way of saying "I think I like you, but I'm not 100% sure about you yet!" Well I was crying, it was stress over a boy (GO FIGURE!! ;)) and stress over not knowing what to do about Sparky. He came on to the couch, sat next to me and gave me one single lick on the cheek, as if to say "don't cry, you'll be okay". It was that very moment I knew that this was a loving and loyal dog, that just needed time to adjust to his new home. Ever since we have been the best of friends, he never leaves my side, he protects me when we go walking, protects our house, but is so amazingly loving to those he knows. That dog has so much love to give, and I do my best to give it right back to him!

Anyways, my NSV was that in all of this, I have not turned to food! For an emotional eater from way back, that is unheard of LOL! In fact, not only have I not turned to food, I've actually not had much of an appetite. I am still taking care of myself and forcing myself to eat, but it was nice that I didn't go running to the fridge or the drive thru when I was hurting.

If you have a pet, do me a favor and give them a little extra love today. I know that you give them tons and tons of love everyday, but give them a little extra pet from me, because they are truly magnificent! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

This is my go to "stop crying song" lol. If you are sensitive to the D word, do not click on this. If you are allergic to country music don't click on it either. They pass her off as country but I don't know that I buy it. emoticon emoticon
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LORIVIOLA 7/2/2014 8:42AM

    Awww. Way to go, Sparky! emoticon
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GRAMPIAN 6/24/2014 6:11AM

  Wonderful dog! emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 3/27/2014 2:28PM

    My dad's dog was my best friend in high school. He would let me sob those big tears into his plush fur and he would wash away my tears and just be with me. I miss that dog! He never knew how special he was for those teen years!

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SIMONEKP 3/27/2014 9:25AM

    Without knowing any further details, your "friend" sounds like a jerk.

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KIM22211 3/27/2014 2:44AM

    we have recently adopted a new doggie and it really has been quite an adjustment. We were told that although she has a small bladder, she is potty trained. Well there have been more than a few accidents and I have been, lets just say quite harsh with her. Now I feel bad! Poor thing is just trying to get acclimated to us probably! I hope you are feeling better and it is easy for me to say this now but boys are not worth the tears! lol! I have shed plenty of them myself though! Just gotta look at this like Mr Prince Charming is out there and you got to get these toads out of the way! lol

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NEWTINK 3/26/2014 6:03PM

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FLMOMX2 3/26/2014 2:50PM

    emoticon I'm a firm believer that there is a special person for all of us. Be it a friend or a spouse. I'm blessed with both in one. You are such an inspiration a blessed to have Sparky in your life. emoticon

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BLUEJEAN99 3/26/2014 1:59AM

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WRITERWANNAB 3/26/2014 1:33AM

    I applaud your ability to be so open & honest with us. That frees us to be the same with you. I recently had something sort of like that happen with a male friend I used to be really close with. I am still puzzled but it really is his loss since I honestly did only want to keep on being friends. Anyway - I have had my cat Rocky for four years & this is not an aloof cat. He is a cuddler who loves participating in anything I do & is so excited when I return from anywhere. I can't imagine not having him. You take care! emoticon

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LIVELYGIRL2 3/26/2014 1:17AM

  If your lucky enought o have a dog to hug, it's better than stuffing ones face. emoticon

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JAMER123 3/26/2014 12:06AM

    emoticon emoticon to you and Sparky!! I know what you mean about the dogs sensing your emotions. I have had 2 cuddlers this week, trying to cheer me up as well. Thank you for sharing and you have it right, a true friend won't ever turn their back on you. Take care!!

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JSEATTLE 3/26/2014 12:01AM

  Sparky is adorable!

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CORNERKICK 3/25/2014 10:38PM

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CLAYARTIST 3/25/2014 9:36PM

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PROUDNM1987 3/25/2014 5:40PM

    There is no love like an animal love!! I also talk to my doggy..I tell him goodbye every morning when I leave for work and even go so far as to say..mommy loves you!! Lol! And as far as your "friend" goes..you got that right..he wasn't much of a friend to begin with!! But don't give up on us humans emoticon We are not all that bad!! Best of luck to you!!!

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CHARTHESTAR 3/25/2014 5:23PM

    I got tears in my eyes. Your Sparky sounds just wonderful.
The older I get the more i am loving dogs. They have so many wonderful qualities that far outweigh the ones I don't like so much.
Maybe someday I will get one to share my life with.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 3/25/2014 4:55PM

    steph,hugs.i canīt remember if i ever told you how much i love your dogs name,lol.not only a good walking buddy but a reminder to keep to your healthy lifestyle every time you see him or call his name.sorry about all that is going on love.speak to you on the threads.take care and keep smiling emoticon

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MIMIDOT 3/25/2014 2:48PM

    Hugs! My thoughts are with you!

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MRSRIGS1 3/25/2014 2:32PM

    I'm so sorry you are going through this hurt. He IS a big, huge jerk! Truly, he doesn't deserve your LOVE or FRIENDSHIP. One day, he'll wake up and realize what he lost. By then, I hope you don't even give him a glance. You are worth more! He broke your heart and the sweet revenge will be when someone does the same to him. I bet he won't even be as lucky as you were because he doesn't have a friend like Sparky. Whom, by the way, is absolutely gorgeous! So are you! emoticon

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SCRAPBECCA 3/25/2014 1:49PM

    Sorry for the pain and hurt you experienced. So glad Sparky was there for you! emoticon

Well done on not eating over it! emoticon

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NONNAOF2 3/25/2014 1:15PM

  When one door closes, another will open, there are so many opportunities out there! You will find another person who will make you feel special with in time. In the meanwhile, how wonderful that you have your little dog with you, they offer so much love and ask for nothing much in return! I am especially proud that through it all, you kept on track and didn't give in to food for comfort...what a wonderful ability you have. Just think of all of the positive changes you have made in your life in the past five years and things can only get better for you at this point! :-)

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LCRUMLEY81 3/25/2014 11:17AM

  Thank you for the blog

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PATRICIAANN46 3/25/2014 11:16AM

  I am a SUPER ANIMAL LOVER and most especially dogs, so I know exactly what you mean. Their unconditional love is emoticon and I have told our dogs more than I have some of my friends.
I wish you the emoticon in finding the kind of friend that you deserve (the human kind), you already have the best in dog-friendship.
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JIBBIE49 3/25/2014 9:25AM

    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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HALO1015 3/25/2014 9:23AM

  Dogs are amazing! I don't know what I would do without my wonder dog!

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NIMIRRA137 3/25/2014 8:07AM

    I'm sorry about the friend/guy trouble! Letting go of a friend is difficult.

Dogs are truly the best friend a person could ask for. My old dog (now passed away) was the best at comforting me. He was not a big barker but whenever I cried he would nudge me and lick me and bark. I always felt like he was telling me to stop crying and that it would be okay. He was my rock during some very difficult times. So I'm very glad that you have Sparky to be there for you!

Congratulations on your NSV!

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CFMOSS 3/25/2014 7:54AM

    What a huge NSV....it is way to easy to turn all of the emotion stuff back in on ourselves and EAT. Way to go...you are worth treating well. Thankful that Sparky is there to give you some good slurps. Hugs.

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SANDYCRANE 3/25/2014 7:42AM

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SHERYLP461 3/25/2014 7:33AM

    How wonderful you had Sparky to comfort you at such a time. Animals are amazing! They love us no matter what.

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PENOWOK 3/25/2014 7:03AM

    I'm so sorry your heart was broken by a male person. We all do have flesh on and will let people down. It sounds as though he could've been a bit sweeter... Anyway, lucky you to have a wonderful Sparky to lift you and that is GREAT news that you din;t go into food frenzy!

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BESSHAILE 3/25/2014 6:57AM

    I'm so sorry you were hurt by someone you had thought was a friend. I'm so very glad you had your darling Sparky to comfort you, love you, and cheer you up. I could just picture you trying to cry and laughing through your tears.

Juno would lick you too, if you were here or she were there. Callie would sniff you. (she never licks anybody) And stare at you with her big eyes. They both send you doggy love.

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WATERDIAMONDS 3/25/2014 6:19AM

    Dogs epitomize everything our best religions espouse--unconditional, unwavering love.
Sparky's simply beautiful "old" soul shines through his picture and in every kiss he's ever given you..

I am sorry you have lost someone who meant a great deal to you. I am so happy for you that you still have the love of that wonderful animal.

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TRYINGHARD54 3/25/2014 5:59AM

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REGILIEH 3/25/2014 12:57AM

    Now that you have had a good cry you can say GOOD RIDDANCE!!! You are the winner! He did you a huge favor as now you don't have to waste any more of your time on him!

Misti and Chanel got extra loving tonight and they say thank you to Sparky and they send hugs to him!

You did great! Be so proud of yourself as all of your SP friends are proud of you and in your corner!

Anne, Misti & Chanel

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DESERTDREAMERS 3/25/2014 12:27AM

    I neighborhood rescued my old chihuahua almost 2 years ago. Spartacus is one of the very short-haired ones - he's always liked to sleep under the covers on my lap. He's also always growled when I touch him, and raised a lip at me, but never tries to bite me. He'll lick my face instead. No idea what his situation was before I got him. He is a fear biter, though - turns his head away from the other pups or cats, growls, and snaps oit at them. I still trust him more than I trusted my ex-husbands and boy friends. He'd never throw my heart on the road and drive over it!

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SNOWYOGA 3/24/2014 11:29PM

    I'm really sorry emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AMARILYNH 3/24/2014 8:36PM

    I'm so sorry he is such a jerk (he has proven he doesn't deserve you as a friend), but how very special to get that unconditional love from Sparky! I loved your story about the first week you had him - that is just so heart warming!! And yes, I'm heading in to give Boudreaux an extra hug right now. Hugs, Marilyn

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LINDAK25 3/24/2014 8:24PM

    Pets are the best. They love you unconditionally. I've never figured out how someone you can really connect with just stops caring. It hurts. I really like the song. It's perfect for this. Oh, and he's not worth the calories a binge would cost!

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MRSP90X 3/24/2014 8:17PM

    Oh how sad! We live in an age of disposable people, unfortunately. Sparky is way to cute!! I got 2 dumb dogs, and one is the crazy lick monster!! Gross but I love it anyway as it lifts my spirits up.

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DEBADEAU 3/24/2014 7:29PM

    What a cute pup! Cheer up, he wasn't worth the tears. Move on and surround yourself with positive people :)

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BARBARAJ73 3/24/2014 6:24PM

    emoticon to both you & Sparky!

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BIGBROTHER323 3/24/2014 6:15PM

    Super dog! Lord, bless this sparky in ways that only you can. Remind her that she is yours and you love you, no matter what, and that you want to and are there for her....and can do more than lick her tears. LOL

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TOKIEMOON 3/24/2014 5:50PM

    My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry about your loss of a person you thought of as a friend. People can be fickle. Sounds like maybe he's got something going on with him. It hurts, but he should be the one crying, as he lost YOU.
Thank goodness for our pets! They are bearers of unconditional loyalty and love. My 2 kittens are the loves of my life!

I'm very proud of you for not turning to food for comfort. That would be the natural thing to do. That shows me that you are a strong person, and this to shall pass. In time, you may find that this jerk did you a favor. emoticon emoticon emoticon Denise

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