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An eulogy of sorts for my parents Bob and Pat Grooms

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Last week my mother died. My father had died several years ago. My parents and I had been estranged for almost twenty five years and had many a difficult times in the preceding years. The hows and whys on their part are still unanswered but I was clear on my reasons and attempted many times in different ways to resolve the conflicts but in the end, the best solution I could come up with was to stop in the cycle of anger and hurt we all participated in.

My sister and I enjoyed watching classic movies and both found "who's afraid of virgina Wolfe", "boys in the band", and "the lion in winter" reminded of us at times around our family's dinner table. My grandmother often said to us, "god gave us our relatives, Thank God ! We can choose our friends !"

That said I loved them and they loved me and that is a gift that I have found many people come to doubt about their families. They helped me become a strong, independent, caring adult. Again gifts that many don't get or use. They gave what they could, and as I have learned as an adult, you can't give what you don't have.

So I wish them peace, and will focus my memories when we were functioning as a family and the tears, and fun we had.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TENNISJIM 3/27/2014 7:38PM

    I am sorry to hear your loss and the struggles with your family. Peace be with you.

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LOUIE-LILY 3/25/2014 6:34PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost both my parents in the last few years. My father and I had unresolved issues. My mom and I had come to peace and love before the end. Either way, we are left feeling like orphans when our parents are matter our age.
I am sorry for your loss.

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AJDOVER1 3/24/2014 1:37PM

    I appreciate your strength. Thanks for posting this.
It brought me a lot of peace when I put my mixed feelings about my family behind me and began to focus on the good.

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CODEMAULER 3/24/2014 11:06AM

    I think that this is a beautiful post that remembers the best things, no matter how bad some moments became.


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FOOFIE17 3/23/2014 8:48PM

    I am sorry for you, and grateful that you posted here. It makes a big difference to those of us who remain. May you be consoled in return.

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MERRYMARY42 3/23/2014 8:13PM

    sorry for your loss, I lost my Father nearly 50 years ago, and my Mother almost 25 years ago, and I think about them very often, great memories, and it seems the bad memories fade much sooner than the good ones,

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MEOWMAMA3 3/23/2014 7:51PM

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DMEYER4 3/23/2014 7:41PM

  sorry for your loss. I lost my dad many years ago. it is true you never stop missing them

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