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Behind Clark Kent Glasses


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Friday, March 21, 2014

Life as an "in-betweener" is really a strange place to be. An "in-betweener" is someone who is between morbidly obese and goal weight. In general, "in-betweeners" and their accomplishments are typically dismissed by the world because in spite of losing a lot of weight, we still look like we just got off the couch. We don't have "the look"

I've gotten this a lot at doctors offices where they don't know me. I used to get offended when a medical professional would make comments about starting a basic exercise program or making simple changes in my diet to start losing weight without asking anything about my history.

Not any more.

Now I feel like I have a secret identity, known only to a few. A superhero behind Clark Kent glasses. On the outside I don't look like much, but on the inside....

There was a couple times I tied them up in knots with answers they were not expecting... Such as "I couldn't squeeze in my 30 min walk because I was in the middle of a 50 mile training ride...but I did keep it at or below VT1" or "I'll start in a couple days, I'm still sore from my half marathon"

I've gotten nicer though...

Now when I get such remarks I just smile... Because I know who I am even though the book has been judged by it's cover.

Sometimes office visits are quite affirming such as watching a nurse fuss with the instruments while taking my pulse because someone like me shouldn't have such a low resting heart rate.... Until I tell them about my endurance training.... and smile.

My happiness doesn't come from the externals. My happiness is the inner strength that comes from beating the odds. My obesity was very similar to credit card debt. It got to the point that it took on a life of it's own and the numbers were out of control.

I have fought and took my life back and refused to let myself be destroyed.

Today, I wear my "Clark Kent" glasses with pride.

The world does not define me because I know who I am.

I am an obesity survivor.
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TERRIJ7 7/8/2014 9:28AM

    I LOVE this!

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GRAMPIAN 6/21/2014 3:36PM

  Y emoticon ou're so right!

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NASFKAB 4/21/2014 5:56AM

  awesome blog

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JAYDEE16 4/7/2014 10:03AM

    This. Is. Flipping. Awesome. Have to admit I think they deserve the snarky responses. Might teach 'em something! :)

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AMBER461 4/6/2014 7:21PM

  Great blog, thank you for sharing.

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LOLAINSC 4/3/2014 10:46AM

    The in-betweener stage can be so difficult, when you sees how hard and long you've worked and how far you still have to go, aargh. It can be very discouraging if you don't take the time to make an attitude adjustment and learn to view every little bit of progress as a major victory. You should have seen the Happy Dance this old lady did the day I got on the scale and found I had officially moved into "overweight."
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LEANMEAN2 4/3/2014 6:33AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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AGGIEKBEAR03 4/1/2014 2:50PM

    What a cool perspective on this. I have wondered myself if I "look" like I run half marathons to other people. I have to really try to not focus on that because I know what I have done. Thank you for your reminder!

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NDKARIKARI 3/30/2014 10:46PM

    WELL SAID!

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_MOBII_ 3/28/2014 12:51PM

    I love that you blogged about this! I never thought to put it in that perspective...having a secret identity.
I haven't really had the problem with doctors because I am always quick to bring up my efforts in the beginning because I am afraid of being judged, but i have noticed that I get some looks from sales people in athletic stores when I am shopping for jogging shoes, or when I mention walking or jogging to someone.
I never thought to have a secret identity though, I usually just let a not-so-nice phrase flit across my mind while I smile sweetly at them.
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CHRISTINABEAN2 3/28/2014 12:22PM

    And this is what makes you so bad*$$...Thanks for the add!
And for inspiring me to get up again and again.

As someone that inspired me to get off the couch and do something said to me, "Move Forward", "Live Your Life", (Kara Richardson-Whitely, 2010).
She wrote the book "Fat Woman on the Mountain...How I lost half of myself and found happiness" (2010).

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SUPERDAD55 3/27/2014 11:49PM

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Thank you for sharing. Congrats on your success! You are awesome.
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REDSASSENACH 3/27/2014 9:59AM

    I went to a weight loss doc & dietician in early February, and had to fill out massive amounts of paperwork beforehand about my habits and personality. The doctor came in with my paperwork, sat down and starting in on the same kinds of comments. Those damn judgments that I've heard from other doctors, the ones that have made it so I gave up on asking for help from them for about 4 years.

Of all the assumptions that they've thrown at me, the one that bothered me the most was after we got all the data back from my testing and it showed that I have 9 extra pounds of muscle on me than I should for my frame. She dismissed it and said it's NOT because I've been lifting weights or working out, it's because of carrying around my body weight. But. BUT. I HAVE been lifting weights, and running... for YEARS. I can FEEL the muscles that I didn't have 10 years ago. At least SOME of that 9 lbs is because of my work, not all because I'm heavy. I thought that was really crappy to discount it so quickly.

But where it really made me mad before, THIS time, I'm hitting it hard. I'm doing exactly what they say. Even if she's too intense and gets up in my face and made me mad the first visit. It'll either WORK, and I'll learn something and get to where I want to be... or it WON'T work, and it'll be interesting to approach it from the "even a WEIGHT LOSS doc couldn't help me" angle. Then I'll REALLY be wondering what's up with me.

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MISSPEACHES3 3/27/2014 9:33AM

    Thanks so much for posting this.

I went to my Ortho Doc on Wednesday. He is constantly saying, 'Well, people that are over weight have this or that kind of problems.' He tries to tell me to eat less and exercise more.

Most of the time I don't say anything.

I was so proud to tell him that I had been very carefully tracking what I am eating with the Spark tracker. And I am not over eating. Ha ! In fact, I am eating way below my projected calories. I told him of the other problems I have and he was amazed.

You are so right, people judge you from a quick look and assume things.

Thanks for posting,
Blessings

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AMY_1217 3/25/2014 10:59PM

    Wow this one was a good one! And so true!!!! If only they knew us then, if only they could see how far we've come...if only, if only, if only.

If only they could keep up with us. ;)

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NHEMBERGER 3/25/2014 5:13PM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing & keep up the great work!


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JANEDOE12345 3/25/2014 5:01PM

    You are in an enviable position --that in between stage is very important in getting to the end of your battle. Great blog! You tell those doctors!

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BLONDEDOG 3/25/2014 1:16PM

    What a wonderful way to look at it!!!! Thank you so much for sharing.

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WALNUTT1961 3/25/2014 12:38PM

    Thank you for sharing. Congrats on your success! You are awesome.

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FOREVERFITCHICK 3/25/2014 12:38PM

    Obese no more, barely overweight but so accomplished! The legacy your creating is admirable. I hope you realize how many people you've inspired to be better! You are appreciated in so many ways!


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G33K10V3 3/25/2014 6:35AM

    I love this blog. I feel the same way. I started out at 385 pounds and am down to 250 now and I know that I still look like just a fat person. People don't know where I CAME from and I'm certainly not going to make it a habit of telling everyone I meet, lol.
I'm glad I'm not the only in-betweener feeling like this and I can't wait until my outsides do better match my insides! emoticon

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GHOLEPIAZ 3/24/2014 8:15PM

  i love your blog and have been given a new sense of determination to succeed. Best wishes to you!!!!!! I weigh 358 lbs was weighing 369.I have a long way to go but I will make it. Thank you for a new found inspiration.

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GHOLEPIAZ 3/24/2014 8:10PM

  Your blog is very inspiring and has given me a new b

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RUSSANDMIN1 3/24/2014 5:17PM

    well, great blog! Now I don't feel so bad :) so glad you wrote about all this.I really enjoyed reading it emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LAILATN 3/24/2014 5:03PM

    Wow. Absolutely fantastic entry. Thank you for sharing this.

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GWINNER1 3/24/2014 4:38PM

    great blog!

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IN102WIN 3/24/2014 2:17PM

    Way to go Clark!!! emoticon

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STPMOM 3/24/2014 1:19PM

    Way to go Clark kent!!! You definitely have a super hero attitude!!
thanks for sharing!

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RADIOACTIVEGN 3/24/2014 1:06PM

  you have a great, positive outlook. I hope to someday get to the point that I don't want/need the external recognition. Hopefully I can get my own "clark kent glasses" :)

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50PLUSBABY 3/24/2014 12:53PM

  "Obesity survivor' i like that. Keep on doing amazing things survivor.

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NLYR20 3/24/2014 11:16AM

  emoticon emoticon Well Said. Great approach in this journey

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MRSRHAWKINS 3/24/2014 10:38AM

    Thanks for putting words to this "phase". I am in the habit of carrying my before pic with me just to show it off, but it has always felt too attention-seeking. Glad to know I am an in-betweener and secret super hero! emoticon

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NICOLEZOE 3/24/2014 10:31AM

    Great blog!
Once after loosing 40 lbs my friend's father asked me when I was due. I was mortified! It was so hard to keep motivated because all that work and I had done and people didn't notice. I did, but they didn't! I pushed thru then and so will you! Keep up that positive attitude, sounds like your doing great!

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STEVIEBEE569 3/24/2014 8:41AM

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TIHAITIEN 3/24/2014 7:44AM

    I love it! emoticon Man, you made me rethink an experience I had on a plane recently. I had unbuckled my seat belt mid-flight when the fasten seat belt light was off and forgot about it because I never left my seat. The light came back on and soon after we were preparing to land. A flight attendant was passing by and told me that my seat belt was unfastened and did I have trouble. I didn't get a chance to answer or demonstrate that I could buckle it before she said she would be right back and then she walked away. Didn't think much of her walking away, I just fastened my seat belt and continued reading. She came back with a proud look on her face and holding up for everyone on the plane to see: A SEAT BELT EXTENDER. Needless to say I was mortified. How dare she assume I was too fat to buckle my seat belt. But thank you for reminding me that other peoples perceptions of me are their own, not mine.

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WRITERWANNAB 3/24/2014 1:18AM

    Good for you! You've done all this work & kept your sense of humor! Bravo! emoticon

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DDOORN 3/23/2014 11:39PM

    Totally with you as an "in-betweener" also...and am on a terrific roll, closing in on goal weight in the near future!

Great blog!

Don

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WITCHYALISHA 3/23/2014 10:43PM

    I totally would snark.

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SLENDERELLA61 3/23/2014 9:47PM

    Awesome blog!! You are doing great. You know who you are!! And you are blessed and a blessing to us who benefit from your words. -Marsha

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GOOSIEMOON 3/23/2014 8:56PM

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HOLLYM48 3/23/2014 7:39PM

    Wow, what an awesome blog! Nobody knows the whole story that is for sure and I have learned never to judge people because I simply don't know what they have gone thru or are going thru and I will be the first to stand up for someone that is overweight saying I don't know what their demons are or how far they have come to try to get healthy. The world would be a better place if nobody judged but tried to help each other!
Great job on beating the numbers! You are awesome!

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MIDGIEDAWN2 3/23/2014 7:04PM

    I really like the idea of Clark Kent glasses. I think I will have to use "Wonder Woman" glasses. I get looks as people assume that I never walk farther than I absolutely have must. Then I invite one of my slender friends out for a walk or to go dancing and then are huffing and puffing as I walk them into the ground. Or when I literally dance circles around them with my friend and dance partner who is also a big guy.

Thank you for sharing. You are very inspirational to me.

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CICELY360 3/23/2014 6:46PM

  good blog

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LOLAJO54 3/23/2014 6:41PM

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